iwanttolive Posted June 26, 2009 Share Posted June 26, 2009 Before we got together, the guy i'm dating had a "relationship" with this gal. Basically, both he and the gal made a pact that they would be couples until they find someone right. He said that he enjoyed their friendship but was not romantically attracted to her. They slept together before. He knew me the same time he knew her , which was at the beginning of the year. He has always been interested in me but I did not show any interest back then as I did not want any relationship. I was only attracted to him physically because he's cute. So one month ago, I was longing for a companion and I asked him out, which he eagerly responded. At the end of the date, I flirted with him and whispered to his ears "Do you want a good night kiss?" He did not answer me, he just kissed me right away. To cut the story short, he 'broke up' with that girl. He told her he found someone who means alot to him. But the girl had fallen for him and was agitated. He asked me if he could still be friends with her. I don't know why but I was kinda cool about it. Firstly, because I have not invested much feelings into him. Also, I guess it's not possible to stop him from seeing her because they take karate lesson together and they have been good friends for a while. It would only make me look like a possessive controlling jealous woman if I stop him from seeing her. Besides, how would I know that he does not see her behind my back? Anyway, he told me this morning that the girl still likes him. He told me he usually goes to her house after karate lesson to watch karate videos and she would lean close to him. Im a lil confused now. On one hand, I'm not not head over heel over him. I've only invested little feelings into him. At the same time, part of me wants him to be cold-hearted to this girl and treat her coldly. I'm an evil bitch, am I? But I feel, that would make him sympathise with her, whereas I'd fall out of his favor.. Sigh, what do I do, LS? I told myself, if I want I could do the same thing to him anytime. Link to post Share on other sites
Bejita463 Posted June 26, 2009 Share Posted June 26, 2009 I'm an evil bitch, am I? But I feel, that would make him sympathise with her, whereas I'd fall out of his favor.. I think something is missing here, based on this. Has this girl actually done anything except show she is still interested in him? If not, it boils down to trust for the guy. If so, you seem to have omitted that part of the story. Link to post Share on other sites
Author iwanttolive Posted June 26, 2009 Author Share Posted June 26, 2009 I have no idea whether she tried to be funny. My only information about her comes from him. He only said she's still interested in him. Is trust possible here? A guy and a gal together in her house and she's interested in him. But if I tell him, how am I to know he doesn't see her behind my back? And he would stop telling me in the future... Link to post Share on other sites
Bejita463 Posted June 26, 2009 Share Posted June 26, 2009 It is kind of questionable, but it also seems like he is letting you know what is going on. He didn't have to tell you she still seemed interested at all. Though, I am not a player, so I have a hard time thinking like one. I suppose it is possible he was just testing your reaction, to see how likely it is he could get away with trying to see you both at the same time. You should be able to discuss your concerns with the guy, but if you are already having trouble trusting him it might not be in the cards for you to stay with him, regardless of what he is doing. Link to post Share on other sites
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