guestess Posted November 2, 2003 Share Posted November 2, 2003 I'm sure everybody has things in their past they wish they did differently - that is, if given another chance, they'd take a different route. When this concerns little things, I find that I can tell myself - "OK, it's done, it cannot be reversed, better luck next time", and I let it go. However, with bigger things, I find that I cannot let it go no matter what I say to myself. It hangs over me like a shadow, I can feel its weight. -If it's about a relationship, it simply gets better over time, even though I still wish I acted differently. But I have faith that my personal life will work out. -If it's about engaging in activities (hobbies, sports, volunteering, etc), I simply get involved - and though I still wish I got involved in it earlier, I enjoy it now. -But if it's career-related, I find that I simply cannot let go. I'm so upset at myself for some things I did - doing the right thing was so very close and possible if only I gave it priority. I didn't do anything fatal that'd send me walking the streets, but every time I look back, I think "God, if ONLY I gave it a few more hours of thought, I could've been in a much better position now". By good position I mean both having interesting opportunities and $ advantages. It's not that I didn't have the brains to take the right route, I was simply too busy and anxious. I don't know if anybody can really help me. But I'd appreciate any comments. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted November 2, 2003 Share Posted November 2, 2003 Chalk these things up to life lessons. Learn from them and do better next time. We all have to go through these things; there's not shame to it as long as you learn from your errors. Link to post Share on other sites
guestess Posted November 2, 2003 Share Posted November 2, 2003 Moimeme, that's a good way to look at it. The problem is that being a student, you don't get a "next time". You only get each degree once. That is why I feel like I can't tell myself "Better luck next time". Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted November 2, 2003 Share Posted November 2, 2003 The degrees only matter for a while. Eventually, your work and your reputation take precedence. It may be harder to find and chase down opportunities, but there are many out there and if you make the best of the ones that come along, you will do well. Link to post Share on other sites
guestess Posted November 2, 2003 Share Posted November 2, 2003 You're so right, Moimeme. The degrees are just the beginning (hopefully!). I didn't make any fatal mistakes - they only resulted in me earning $ instead of getting scolarships, so basically I've paid for my mistakes in full (and got some experience along the way!). Same with my mistakes in relationships - I've paid in full by all the grief they brought on. This is relieving! Link to post Share on other sites
Angel Posted November 3, 2003 Share Posted November 3, 2003 Everyone makes them. Losers blame others for them. Winners blame themselves, but learn from them and don't make those same ones again. It is called being human. Let it go, there are more to come. Hope this will help. Link to post Share on other sites
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