butcher's hook Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 As I read the updates I can't help but think that you are simply not into who she really is. You just want a woman who is going to be just as exciting intellectually on a mundane date, as she is when she is liquored up. Sure when you are partying it can change a little but not as drastically as this has changed. I don't think your expectations are unreasonable and I would not classify this as an addiction to drama. Is there no middle ground? I think most of us would fall into that middle ground when it comes to what we find appealing, taking into consideration we prefer extroverted and fun people as opposed to quiet serious ones. The connection has to be there either way in terms of the fun factor. But "shoe shopping?" Alpha? What a buzz kill!! You should do an activity you both can enjoy, she is distracted by the merchandise you are focusing mostly on her since there is nothing better for you to focus on, it's bad all around. I'd give it one more go at a more neutral outing and no booze. My call is you are just not into her, you were doubting things after that one phone conversation last week. Remember I asked you why you were talking yourself out of it then? Something triggered it for you at that point. Link to post Share on other sites
JHparkes Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 As I read the updates I can't help but think that you are simply not into who she really is. You just want a woman who is going to be just as exciting intellectually on a mundane date, as she is when she is liquored up. Sure when you are partying it can change a little but not as drastically as this has changed. I don't think your expectations are unreasonable and I would not classify this as an addiction to drama. Is there no middle ground? I think most of us would fall into that middle ground when it comes to what we find appealing, taking into consideration we prefer extroverted and fun people as opposed to quiet serious ones. The connection has to be there either way in terms of the fun factor. But "shoe shopping?" Alpha? What a buzz kill!! You should do an activity you both can enjoy, she is distracted by the merchandise you are focusing mostly on her since there is nothing better for you to focus on, it's bad all around. I'd give it one more go at a more neutral outing and no booze. My call is you are just not into her, you were doubting things after that one phone conversation last week. Remember I asked you why you were talking yourself out of it then? Something triggered it for you at that point. Not everyone likes extroverted people. I myself prefer quiet people. Someone that holds a little back. I am always attracted to the guy who is not saying much out of a crowd of loud, confident guys. Each to their own kind. She is just not his kind - it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with her though. Link to post Share on other sites
butcher's hook Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 Not everyone likes extroverted people. I myself prefer quiet people. Someone that holds a little back. I am always attracted to the guy who is not saying much out of a crowd of loud, confident guys. Each to their own kind. She is just not his kind - it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with her though. That's fine. I said "taking into consideration we prefer extroverted" and it appears Alpha prefers that. And since this thread is about what Alpha prefers.... It is not about right or wrong it is about context within this discussion. Link to post Share on other sites
WineCountry Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 Hi all I have had several dates like this over the years. I have generally found that dates that seem boring on the third, and/or no alcohol is involved, generally means (as someone else mentioned) that there is a lack of "real" chemistry. I can remember the last time I was in love, we could have been washing socks and I would have been ecstacically (sp) excited to be with them or even maybe just content (like a warm content) I think when you can just be with someone, without talking much or having to be entertaining, just generally without any effort - well that's when you know you have true chemistry. And I equate chemistry to be the whole package, personality, connection, physical etc, etc. Been such a long time for myself like, so I do know how much I miss it I agree with this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted July 19, 2009 Author Share Posted July 19, 2009 ahh i think all of you people are full of **** Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 ahh i think all of you people are full of **** I think you're an idiot for going shoe shopping with someone and being surprised that the date sucked. Have you never been shoe shopping before? If anything, alcohol would have helped. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted July 19, 2009 Author Share Posted July 19, 2009 I think you're an idiot for going shoe shopping with someone and being surprised that the date sucked. Have you never been shoe shopping before? there was a lot of eye candy there for me to check out...you should have seen it. there were chicks all over they place trying on sexy shoes Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 A shoe shopping date? WTH! Did someone steal Alpha and replace him with this shoe man? Get a grip man, everyone is more wild and confident when drunk! I would say she is well embarressed by what she did on the first 2 dates and I dont blame her as she acted like a drunk hussy !! On date 4 try doing something date like and try it not ending with her drunk and asleep at the wheel of her car! Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 there was a lot of eye candy there for me to check out...you should have seen it. there were chicks all over they place trying on sexy shoes Oh please, you were bored off your tits and you know it. And don't be a jerk and check out other women when you're on a date with someone else. Dear Lord. Must I teach men of 40 and over manners? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 ahh i think all of you people are full of **** Humm.. what a nice way to talk to your supporters.. Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly Bean Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 Must I teach men of 40 and over manners? He's over 40? Lives with family? Thinks a great date involves women passing out or shopping for shoes at Nordies? I swear, I thought he was 22 reading this story. Alpha = Gamma, me thinks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted July 19, 2009 Author Share Posted July 19, 2009 Oh please, you were bored off your tits and you know it. yea i guess so... anyways i just talked with Susan and apparently she had "a great time" on Friday night. she said it was a "normal" date. so i guess we're getting together this coming Sat nite. We'll see how that goes. I'm going to have to plan something where she gets hammered but doesn't have to drive home. Maybe i'll shoot down to her crib or make dinner for her up here. If this 4th date is a dud i'm going to drop her like a hot potatoe. Link to post Share on other sites
Bayern Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 yea i guess so... anyways i just talked with Susan and apparently she had "a great time" on Friday night. she said it was a "normal" date. so i guess we're getting together this coming Sat nite. We'll see how that goes. I'm going to have to plan something where she gets hammered but doesn't have to drive home. Maybe i'll shoot down to her crib or make dinner for her up here. If this 4th date is a dud i'm going to drop her like a hot potatoe. Out of curiousity why do you eat such....ahem....convenient food.. if you can cook? Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 I don't see the chemistry between you guys, Alpha. If you liked her alot it wouldn't matter what you did as long as you were together. Getting her drunk is a sign your really not into her. I agree if things don't improve on your next date time to end it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted July 20, 2009 Author Share Posted July 20, 2009 I don't see the chemistry between you guys, Alpha. yea but there's great chemistry when we're hammered. i think shes just very shy and reserved when not drinking whereas i'm pretty much the same whether i'm drinking or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly Bean Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 yea but there's great chemistry when we're hammered. i think shes just very shy and reserved when not drinking whereas i'm pretty much the same whether i'm drinking or not. So, you're saying she's only into you when she's wasted? Charming. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted July 20, 2009 Author Share Posted July 20, 2009 So, you're saying she's only into you when she's wasted? Charming. no, she's definitely into me no matter what its just that she much more "affectionate" after she's had a few. she had a pretty rough 9 year marriage and just got divorced 2 yrs ago and hasn't dated much since then. Link to post Share on other sites
Sam Spade Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 Just buy her a monogrammed flask, so she can load up any time . Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted July 20, 2009 Author Share Posted July 20, 2009 [sarcasm]Just buy her a monogrammed flask, so she can load up any time .[/sarcasm] :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 [sarcasm]Just buy her a monogrammed flask, so she can load up any time .[/sarcasm] :lmao: I like the soapbox ones too. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 Oh Alpha.. PW'd already.. not looking good.. Dude.. shoe shopping for a date.. did you really want to go ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted July 20, 2009 Author Share Posted July 20, 2009 Dude.. shoe shopping for a date.. did you really want to go ? dude it was my idea to go shopping, she had to get some new shoes, period. i already explained everything. anyways i just had me first mcdonald angus 1/3 lb burger. it was ok. maybe i'll take her to macckie D's next weekend after i pump some MadDog 20/20 into her Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 maybe i'll take her to macckie D's next weekend after i pump some MadDog 20/20 into her ..... Okay Alpha.. Shoe shopping was your idea.. I don't know Alpha...The only girl I ever asked to go shopping with me was a friend.. a real friend.. not someone I was trying to get nekid. I read that she is into you.. are you really into her or is she just passing time ?... Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted July 20, 2009 Author Share Posted July 20, 2009 [frugality]maybe i'll start making her drink some night train or ripple so i can save some money[/frugality] Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted July 20, 2009 Author Share Posted July 20, 2009 ... are you really into her or is she just passing time ?... dude you know me, i just wanna get some action. i met some other chic-a-dee last nite at my turkish dinner meetup. Link to post Share on other sites
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