Lauriebell82 Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 My fiance and I had a conversation the other day about wedding bands (rings). My engagement ring is white gold and I plan on having a white gold wedding band as well. He claims he has freckles and fair skin, therefore yellow gold will look better on his hand. I always thought that wedding rings had to match and look similar. If they are different colors it will look like we aren't married to each other!!!! We have gone round and round with this situation and I'm not sure what to do. So my question is for all the married folk: Do your wedding rings match or do you think it is tradition that they should match? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 Lauriebell, you're creating something from nothing. Try not to sweat the small stuff or you're going to become bridezilla! My ex and I didn't have matching wedding bands. My fiance and I aren't going to have matching wedding bands. For crying out loud, let him have what he wants! Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 If they are different colors it will look like we aren't married to each other!!!! Seriously, LB? You'll KNOW you are married so why does it matter how it "looks"? Who is going to be looking whom you're afraid will think you aren't married to each other? Some men don't wear bands at all. Let him get what he wants. He has to wear it. You wouldn't let him tell you what kind of ring YOU should wear - he HAD to get you the white gold, right? So why is it so important for you to tell him what kind of ring he should wear? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 27, 2009 Author Share Posted June 27, 2009 I don't think I'm making that big of a deal over it, I don't think it's that stupid of an idea to want wedding rings to match. BUT I wouldn't want him to wear a ring that he didn't like for the rest of his life. I know I wouldn't. I just thought it would be cute, I don't know! Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 First marriage, I had a diamond wedding band and he had yellow gold. This marriage we have matching gold wedding bands. You can have his ring inscribed (I did this with H's ring) with the date of the wedding and "I love you." Maybe that will make you feel better? Just throwing that out there. But yeah, many couples don't match bands especially if the woman's is a diamond band...like an eternity band or something like that. And also, start good compromising habits now. It will serve you well later. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 Straight up, I think it's a stupid idea to go round and round about something you feel is cute. This should be a non-issue where the person who has to wear it, should be making the call. Give him what he wants and stop emasculating him. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 They definitely don't have to match. Ex's was yellow gold, mine was white. My mom's was white gold and very narrow, and my dad's was yellow and fairly wide with a beaded edge (long worn off, but there at the beginning). Matching bridal sets is a marketing gimmick. Let the man wear what feels good on his hand. And a nicer jewelry store will let him try out a ring for a few hours, to make sure it is comfortable; many men are NOT used to wearing one, and find that a narrower band is much more comfy. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 Your wedding bands don't have to match.. that is just silly... Mine is white and yellow gold and hers is platinum and diamonds.. they don't match.. mine is a simple band as I ruin jewelry and her is intricate.. Mine looks great on my hand and hers looks great on her hand.. that is what matters... Let him pick out his ring as he has to be the one who wears it..... I picked out my ring and she picked out her ring.. You don't spend 24/7 together holding hands so people can see the rings together... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 27, 2009 Author Share Posted June 27, 2009 Thanks guys. It's not a HUGE deal, I didn't go all bridezilla about it. So it sounds like it doesn't matter if they match, thats good. I'm not even sure where I got that idea from...I think someone may have told me. My future brother in law made a joke and said that I should buy us matching "his and hers" t-shirts in addition. lol Link to post Share on other sites
giotto Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 ours didn't match... Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 If people are looking that closely at your ring, you need to give them the finger. Honestly, this really should not even be an issue. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 If people are looking that closely at your ring, you need to give them the finger. Honestly, this really should not even be an issue. :lmao: Hilarious! I guess TBF needs to give everyone the finger then. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 :lmao: Hilarious! I guess TBF needs to give everyone the finger then.Nah, I just post larger close ups. Same diff! Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 My band is a platinum and diamond eternity band. WB has a plain titanium/palladiaum alloy because he is tough on jewellery, and he didn't want anything fancy or expensive. I have seen those matching sets but always thought they were a bit cheesy TBH. I don't know anyone who has them. My dad never even HAD a wedding ring. Let him pick out his ring as he has to be the one who wears it... Absolutely. LB you can't decide everything! Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 I never thought of this whole thing before. I have never met a married person and searched the room for the matching band to check out which one their spouse is. I thought that was a game for singles only! It won't look like you aren't married to eachother LB. Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetcheripie Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 My parents were married for over 40 years and their wedding bands did not match. Dad's was thick gold with little diamonds (I have it on a necklace right now) and mom's was white gold and very dainty. They had a wonderful marriage. My ex and my wedding bands matched perfectly. We did not have a wonderful marriage. As stated already - don't sweat the small stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 in the big picture of things - it doesn't matter at all. if it's that important to match - you would both be wearing: nothing - no rings both rings with diamonds both just plain and simple bands or some version of this see what i mean? the rings don't matter... and therefore don't need to exist much less match... Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 This is the kind of distracting stuff that the Cultural Collective, or the Genetic Imperitive (or whatever you want to call it) WOULD LIKE you to focus on, so that you forget to ask yourself whether you'd even enjoy spending the rest of your life with this person. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 I have never heard of someone saying or even thinking: "Oh, look. He is married, but obviously that is not his wife - the rings don't match." Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 Straight up, I think it's a stupid idea to go round and round about something you feel is cute. This should be a non-issue where the person who has to wear it, should be making the call. Give him what he wants and stop emasculating him. No kidding! Why is this something you even had to seek outside opinions on? You're going round and round about HIS ring? You're going to have much bigger fish to fry once you're married, I assure you! This is the kind of distracting stuff that the Cultural Collective, or the Genetic Imperitive (or whatever you want to call it) WOULD LIKE you to focus on, so that you forget to ask yourself whether you'd even enjoy spending the rest of your life with this person. Ain't that the truth! LB, your marriage shouldn't be "for show," so don't make it about the superficial. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 Nah, I just post larger close ups. Same diff! ahahah, i like your version of giving someone the "finger.":laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 ahahah, i like your version of giving someone the "finger.":laugh:That's why I post my ring pics, to give the members with wedgies for no reason at all, one more pull! I'm more than happy for the hostilities to cease but it appears there's certain members who enjoy their wedgies! LB, I'm glad that you decided to make it a non-issue. Your fiance will thank you for it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 28, 2009 Author Share Posted June 28, 2009 Wow, big deal over nothin. I see others post "simple questions" to ask for advice and they don't get this. It's most of the people on these boards who create stuff that isn't even there! We decided to go to the jewelry store (at some point) and see what they have. Not a huge deal. Thanks for the opinions. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 28, 2009 Share Posted June 28, 2009 Wow, big deal over nothin. I see others post "simple questions" to ask for advice and they don't get this. It's most of the people on these boards who create stuff that isn't even there! We decided to go to the jewelry store (at some point) and see what they have. Not a huge deal. Thanks for the opinions. I don't understand this. Others don't get what? What did you get, LB? You got a consensus really...looks like we all agree that it's not a big deal and shouldn't be an issue. You're right it's not a huge deal and we're saying that it shouldn't become one. Looks like it's not going to. And that's good. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 28, 2009 Share Posted June 28, 2009 In all fairness LB, you started the thread! If its that simple an issue, you shouldn't need advice on it. Just sayin'. Link to post Share on other sites
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