Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 29, 2009 Author Share Posted June 29, 2009 Yeah.. how about some stories about having sex in the dressing room or something.. hahahaha LOL, no sex in the dressing room as of yet, but on our "engagement celebration" vacation we had sex on the balcony of our hotel. Our room was so awesome, it was beach front and you could see the ocean and boardwalk. (we went to Ocean City, MD). We were on the 20 floor so we don't think anyone saw but you never know. (oh we were in a lounge chair and had a blanket on us) It was actually really exciting! Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted June 29, 2009 Share Posted June 29, 2009 I knew you was gonna be the bride to be from hell hahhaha You are so cute! Next it will be, "my fiance wants to wear boxers and I think grooms should go commando, what do we do?" lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 29, 2009 Author Share Posted June 29, 2009 I knew you was gonna be the bride to be from hell hahhaha You are so cute! Next it will be, "my fiance wants to wear boxers and I think grooms should go commando, what do we do?" lol Actually I haven't been that bad. He hasn't wanted to kill me yet so that's a good sign. My mom tends to be a bit on the pushy side but I try to keep my cool. We haven't argued over anything either, we have actually worked out a budget (for the part we are paying for) and came up with a spreadsheet and all. (he's an accountant after all) We have been able to work together and make sure both of us agree on what we spend our wedding fund on. So far, so good. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted June 29, 2009 Share Posted June 29, 2009 That is great LB ... Costing can cause huge problems I bet it will be great but I bet you have a few grey hairs before the day as you will fret so much as it gets nearer Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted June 29, 2009 Share Posted June 29, 2009 If you are a fretter, then fret away I say! Embrace the fretting BUT: the condition is that you be able to laugh at it and that you promise to enjoy your wedding day. Cheers to a fret-free wedding day. Edited to add : just make sure all that fretting doesn't mean you fail to pay attention to the good stuff! So thanks for adding in some positive things! Link to post Share on other sites
boldjack Posted June 29, 2009 Share Posted June 29, 2009 It could be worse, Lauriebell. I broke my finger Friday and had to cut my wedding band off, it hasn't been off my finger for over 20 years. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 29, 2009 Author Share Posted June 29, 2009 It could be worse, Lauriebell. I broke my finger Friday and had to cut my wedding band off, it hasn't been off my finger for over 20 years. Awww, I'm sorry, that must be so hard! My ring is getting re-sized and I haven't had it in like over a week. I'm going nuts without it, I can't imagine having to go through what you did. Link to post Share on other sites
boldjack Posted June 29, 2009 Share Posted June 29, 2009 My wife said that it didn't really matter, but when I cut it off she started crying. I told her that as soon as the swelling goes down, It will be right back on. I took it to the jewelers today to be re-formed. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 29, 2009 Share Posted June 29, 2009 Glad you're agreeing on things and talking things out, LB! Link to post Share on other sites
IfWishesWereHorses Posted June 29, 2009 Share Posted June 29, 2009 Awww come on folks! Give Laurie a break! She's just so enjoying getting married that she wants to be able to talk about it with us! I mean, we all know how important marrying this man was to Laurie. I completely second this! Wedding bands do NOT have to match! The jewelry stores would love to sell you matching sets though! Enjoy worrying over every detail, Laurie. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 29, 2009 Author Share Posted June 29, 2009 I told him that he should get any ring his little freckled finger desires. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted June 29, 2009 Share Posted June 29, 2009 I told him that he should get any ring his little freckled finger desires. LOL . That's so cute! Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 30, 2009 Share Posted June 30, 2009 Enjoy worrying over every detail, Laurie. I'm shocked that some of you are actually encouraging her to be bridezilla! I, for one, knew that "going around and around" about this subject meant a repeated debate, not an actual fight. But I still don't think that something so trivial, that he's going to be wearing hopefully for the rest of his life, warrants such a debate. I think it's a bad sign. But whatev. Fret/worry away... I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly Bean Posted June 30, 2009 Share Posted June 30, 2009 I told him that he should get any ring his little freckled finger desires. Hey, that's my phrase! lol! Glad it worked out nicely, LB. I am sure that more of these things will come up as the wedding planning continues. It's just part of the process... Link to post Share on other sites
IfWishesWereHorses Posted June 30, 2009 Share Posted June 30, 2009 I'm shocked that some of you are actually encouraging her to be bridezilla! Good grief, in no way have I encouraged her to be bridezilla. Knowing Laurie's personality from reading her posts, then we know that she thinks and overthinks most everything. (me too, when it comes to certain things) That's who she is as much as her fiance is a neat freak. The kid can't ask a simple question without people accusing her and jumping to conclusions. Star, I've seen on your threads that you don't appreciate it when people do it to you. You post about something that you are rightly a little miffed about and all of a sudden you are being portrayed as a controling B***H. Not fair.. nor is it fair to Laurie. I hope she enjoys the heck out of planning every detail, she's looked forward to this for forever. What's important to her, might not be something that is important to someone else. Doesn't matter, this is HER wedding. I think she should be able to ask advice without being second guessed. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 30, 2009 Share Posted June 30, 2009 Good grief, in no way have I encouraged her to be bridezilla. Knowing Laurie's personality from reading her posts, then we know that she thinks and overthinks most everything. Exactly. So in encouraging her to actually enjoy worrying about every single little last detail, IMO, you're actually encouraging this neurotic over-analysis and encouraging her to be a bridezilla. Even Lishy saw that part of LB's personality coming out, and she adores LB to death. Things are NOT going to be perfect. Not every detail will be perfect. She's not going to get her way about everything. She should know this, going into the entire process (wedding AND marriage), and not encouraged to freak out about the details. Star, I've seen on your threads that you don't appreciate it when people do it to you. You post about something that you are rightly a little miffed about and all of a sudden you are being portrayed as a controling B***H. Not fair.. nor is it fair to Laurie. I think there's a BIG difference between crazy women who come out of the woodwork simply to personally attack me (and subsequently get suspended, mind you, for doing so) once I post something I'm "rightly" miffed about, and having people who sincerely want to help LB by discouraging her irrational behavior. I hope she enjoys the heck out of planning every detail, she's looked forward to this for forever. Of course! I do too! What's important to her, might not be something that is important to someone else. Doesn't matter, this is HER wedding. I think she should be able to ask advice without being second guessed. What she chooses to focus on, and freak out about, and go "around and around" about with her fiance - wedding related or not! - speaks volumes to me and plenty of other people here about her readiness for marriage. If it doesn't to you, that's fine. *shrug* Link to post Share on other sites
IfWishesWereHorses Posted June 30, 2009 Share Posted June 30, 2009 I don't think that it is irrational to wonder if the rings should match. I also don't think her personality type has much to do with her readiness for marriage. There are plenty of happily married neurotics out there. How is it any skin off anyones back if she obsesses over details? How does that make her bridzilla? If one obsesses and doesn't mention it, is that still a crime. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 30, 2009 Author Share Posted June 30, 2009 Exactly. So in encouraging her to actually enjoy worrying about every single little last detail, IMO, you're actually encouraging this neurotic over-analysis and encouraging her to be a bridezilla. Even Lishy saw that part of LB's personality coming out, and she adores LB to death. Things are NOT going to be perfect. Not every detail will be perfect. She's not going to get her way about everything. She should know this, going into the entire process (wedding AND marriage), and not encouraged to freak out about the details. You have no idea whatsoever what you are talking about. I am in no way a bridezilla, quite the contrary actually. My fiance and I have been able to compromise and hire vendors, come up with a budget, ect. And of COURSE you fret about the details. Wait till you plan a wedding, you'll see. You want it to be completely perfect because it is one of the most important days in your life. I actually think it would be weird if you DIDN'T fret. Oh and I don't appreciate being called neurotic, as I am soooo far from that. I do overanalyze details (and have admitted that) mostly because of my training and career. I analyze people for a living after all. What she chooses to focus on, and freak out about, and go "around and around" about with her fiance - wedding related or not! - speaks volumes to me and plenty of other people here about her readiness for marriage. If it doesn't to you, that's fine. *shrug* It is not your place to ever decide whether or not I am ready for marriage. You are not a psychologist, even if you were you still have no place or right to do so. Seriously, you have never planned a wedding, you will see what happens when you do. Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted June 30, 2009 Share Posted June 30, 2009 Awww come on folks! Give Laurie a break! She's just so enjoying getting married that she wants to be able to talk about it with us! I mean, we all know how important marrying this man was to Laurie. Ditto this 100%. Personally, I do not think this is a silly question at all. I mean, how often do most of us get married? Usually, we discover what goes on in a wedding when we plan our own. So, asking whether rings match is a logical question. Howe else would someone find out? Truthfully, I don't remember this discussion, but I do know that my wife "helped" me pick a ring. To me it was not a big deal. I did want more than the ordinary plain gold band, but I wanted a gold ring. Her input brought me to a band with diamonds. The one I have is a gold ring with some diamonds in it. It looks like the one pictured here, but no, we did not pay that much. It was half of that. Of course that was almost twenty years ago. http://www.perfectweddingworld.com/weddingband.html The important thing is that you each should love the ring you pick and it should bring happy memories of the other person. It should NOT be a ring that you feel is forced upon you and therefore bringing up bad memories. This ring should be on your finger for the rest of your life. Enjoying how it looks and liking how it fits is much more important that if it matches your spouse's ring. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 30, 2009 Author Share Posted June 30, 2009 Ditto this 100%. Personally, I do not think this is a silly question at all. I mean, how often do most of us get married? Usually, we discover what goes on in a wedding when we plan our own. So, asking whether rings match is a logical question. Howe else would someone find out? Truthfully, I don't remember this discussion, but I do know that my wife "helped" me pick a ring. To me it was not a big deal. I did want more than the ordinary plain gold band, but I wanted a gold ring. Her input brought me to a band with diamonds. The one I have is a gold ring with some diamonds in it. It looks like the one pictured here, but no, we did not pay that much. It was half of that. Of course that was almost twenty years ago. http://www.perfectweddingworld.com/weddingband.html The important thing is that you each should love the ring you pick and it should bring happy memories of the other person. It should NOT be a ring that you feel is forced upon you and therefore bringing up bad memories. This ring should be on your finger for the rest of your life. Enjoying how it looks and liking how it fits is much more important that if it matches your spouse's ring. Wow. thats such a nice ring! My fiance said he wanted a plain gold band. I'm debating about whether or not I should get a plain one or one with jewels. I don't want it to look odd or clash with my engagement ring. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 30, 2009 Share Posted June 30, 2009 And the beat goes on in Lauriebell's threads. Lauriebelle is always portrayed as the victim. There are always persecutors in her thread. Which causes the rescuers to come to her aid. Everyone plays a role. Why? Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 30, 2009 Share Posted June 30, 2009 Wow. thats such a nice ring! My fiance said he wanted a plain gold band. I'm debating about whether or not I should get a plain one or one with jewels. I don't want it to look odd or clash with my engagement ring. The great thing about your ring is that it will pretty much go with anything, so long as it's the same metal. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 30, 2009 Author Share Posted June 30, 2009 And the beat goes on in Lauriebell's threads. Lauriebelle is always portrayed as the victim. There are always persecutors in her thread. Which causes the rescuers to come to her aid. Everyone plays a role. Why? 1.) I over emphasize my posts 2) persecutors see me as an easy target because I get defensive and am sensitive 3) sweet people stick up for me who feel I'm being treated unfairly. Repeat. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 30, 2009 Share Posted June 30, 2009 1.) I over emphasize my postsIs that all there is? 2) persecutors see me as an easy target because I get defensive and am sensitiveDo they see you as an easy target or are they responding to the defensiveness? 3) sweet people stick up for me who feel I'm being treated unfairly. Way to enable... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 30, 2009 Author Share Posted June 30, 2009 Oh rescuers, where are you??? LOL Link to post Share on other sites
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