sadintexas Posted July 6, 2009 Share Posted July 6, 2009 Should I be cancelling the credit cards that are in both our names? I didn't want to take her and the kid off my insurance or anything in haste without talking to a lawyer. Well, yeah, I called Geico for the car insurance, but took a deep breath and hung up. Yes on the credit cards, no on the car insurance. If you cancel the insurance and she has an accident, you will both be held liable for the damages. Link to post Share on other sites
sadintexas Posted July 6, 2009 Share Posted July 6, 2009 I'll poke around in a bit...but in whirlwind mode today, but does someone off the cuff know a good (free) checklist I can fill out later to have info for the lawyer? She took care of the bills, but I can try and track down all the info to have a nice list. Do I get points for her abandoning me? Should I make a note of frivolous money she spent? What about times and dates she went to Houston for her "job" ? In Texas most divorces are "no fault" which means that you split up the debts and assets evenly and go on your separate ways. Property before the marriage should be exempt from that but depending on how she is, you may have to prove you owned something prior to the marriage. Infidelity, abandonment, and all that doesn't matter unless you decide to file for divorce on those grounds (which you can do) but you will have to be able to prove these things and even then, you will most likely end up with the same split. You will most likely run up a much larger tab trying to prove it and fighting it in court. Link to post Share on other sites
sadintexas Posted July 6, 2009 Share Posted July 6, 2009 Get with a lawyer, ASAP. My first thought is to take every effort to protect your finances. Yes, separate your money and cancel all joint credit cards now. Remove her from the bank accounts/credit cards/etc...ASAP. Get her removed from the lease. As soon as that happens, ask the apartment complex to change the locks on your doors. Pretty sure they can't do that since it's in her name and they're married. He should go the route of moving into a different unit if that's available. Make as detailed a list of what she's taken from the home, and what she's left, as you possibly can. Since she's apparently taken a lot of joint property, you need to document as much as you can so that this gets accounted for in the settlements (if it gets that far). True, if she wants to keep those things. If you aren't able to keep an equal amount of property, she will owe you the value of your share. Start reading through her cell phone usage, and her credit card statements. I'm betting she's left you FOR someone...this will help you prove it. Won't matter (read my post above). Unless you really want to try to do that, which would really only be an ego thing, you're spinning your wheels. Focus on protecting your finances and getting that paperwork together. Find out if your state is a "fault" or "no fault" state when it comes to divorce. Both, but read my post above. Trying to prove inappropriate behavior at this point will serve no purpose. See a family law attorney in your county. They will give you a list of the info you need to gather. In a no fault divorce, it's fairly cut and dried. Link to post Share on other sites
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