hawaiiicandy Posted August 19, 2009 Share Posted August 19, 2009 It's great that you know what you want. You just seem like you don't know where to look because all you've seen are the party-going, not-ready-to-settle-down type. I found that most of the guys I meet are like that too. I also notice is that the more serious and mature people that know what they want and have the goals and will power to get it are busy working (i.e. people like me!). I've tried internet dating sites too.. www.seewhosnext.com is one of the newer ones. I like how you can be frank, tell them if you're attracted to them or not and move on. If you like them though, you can get connected and meet up. Have you tried meeting people thru other venues? Other than that, you have to meet people by doing things that you like to do. For example, if you are outdoorsy and athletic you should join a sports team or go on a camping trip and you'll have more chances to meet someone that likes to do the same thing.. Link to post Share on other sites
BJS Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 I'd say picky is good, shows your not just willing to sleep around Link to post Share on other sites
Soul Bear Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 NIce to know I'm not the only one Link to post Share on other sites
Maxwell Sage Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 I feel you, boss. There's many a girl whom I talk to frequently, but I'm having a terrible time while attempting to recall the last time I was really attracted to a girl I met... Jeez... It's probably been since 2006... Damn... Oh well. I completely feel your frustration with girls our age though. I've never indulged in the consumption of beer, cigarettes or coffee... AKA 100% of what fuels people in our age range... Now I'm self conscious about seeming like a Mormon... I'll find a healthy girl eventually! One who'd rather cuddle and watch the National Geographic channel than drink at a party and talk loudly! I'm just afraid of how long it might take... Hrm... Remain optimistic, brother! It's all we've got! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted September 26, 2009 Author Share Posted September 26, 2009 I feel you, boss. There's many a girl whom I talk to frequently, but I'm having a terrible time while attempting to recall the last time I was really attracted to a girl I met... Jeez... It's probably been since 2006... Damn... Oh well. I completely feel your frustration with girls our age though. I've never indulged in the consumption of beer, cigarettes or coffee... AKA 100% of what fuels people in our age range... Now I'm self conscious about seeming like a Mormon... I'll find a healthy girl eventually! One who'd rather cuddle and watch the National Geographic channel than drink at a party and talk loudly! I'm just afraid of how long it might take... Hrm... Remain optimistic, brother! It's all we've got! Well i like coffee!! I dont drink eaither and all my college buddys get pissed when i go home on the weekends...i cant stand to be around drunk people Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome Username Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 STAY PICKY. Life is long, and there are well over six billion people on this earth. If I can find websites online where people have a fetish for crushing french bread, there's a perfect non-partying girl for you out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Shygirl15 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 I do plan on waiting a while becase girls that are 20 and below..just dont appeal to me. Girls in the 23+ range do however. Very good, so what are you complaining about? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted October 13, 2009 Author Share Posted October 13, 2009 Very good, so what are you complaining about? Girls that age wont date 20 yr olds becasue they think that i am too immature. If they got to know me they would see that i am more like a 25 yr old at heart. Link to post Share on other sites
amagordos Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 Hey it is ok to be picky. Im picky too, and that is probably one of the reasons why i have never had a boyfriend. What is wrong with wanting an intelligent, funny and kind man? I don't see that when i go out. I mostly fall for guys with girlfriends because they seem like the good ones. My cousin tells me i need to find a guy to be happy, but i don't think so. She is one of the people who isn't too picky and because of that she has dated a lot of losers. So stay picky and single and just enjoy it. Someday you will meet the girl of your dreams who is everything you want, and you might have met her already but don't even know it yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Jerry18 Posted October 21, 2009 Share Posted October 21, 2009 Girls i have met in college and high school...dont appeal to me. Maybe only about 10% of them. Most of the girls in college just annoy me. They are loud, only like to drink and just seem like strait bitchs, like they are the queen. Now i am not saying all girls are like this, but most i have met are and i cant stand it and that is one reason now why i like being single so much. Am i too picky? or should i be picky becasue its my life and i want the right girl? Assuming 1/100 girls will go out with you. If your school has 2,000 girls then... 9/10*1/100*2000=18 girls! Link to post Share on other sites
seychelles Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 lol this is a very good thread. i would say that being picky is good. you wouldn't want to waste your time elsewhere if it's not going to get you anything. Link to post Share on other sites
ADF Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 There is such a thing as being too picky. Here are what I think are two good guidlines: 1) Your list of absolute deal-breakers should be small enough on to count on one hand. If it is much longer than that, chances are you have unrealistically high standards. 2) The items on your deal-breakers list have to serious--e.g. lying, cheating, abusive, etc. They can't include stupid things like she's a few inches too short or 10 lbs. too heavy. There's no settling down without some settling for. If you're waiting for "the one," forget it. The one is a lie. The one doesn't exist. No two people are perfectly compatible. Relationships work because people work on them, not because they find the perfect match. Link to post Share on other sites
Sam Spade Posted October 30, 2009 Share Posted October 30, 2009 Depends on what you mean by "seeing yourself with". If it's just about hanky-panky, your estimate is a bit on the low side. I'd say that about half of all non-fat women are attractive enough (i.e. 15% of the population). As for "ideal" relationship material - forget it - here you are really overstating the odds. Find one that's good enough looking and has a sweet attitude and call it a day . Link to post Share on other sites
Sam Spade Posted October 30, 2009 Share Posted October 30, 2009 There is such a thing as being too picky. Here are what I think are two good guidlines: 1) Your list of absolute deal-breakers should be small enough on to count on one hand. If it is much longer than that, chances are you have unrealistically high standards. 2) The items on your deal-breakers list have to serious--e.g. lying, cheating, abusive, etc. They can't include stupid things like she's a few inches too short or 10 lbs. too heavy. There's no settling down without some settling for. If you're waiting for "the one," forget it. The one is a lie. The one doesn't exist. No two people are perfectly compatible. Relationships work because people work on them, not because they find the perfect match. Heck, I'd limit the list to only 3 items: 1) pretty enough to produce attraction 2) not insane (i.e. daddy issues are understood and properly managed) 3) good-spirited/nice (i.e. generally has positive outlook on the world, not too self-centered) Apparently, this still sets the ber very, very high . Link to post Share on other sites
JolliX Posted November 1, 2009 Share Posted November 1, 2009 Like a lot of people in this thread have said, I also am picky. I don't like to go on a first date with a girl unless I can see possibly being in a relationship with her. While being picky is good, b/c you will only date those that you can truely have fun with and enjoy, it also sucks when a relationship ends. In that regards, it seems to compound the feeling of never finding anyone again b/c it took so much just to find that last person you enjoyed spending time with. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted November 2, 2009 Author Share Posted November 2, 2009 it seems to compound the feeling of never finding anyone again b/c it took so much just to find that last person you enjoyed spending time with. I have never found anyone to begin with..i am having a hard time finding the first one...finding a second one? Seems like it will never happen with me and how i view women and the whole dating thing. Could always marry my hand...at least it wont yell when i play too many video games and i know its good in the pleasure department Link to post Share on other sites
TheLoneSock Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Girls i have met in college and high school...dont appeal to me. Maybe only about 10% of them. Most of the girls in college just annoy me. They are loud, only like to drink and just seem like strait bitchs, like they are the queen. Now i am not saying all girls are like this, but most i have met are and i cant stand it and that is one reason now why i like being single so much. Am i too picky? or should i be picky becasue its my life and i want the right girl? Not really, it's likely that a higher percentage actually aren't compatible with you. And this says nothing about you, it's just odds. I mean there's a reason it takes so much time in the dating game to find the right one. %95 of women out there probably aren't in line with what you want, so that is in fact a realistic number. Link to post Share on other sites
VeveCakes Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 I have never found anyone to begin with..i am having a hard time finding the first one...finding a second one? Seems like it will never happen with me and how i view women and the whole dating thing. Could always marry my hand...at least it wont yell when i play too many video games and i know its good in the pleasure department Hang in there, it will happen! I have always been super picky about guys, and feared I would never meet anyone who I liked that had all the qualities I admired in a partner...and alas, I have found him. It has taken me a long time, but I am so so so happy I never settled for anything less. There are plenty of 25 yr old girls who will date younger guys if they are mature enough. You may be hanging out in the wrong places. Also, don't expect something in a girl if you don't have it yourself. IE...has a good job, a car, fit, great personality etc. If you don't have those yourself you won't get them in a partner most times. Link to post Share on other sites
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