Im In Love With Two Sexy Guys And I Dont Know What To Do!!!

[sexy]

Hi Im going out with a cute special guy whom loves me very much. We have been friends for now a year and a half, so we decided to be a little more than friends. Now we are going out.

 

We are now together a month so far. A long time ago I made good friends with this one cute guy and he phoned me and asked if I want to come and watch a dvd at his house with two other friend and their girlfriends. I asked my boyfriend first and he said its fine with him, cause I always speak to him first, thats how it works in our relathinship.

 

So I went to the other guy's house that night and nothing happened between us. The next day he came to my house and visited for a while. We started to like each other alot and the next day he came again and we only chatted again but couldnt stop looking at each other, we also started sending each other more romantic "sms's and so it went through the whole night.

 

Now Im so in love with him and his in love with me but we cant do anything, cant touch each other cause he respects that i have a boyfriend and I dont want to cheat on my boyfriend cause im also in love with him. Im in love with two sexy guys and I dont know what to say or to do. My boyfriend doesnt know about anything and i think it should stay that way for now.

 

This other guy, I want him so badly and he wants me, we dont want to chat anymore if you now what i mean, we want to cuddle and kiss. If you have any advice please tell me, your welcome to tell your love story as well.

[DVNPRT6]

First of all, u can't be IN love with two guys at the same time...It sounds like to me, you dont really 'love' the guy your with, because if u did, u would wanna be with him and only him, plus the fact your hiding your real feelings from him about this other guy...Be true to yourself, dont have your cake and eat it to..that what my X did to me and it caused me alot of pain..Your gonna end up hurting the true guy u really wanna be with..Maybe you should take a break from the guy your seeing and see this other guy, see where you stand with him, see where u stand with yourself...Dont get caught up in B**l**** that is gonna make YOUR life even harder.. Good luck to you

[sexy]

Originally posted by DVNPRT6

First of all, u can't be IN love with two guys at the same time...It sounds like to me, you dont really 'love' the guy your with, because if u did, u would wanna be with him and only him, plus the fact your hiding your real feelings from him about this other guy...Be true to yourself, dont have your cake and eat it to..that what my X did to me and it caused me alot of pain..Your gonna end up hurting the true guy u really wanna be with..Maybe you should take a break from the guy your seeing and see this other guy, see where you stand with him, see where u stand with yourself...Dont get caught up in B**l**** that is gonna make YOUR life even harder.. Good luck to you

 

Hi there u ! Thanx for your advice, your right i should first see where I stand with this other guy. But im so deaply in love with him and I'f got feelings for my boyfriend. Sometimes I dont know anymore I'f been so hurt many times in the past, I had a guy whom I loved with all my heart and I will always love him no matter what, Im trying to move on now with my life and with my new boyfriend but now there is this guy and im in love with him, I wish I new why I feel so much for him than my boyfriend. But thanx for your advice once again. Tell me your story, what happened with this guy you went out with and broke your heart. Do tell!!!!!!!!

[shoregirl108]

Originally posted by sexy

im so deaply in love with him and I'f got feelings for my boyfriend.

 

 

Speaking from experience....I had a boyfriend whom I loved dearly....but there was also someone else that I had a "relationship" with. We connected on sooo many levels of emotion, physical attraction and just being able to communicate in ways that others wouldn't understand. That didn't stop me from loving my bfriend....BUT....that didn't mean that i was in love with the other guy. I had lustful feelings for him, and wanted to know exactly what he was like in bed....and taunted and teased him until we did fool around......Did i feel guilty - NO....but I knew that this "new" relationship wasn't going to go anywhere. and to this day (5 years later).....we are still very good friends....I can tell him anything. He is also married and has a 6 month old baby.

 

Love comes in many fashions and levels. What you're feeling (i think) is the excitement of the unknown with this guy. you are in a comfortable zone with your current b-friend - and there's nothing wrong with that. Just don't take chances unless you're willing to accept the consequences. Think this through carefully - you will eventually be playing with 3 emotions...yours - the new guy - and your bf.

 

Good luck.

[NotAnActorOrStar]

Hi, this situation is very similar to what I'm in right now.

Only I'm the boyfriend. Me and my Gfriend have been going out for over 2 years now.

Just about 3 weeks ago we had a scuff and she wanted a break, but I ddin't want one. We didn't talk for about a week or 2. There was no real closure, because I didn't want to breakup. Now She's seeing another guy and I found out. I know now that Ididn't give her snough attention the last two months but life is full of problems and I have my share. I love here more than anything else and want her back, I can't eat, sleep, or think straight.

Now I also found out that she got pregnat by this new guy and is having an abortion on friday. It just seems so unreal.

 

There is a twist however.

When I started dating her, I was the new guy too...

She had a current Bfriend and left him for me. But it took a long time to get her though. I didn't give up on her then because I belived and still do that she's the one. Now I'm the recieving end.

But I don't want to make the same mistakes her ex did. I won't let her go.

I want her back and not being with her for just 1 month made me realize how much I love and need her.

I do belive she still loves me but hides it. I don't want to give up and won't. For the girls in her position,

WHAT can I do? What should I do? Is there anything I can say or do? What do you want your Bfriends to do?

Please help me....

[sexy]

Originally posted by NotAnActorOrStar

Hi, this situation is very similar to what I'm in right now.

Only I'm the boyfriend. Me and my Gfriend have been going out for over 2 years now.

Just about 3 weeks ago we had a scuff and she wanted a break, but I ddin't want one. We didn't talk for about a week or 2. There was no real closure, because I didn't want to breakup. Now She's seeing another guy and I found out. I know now that Ididn't give her snough attention the last two months but life is full of problems and I have my share. I love here more than anything else and want her back, I can't eat, sleep, or think straight.

Now I also found out that she got pregnat by this new guy and is having an abortion on friday. It just seems so unreal.

 

There is a twist however.

When I started dating her, I was the new guy too...

She had a current Bfriend and left him for me. But it took a long time to get her though. I didn't give up on her then because I belived and still do that she's the one. Now I'm the recieving

 

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Hi there you!!!!!1

 

Im glad you replied to my add. Yes we have the same problem exept your the new guy in your story and im the girl whos in love with my new guy in my story.

 

Well Im going to leave my boyfriend now for this new guy cause i am crazy in love with him and his crazy in love with me, the problem is how to tell my boyfriend. Cause in a way yes i'f still got feelings for him but not as much as the new guy.

 

I think you should talk to her I know it sounds easy but its sometimes the only way..But does she love you as much as you love her? Thats the question you have to ask your self and will it work again. Will you give her anough attention this time if it works. But remember life moves one even if you think you cant go on without her thats okay cause every person feels that way after losing someone they really loved. I left may ex boyfriend whom I loved so much but things got in a way out of hand and I couldnt stand it anymore. I still miss him thou and I will always love him no matter what but he moved on, and so did I even if I thought I couldnt just like you do now. To be onest it took a almost two months to get over him. But i did and now im smiling again and enjoying life. Try to understand things cant always be the way you want it to be no matter how hard we sometimes try.

 

Take my advice talk to her, you'll see it straight in her eyes if she still has feelings for you or not, you sound like a smart guy so you'll know what i mean.Good luck and tell me what you think i should do cause sometimes my advice works on others and in the meantime I cant help myself.

 

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Hope to hear from you soon again.!!!!!

But I don't want to make the same mistakes her ex did. I won't let her go.

I want her back and not being with her for just 1 month made me realize how much I love and need her.

I do belive she still loves me but hides it. I don't want to give up and won't. For the girls in her position,

WHAT can I do? What should I do? Is there anything I can say or do? What do you want your Bfriends to do?

Please help me....

[NotAnActorOrStar]

Thanks for your reply...

 

Yes it is a difficult decision to make, and we always want the right one.

 

I hope you make the right choice and have a better life in all by choosing the new guy.

 

But don't throw away somthing just because it's not perfect, cause you just might throw away somthing that just might or did work really well. What I discoverd is that in all my relationships is that I; or we, forgot what we had in the beginning. And it's in the beginning that drew us together. I need to recapture that first spark of love I had cause that's what my Gfriend fell in love with. So I'm not gonna give up on her, I will give her the attention I did before and more. I hope I can win her heart back 110%.

 

I'm not sure how you would feel or react if your ex showed you what you 2 had in the start again, but that's up to him to find and do for you. I know I have, and I'll give it my all.

 

Thank you again and good luck to you.

 

I'll try to keep you updated...

[befuddled1]

I'm guessing you're really young because it doesn't sound like you have any concept of what real love, or really loving someone, is.

[befuddled1]

How the heck could you want to still be with, and have respect for, a girl who wants to take a "break" from you, ends up with another guy, ends up being irresponsible enough that she gets pregnant, then selfishly decides to murder her unborn child via abortion? She sounds like a skank.