flsgirl Posted November 3, 2003 Share Posted November 3, 2003 So to make a VERY long story short...My b/f and I broke up 4 months ago. He moved back home north and I stayed where we moved together. I haven't heard from him except once for a birthday e-card and that's it. I sent him a e-card for his birthday and never heard anything back, so I figured that was it, he was gone forever. Well, out of the blue he called to wish me a Happy Halloween. I didn't answer the phone b/c I wasn't prepared for it. It was a nice message, saying to give him a call if I wanted. I haven't called him back and I'm not sure if I should. Of course I want to, to be nice and say hello; I'm also curious as to what he's got to say. I wouldn't mention anything about the relationship at all. I'm not sure if I should just ignore the call or call him back. I'm VERY tempted to. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Dreamgirl03 Posted November 3, 2003 Share Posted November 3, 2003 I would go ahead and call him back. I went through the same thing..my ex fiancee and i broke up in april...we didnt talk for 2 months then out of the blue he called me to see how i was doing with my life and all that. So..ya never know.. Link to post Share on other sites
DonTomaso Posted November 3, 2003 Share Posted November 3, 2003 Sure... do it as long as it makes you feel good. I'm sure it will make him happy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author flsgirl Posted November 5, 2003 Author Share Posted November 5, 2003 So I get home from work yesterday and see that were four missed calls on my cell phone. They were all from "him." I thought something was wrong, so I called him back. Nothing was wrong, he just wanted to talk to me and asked me why I was ignoring him. The conversation lasted about 45 min and we talked about general crap and then he brought up the whole break up thing. I just said what's done is done. He said he still thinks about me and wonders if he did the right thing. He asked if we could still be friends and I said I don't know - it doesn't help me get over him any faster. I'm just afraid I'll have a false sense of hope. I do want him in my life because he was a huge part of it, I just don't know where. I ended the conversation because I had to be somewhere. He said to call him back to continue our talk. I did later, but got his voicemail. What the hell is up with this? Link to post Share on other sites
Bill Posted November 5, 2003 Share Posted November 5, 2003 He is probably reconsidering his decision, but is realizing that you will not get back together. Link to post Share on other sites
DonTomaso Posted November 5, 2003 Share Posted November 5, 2003 Hi there... Well... I can give you some male perspecitve. I went through the same thing with my ex girlfriend. When we broke up, it was on the premise that we would be friends. However, I always seemed to be the one that initiated the phone calls. When she did not return my calls, I felt like she was "holding it over my head that I really wanted to be friends with her." I would sort of freak out when she did not call me back and call a bunch of times. I truly did want to be friends with my ex. I don't know what your ex's intentions are, but from what you wrote, it sounds like he wants to be on solid ground with you. No game playing, just true friends. If you can't be his friend for whatever reason, I would tell him so and tell him the reason why. Don't blame it on him if it's you that can't be friends. If your ex is still saying that he doesn't know if he made the right decision to break-up, in the back of his mind he might want you back, but I wouldn't let this be the reason to be his friend. If you do accept his offer of friendship, you have to be very honest with him and vice versa. You have to ask him about his love lfe and be prepared to tell him about yours. Communication and honesty is what it's all about. Hopefully this helps... Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted November 7, 2003 Share Posted November 7, 2003 Sure, why not. Talk to him, let him know how you are doing. No harm in that. Link to post Share on other sites
kurty Posted November 8, 2003 Share Posted November 8, 2003 friendship? i myself find it hard or impossible to become friends, however i really envy those who broke up and be together again. things could be much easier if i don't take things too hard and contented in just being friends Link to post Share on other sites
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