ratingsguy Posted July 2, 2009 Share Posted July 2, 2009 Hi everyone, So my girl is moving from Boston to Philly to be closer to me. She doesn't know anyone here, so she is moving here just to be with me. She has a job lined up and place to live. We've been together for 4 months now, and the reason she's moving here so soon is because her work contract in Boston is expiring soon. It was entirely her decision... I had said I would be happy with whatever she decided - she's from Texas and thought about moving back there... or staying in Boston. But ultimately she decided that she wanted to come here. Everything has been going great. Lately though, I'm noticing that her patience is getting short and she's getting upset more easily. We're not getting into any arguments or anything, but little things are starting to irritate her. One of the things that she's been saying a lot when she's upset is "I don't know if we're going to make it". Despite that, she does say that she loves me and I believe her when she says that. I know she worries a lot and her friends have said as much, but I guess I'm just a tad concerned. I know she has a lot of "what ifs" in her head surrounding the move, but I'm trying to convince her that everything is going to work out great. She said that she doesn't feel excited about this move like previous moves but she is looking forward to being closer to me. She has conceded that the stress surrounding the move may be making her a little on edge and I believe it. I guess I just hope it ends there and that once she's here she'll be a little bit more relaxed. Thoughts? Should I be doing anything other than being supportive of her and understanding of her feelings? Link to post Share on other sites
mammax3 Posted July 4, 2009 Share Posted July 4, 2009 It sounds like you're being very supportive, and I'm sure it will work out great. Realistically, although it sounds negative, what will happen if it's not great? How will you work through it? Having a plan of attack for when things stumble can be very reassuring - sometimes more reassuring than being told things will be fine. Whether it is a communication plan, or taking space from each other, or introducing her to other hobbies to meet her own friends... where ever her concerns stem from, ideas can be thought up on how to address the concerns. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ratingsguy Posted July 4, 2009 Author Share Posted July 4, 2009 Thanks for the response. In recent days as we are getting closer to the move she's starting to think positively again. She's even apologized for being overly sensitive and has attributed it to stress... which I think is understandable. I've suggested that once she's here that she join a club or get a part-time job, which will help her make some friends, and she wants to. However, she is kind of shy... although she denies it. She moved to Boston from Texas not knowing anyone up there either, and in a year's time she only made a couple of friends... if that. So I'm hoping that God forbid if things don't work out, she'll have some people in this area she can rely on. Instead of telling her "meet some people in case things don't work out", I'm telling her "meet some people". The only gray area is her dog. Where she's going to live doesn't allow pets, so I'm going to be adopting him for the meantime. So again, God forbid if something should happen, I'm not sure what we'll do about that. But she's starting to get excited about the move. She's already seen a lot that Philadelphia has to offer... the best of which is me! Link to post Share on other sites
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