What should i really do

[drivesmecrazy3]

This girl and me have been talking for awhile, and I grew to like her a lot. It came to the point where she one day said that she did not feel a connection with me anymore, and that we should just remain friends. I agreed to this, and she told me to talk to other girls.

 

So, as time went on, she told me that she had hungout with other guys alone, so I told her I hungout with other girls alone. One girl that i was talking to, left me post after post on my facebook saying cute things. One night, out of the blue, the girl who i remained friends with posted on my my wall completely mocking what the other girl had said. Obviously she was jealous.

 

The next day, she told me that even though she wants me to talk to other girls, that she is too jealous of a person, and thought that we shouldnt talk anymore. She then said that she now felt that if I hadent been talking to anyone, that she wouldnt want to anymore, that i would show her that i cared. Hearing this, i told her that i wasnt serious with that other girl, and i in fact didnt really like her like that. FUNNY thing is, after i said this, she turned back to saying that she wants to talk to other people. LOL.

 

This greatly upset me, because it was like a trick. I then texted her saying that I felt wierd about everything now, and that we should take a break from talking. I told her that ive known her for along time, and that i really cared about her, but that I didnt know if talking to her anymore was helping either me or her.

 

She answered back and said she understanded. And then i put my phone on silent to resist temptation. That night i checked my phone, she texted me 6 times, SIX. Right after texting me saying she understood, the text after said "do you wanna see me?" and then a whole bunch of others like are you there? okay i get the hint after not answering for 5 hours? you said you liked talking to me so why are you sending mixed messages? etc.

 

Ive known her for about a year, she has told me that she thinks im more than amazing, that im always there for her when shes sad, and that she feels so comfortable with me/trusts me so much, but that she never usually goes for guys like me so "she doesnt know if she likes me or not" she has said to me "ill let you know what i find out, i promise you that/"

 

I really like this girl, but i feel that she KNOWS that i like her alot, and because of this she doesnt want to get serious because she thinks ill always be around, and that she can look elsewhere at the same time. She invited me to hangout with her the other night and we were very physical, we didnt have sex, but it was VERY physical.

 

How do you think she feels? and what should i do?

[Ronni_W]

If you want to possibly, maybe, hopefully have a romantic thing with her in the future, STOP acting like you are her best buddy -- we (women) sooo value our emotional connections that we will NOT screw that up by trying to get romantic with a really good male friend. Right now, you're totally playing into that whole "friend zone" thing.

 

If, on the other hand, you are going to be satisfied for the rest of your life being her good buddy, then keep acting exactly as you have been doing. But STOP thinking about her in terms of anything more than that.

 

You have a choice to make, and the power to make it. So far, you've been choosing to be too available to fill her emotional needs -- and physical if/when she dictates...and not thinking about your own needs and wants.

 

Stop yourself from becoming a doormat, and don't let her use you for your body...or your heart...or your mind. It sounds as if that's what you've been doing, unfortunately. Get tough and take a stand for your own self-esteem, self-confidence and self-respect.