Butterfly1 Posted November 4, 2003 Share Posted November 4, 2003 I wrote a post the other day titled "how could he change so much". In summary, its about a guy I had been dating for awhile that broke up with me about 2 1/2 weeks ago when he told me he was confused, not ready to be in a relationship with anyone and his ex girlfriend whom he broke up with before me (and lives on his floor) has been contacting him....I also had to move away for 7 months to finish grad school. Anyway, on Saturday we were suppose to have lunch when I was back in town and he stood me up, then lied about forgetting, then said we were never in a relationship, and then hung up on me when I started crying. (this is really a summary, read the post if you want to) Anyway, today he sends me an email apologizing for his behavior the other day saying it was uncalled for and wrong and that he doesn't blame me if I never want to talk to him again. He said that he didn't have a good reason for why he behaved like that - he said he thought he would feel more comfortable meeting me and he is "still sorting out exgirlfriend stuff". He said he didn't like the person he had become and the behavior it has elicited. He said for that reason we probably should not talk for awhile (or ever if I prefer) He said he honestly felt terrible and embarrassed for his actions but does not want to put us in that position again. Yes, I know I have to move on regardless but his email just left me with more questions. At least before I could move on and just chalk him up to being some jerk and now I can't help but feel sorry for him that he could act so irrationally and mean. I don't understand why he would not feel comfortable seeing me. I mean he broke up with me? Shouldn't I be the one who might not be ready to see him? And the stuff about the ex girlfriend -- WHY is he still sorting it all out. He was breaking up with her for SIX months before I met him and he sounded pretty convinced on why they had to move on when I met him. I knew she was against the break up and I am sure she is trying to reconcile (especially now that I am a few states away) I know it should not matter to me but it does. I am not even sure if I should write him back. I really thought I was in love with him and for a time up until a couple of weeks before I had to leave, I thought he was in love with me as well. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted November 4, 2003 Share Posted November 4, 2003 A lot of people are confused. He sounds like one of them. Doesn't really know what he wants or how to get or keep it. He does need to sort himself out. You could try waiting for him, but it may take him a long time. Link to post Share on other sites
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