Totally Addicted to a Cheater

[megluvstahoe]

~ This is my very first thread/ blog thing, but I wasn't sure where else to turn! My friends and family are tired of me talking about this.

The 411 (info)~ Me and my so called boyfriend are in limbo right now. He's 39 about to be 40 & I'm 25! Yeah kinda crazy, but he doesn't look his age at all.

~ I found out through out our 3 1/2 years together he's cheated on me with 4 other women **THAT I KNOW OF** Each time he’s never comes clean about them- I always have to find out or catch his so to speak. The last one I know of- was 2 weeks ago< The other women called me saying “He Loves me and she wants him to hate her so she can get away from him?!"> I guess they were together for almost a year!! Ya, I was totally angry~ How could he do this again! I Give this man what ever he wants <Sex all the time, Money, Time, Etc.> (Not a very good thing, because it’s not a challenge for him then). He’s very Jealous & always says I must be cheating!

**In Fact his excuse for cheating every time has been~ I thought you were F***ing around on me or you stopped doing some of the things you used to do??

~ Just like someone said on another thread (He had no punishment for his actions~ What the Heck did I expect~ I just showed him he’s able to walk all over me and I’ll take it!)

~ But he's my little dilemma ~ He's so Hot and our Sex- totally off the chain Yes I was with him this weekend~ Like a dumb Ass & I have no one to blame but myself. I told myslef I was not going to see him anymore (What Happened?)

~ I totally Love him and it's so hard to stay away and I REALLY Believe he’s in love with me (the trust is totally gone)~!

~ I am just looking for a little honesty & respect her~ Is that too much to ask?

~ I feel kind of stupid writing this, because I already know what my answer is (I can't get what I want from this so called man)!

~ I honestly feel like were totally addicted to each other~!

And if one of my girlfriends came up to me with this so called Problem~ I would tell her he's freaking CRAZY & Stay away from him!

P.S. He even put a tattoo of my name on his chest over his Heart!

Sorry everyone I am totally hurt & I hope I’m making some sense.

~ I can’t believe how many cheaters are really out there........

[Peanut9330]

I dont know much about your relationship with this man but based on what you told me its not fair for you to put all this time and energy into this relationship. You make a big effort to make him happy and all he's doing is cheating on you. Maybe you can forigve someone for cheating if it happend once but in your case its still happening. Your very young the best thing for you to do in this case is break of contact with this guy completly no seeing each other texting, phone calls or email..... Go and see what else is out there for you i'm sure u can meet someone who will care and have more respect for you.. How much longer can you go on this way all your doing is hurting yourself and by sticking around your showing him that he can get away with it, He might be able to change if he realized what he had but its doubtful.... bottom line is if he really loved you he would not be cheating on you all the time.

[megluvstahoe]

Peanut9330~ I really appricate you taking time out to answer my thread (YOU GAVE ME SOME HOPE). The Funny thing is I know it will never work, but I keep trying (I guess remembering all the good times)

~About the Texting/ Phone thing~ I've tried to just not answer the phone, but he'll end up doing the stauker thing ~ Where he calls my cell phone 20 times, my work 20 times, my House.... And I can't change my work #!

**Maybe I can get an order of Protection!

~ When I try breaking it off, he will say I know how Good you treated me and I could only imagine how you'll treat the next guy!! (Yeah he has gotten kind of Crazy!)

[megluvstahoe]

Just an Update he has Called my Work phone 5 times (within 2min.) and my cell a bunch of times!

~ I STILL HAVEN'T ANSWERED~ I'M DONE!

[girl68]

He's 40 and still doesn't know how to handle a long term, committed relationship- that wasn't a red flag for ya?

 

And no, he doesn't love you- not in the least.

[Dexter Morgan]

man, cheaters got their sh#t together!!

 

I think I'm gonna take a chapter from their playbook and start being one of those bad boy cheatas!!

[Peanut9330]

Your treating him really good and you really care about him and all he's doing is hurting you. You deserve better someone who will respect you and truly care about you not someone who cheats on you and has no respect for your feelings. Please try to be strong enough to get away from him he's not worth your time all your doing is hurting yourself and it seems like he dosent care if he did then he would commit to you and only you.

[Brady_to_Moss]

You have to cut ties. There are people in this world that will bring you down like this guy and you NEED to get away from them. Your a young women with your whole life ahead of you and you dont need him what so ever in your life. I really hope you do the right thing here

[D-Lish]

It's obvious you have your own issues. I don't sense you have a lot of respect for yourself. He's cheated four times, and that isn't enough for you to say "no, this isn't okay?"

[megluvstahoe]

D-Lish~

Of course I have my own Issues otherwise I would of let him go along time ago, but since I lack Self-Confidence it's hard to completely Break Away~

I was with a guy for almost 7 years who completely treated me like **** (not in the beginning, but towards the end)~ He would Call me names & Say no one would ever want to be with someone like you! He even told me later he would take me out to dinner every night so I would get fat so no one would want me & I'd be stuck with him! YEAH PRETTY SICK~

~ And Seriously, I read blogs about people not being able to break away from there cheating EX and I think what the heck is wrong with this people~ JUST LEAVE ALREADY~ Then I get in this situation and I see how hard it is!!!!

** The reason for writing this is, because deep down I know I can do better and I know I'm a beautiful young women with a hell of a lot going for me (I JUST NEED A LITTLE PUSH)

** Which honestly you guys have given me~ THANK YOU~ I just need to hold on & be strong!!

[megluvstahoe]

Your treating him really good and you really care about him and all he's doing is hurting you. You deserve better someone who will respect you and truly care about you not someone who cheats on you and has no respect for your feelings. Please try to be strong enough to get away from him he's not worth your time all your doing is hurting yourself and it seems like he dosent care if he did then he would commit to you and only you.

Peanut9330~

Thank you again ~ He's called me.....I don't know something like 40 some times on my work phone and 20+ times on my cell~ and I didn't answer! He can't call my house~ MY Father will freak (my dad is VERY Racist & my guy is Black)! I actually sent him a text message that said "When you'd like to be an Adult about this, then we can talk"!

~ I called him about 3 hours later, when he finally stopped calling and I said as calmly as I could "If you love me as much as you say you love me, then you'll leave me alone!" He started screaming (I was very calm) and saying "I thought we got over this ****" (because I was with him this weekend) and I said "No, I just can't forgive you this time~ It's too late!"~ Obviously there was a lot more screaming and I told him if he can't be adult about this I was getting off the phone! I just know his last words were I'M NOT LETTING YOU GO! ~ NO ONE ELSE IS GONNA HAVE YOU!

And if your wondering, Yes I'm kinda Scared, because he is an Ex Gang Member and Crazy as all Hell!

By the way I was with him, because he had changed his ways, became religious, & stopped all of that stuff! I don't even think a restraining order will help me~