tredulce Posted November 4, 2003 Share Posted November 4, 2003 I'll try to make this short...I'm sure ya'll get tired of long lost love stories:) I don't have a story of lost love, but recovering love. My boyfriend and I had dated for over a year and I broke up with him because he had hurt me and I couldn't recover without time and space. After breaking up with him I started seeing this other guy who seemed great but turned into a real creep after a few "dates" (dates in his language meant talking for 5 minutes and then making out for 2 hours). I didn't do anything very physical with this guy, I never did anything to him at all, and we never had sex. We basically just made out, and I was naked one time, but not for very long. He's an attractive guy but I usually don't move that fast and so most of it was kind of pushed....it's not like I was just all over him. I called it quits as soon as he got creepy. My boyfriend was crushed when I dumped him, I must mention. We've never had any issues, besides the one that had hurt me, and after breaking up with him I felt like he had worked through it. So, I got back together with him. We've never been happier, and I feel like he's worked through his issue and things are much better. The problem I have is, he was going NUTS that I was seeing this other guy! He doesn't know that I did anything with the other guy. I think it would drive him insane if he knew, and he hasn't *really* asked. I can see having a definite future beyond college with my boyfriend, and I don't know if I should be honest about the other guy i saw during our break and just tell him all so it's off my chest...or if I should keep it under my hat. He doesn't even know I kissed him. I think that thought would just drive him nuts. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted November 4, 2003 Share Posted November 4, 2003 Don't tell him. You have no reason to. You weren't together, you weren't on a break, you were officially broken up. Like you said, it'll just make him worse if he knew you made out with him. Don't even bother, honey. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tredulce Posted November 4, 2003 Author Share Posted November 4, 2003 Break... It was kind of like a break instead of a break-up in that I broke up with him but we decided to make it a break so the door would be open--but seeing other people was part of the break deal. Does that count as ok? Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted November 4, 2003 Share Posted November 4, 2003 Hmm... Well.....if it was part of the deal, don't feel bad about it. But don't tell him. How would you feel if he told you he made out with a chick? Link to post Share on other sites
Author tredulce Posted November 4, 2003 Author Share Posted November 4, 2003 I'd feel bad, because I've always loved him-together or not--and no one wants to know someone they love did that. But, as long as he didn't have sex with her or perform acts on her, I wouldn't be hurt beyond repair. I don't feel like I need to tell him, I don't feel guilty because I didn't care about the guy adn it didn't go anywhere. BUt, I don't know if it's status quo to tell that sort of stuff or what...so, thank you Kevin! Link to post Share on other sites
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