taylor Posted July 14, 2009 Share Posted July 14, 2009 I was in a relationship with a jerk some years ago, who told me if I loved him, I would sleep with another woman and let him watch. I never did it. He could kiss my )( I don't understand how a heterosexual man could expect a heterosexual woman to commit a homosexual act for his pleasure.... Just as I don't understand how a heterosexual woman could expect a heterosexual man to commit a homosexual act for her pleasure... unless of course both were bisexual. Link to post Share on other sites
confusedinkansas Posted July 14, 2009 Share Posted July 14, 2009 I think he is tired of the double standard of behavior. If that is the case he needs to address those things without bringing up the threesome. Did I miss something in this post? What double standard? Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted July 14, 2009 Share Posted July 14, 2009 Did I miss something in this post? What double standard? he indicated earlier if he lied to her she would hold it over his head forever. If the situation was reversed he is expected to give instant forgiveness. It also seems like she hold him to a high standard and than uses his short comings against him in an arguement. ie. the fabric softener issue. I think that is more the problem than the threesome issue. BEcause to be very upset over not getting a threesome is somewhat silly esp in a marriage. Threesomes can be fun but only in non serious relationships. In long term relationships often it ruins the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
confusedinkansas Posted July 14, 2009 Share Posted July 14, 2009 he indicated earlier if he lied to her she would hold it over his head forever. If the situation was reversed he is expected to give instant forgiveness. It also seems like she hold him to a high standard and than uses his short comings against him in an arguement. ie. the fabric softener issue. I think that is more the problem than the threesome issue. BEcause to be very upset over not getting a threesome is somewhat silly esp in a marriage. Threesomes can be fun but only in non serious relationships. In long term relationships often it ruins the relationship. Oh - so IF he were to lie to her. He's not saying that he did & got caught & she IS holding it over his head. He is ASSUMING this is what would happen. I think this is WAY deeper...Like you hotgurl....than a threesome. I think stuck has a good theory....Grasping at something to be pissed about. For what? I have no idea. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ppeterson Posted July 14, 2009 Author Share Posted July 14, 2009 Oh - so IF he were to lie to her. He's not saying that he did & got caught & she IS holding it over his head. He is ASSUMING this is what would happen. I think this is WAY deeper...Like you hotgurl....than a threesome. I think stuck has a good theory....Grasping at something to be pissed about. For what? I have no idea. If you had read the whole post all of your questions would have been answered. The only thing I'm getting a little upset about is how so many people post comments without reading the entire thread. We've moved past this and are trying to close this out, so please read it if you feel like it. Otherwise don't comment until you've read everything. Please let's end this people. I asked to end this topic several times. Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 Stone her. Stone her good with big rocks. It's the least she deserves. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 Damn Tami, why are you on my jock?!? Hop-Off please!!! I dont need you of all people to correct me. I think she likes you, alot! I wonder if she's been having any fantasies about- well, I'm going to leave that one alone! Link to post Share on other sites
pollswolls Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 We've moved past this and are trying to close this out, . Who is WE? Have you & your wife resolved your differences on this subject? - Or do you just not want anyone else to post here? Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 I think she likes you, alot! I wonder if she's been having any fantasies about- well, I'm going to leave that one alone! LOL, it wouldnt be the first time. I bet the OM is starting to be real boring right about now. But I notice she's claiming that I dont read the threads and whatnot trying to correct me at every turn.But she takes my words and pastes them somewhere else outta context! Damn she's jocking me hard. I've never met a woman who has jocked me this hard that DIDNT' want any. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 LOL, it wouldnt be the first time. I bet the OM is starting to be real boring right about now. But I notice she's claiming that I dont read the threads and whatnot trying to correct me at every turn.But she takes my words and pastes them somewhere else outta context! Damn she's jocking me hard. I've never met a woman who has jocked me this hard that DIDNT' want any. lol. From the sounds of it, she wants to Ride you! Yeah, I agree, she wants you for some Bouncy fun!!:bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
taylor Posted July 16, 2009 Share Posted July 16, 2009 LOL, it wouldnt be the first time. I bet the OM is starting to be real boring right about now. But I notice she's claiming that I dont read the threads and whatnot trying to correct me at every turn.But she takes my words and pastes them somewhere else outta context! Damn she's jocking me hard. I've never met a woman who has jocked me this hard that DIDNT' want any. lol. Sounds like you and Darth have a little crush on her. You guys must like the spitfire type, eh? Anyways, what's "jocking"? And could anyone please enlighten me on the MWM/WMW threesome scenario. Seriously, I don't get it. I don't understand the homosexual aspect of it... Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted July 16, 2009 Share Posted July 16, 2009 LOL. aint nothing homo about me. I dont usually go for asian girls with a flapjack asses whatsoever. and Jocking is like *ick riding, hanging on my every word, watching what I say. Stalking lightheartedly. Link to post Share on other sites
michelangelo Posted July 16, 2009 Share Posted July 16, 2009 Because you perceive what she did, stalled you on introducing another person into your intimate life, as a "lie"? So you pressuring her to agree by emotional manipulation is a noble thing? And she attempting to get you to move past a foolish, marriage threatening fantasy is a "lie"? And further, it calls into question for you whether she has cheated you of a great experience of life? I'm thinking that what you instead have is a a man (yourself) who is slow to understanding the destructive nature of his wants. Someone who cannot perceive the difference between wants and needs, of love and debasement. You forgive her? Seriously? You forgive her? Your priorities are out of whack! Link to post Share on other sites
taylor Posted July 16, 2009 Share Posted July 16, 2009 Because you perceive what she did, stalled you on introducing another person into your intimate life, as a "lie"? So you pressuring her to agree by emotional manipulation is a noble thing? And she attempting to get you to move past a foolish, marriage threatening fantasy is a "lie"? And further, it calls into question for you whether she has cheated you of a great experience of life? I'm thinking that what you instead have is a a man (yourself) who is slow to understanding the destructive nature of his wants. Someone who cannot perceive the difference between wants and needs, of love and debasement. You forgive her? Seriously? You forgive her? Your priorities are out of whack! I agree. The OP's moral compass is out of whack and needs some serious adjustments. He says over and over how he forgives his wife. For what? Because she told him two months into dating that she might do a threesome and then changed her mind about it after marriage. Good for her for having her moral compass pointed in the right direction. Because she kept putting him off for years while he continued to pressure her about it? Big deal. She was probably waiting for him to grow up and come to his senses. I think he's the one who should be seeking forgiveness: Honey, I am sorry I pressured you all these years to do something I knew down deep you must not have really wanted to do. I am sorry I put pressure on you all these years to let me have sex with another woman while you watched. I should have realized that because you love me you might not want me engaging in sex outside our marriage. I was wrong to expect it and I am wrong now for being upset because you put me off about it. Can you forgive me? Instead of chastising her for "lying" he should be thanking her for not letting their marriage go there: I know now that threesomes are wrong and would have wreaked havoc on our marriage. Thank you for keeping me on the straight and narrow and for guarding the sanctity of our marriage. The way you are carrying on, OP, it sounds like the only reason you married your wife is because you thought you found a woman willing to let you have sex with another woman while married to her. Yeah, how cool is that. I don't think you are upset about the "lie." I think you are upset because she dashed your fantasy once and for all and you can't handle the disappointment. All your efforts all these years...up in smoke. Link to post Share on other sites
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