I haven't met his friends or his family at all, is it normal to feel insecured?

[Monkey Princess]

I'm indeed very sad right now. Can't believe it has to end this bad. I never ended it bad like this. I also can't believe he still tried to give me stupid reasons when I tried to tell him why I couldn't do this anymore. I still remember he said he didn't care about stupid people around him and so I didn't have to meet them. He didn't even try to understand how I felt if he really cared, but he only yelled why didn't I listen to him. We didn't even finish our conversation because again he had to hang up cuz he got to work.

 

He said this was his serious relationship but I didn't see he put it up high in his priority list. Whenever we faught, he didn't even find time to sit down and talk, well, I knew he couldn't because he could talk in the car only. And at the end I saw he didn't try to do anything too.

 

Oh, well, I knew today would happen anyway. Thanks for the support!

[hoping2heal]

Thanks guys! You almost made me cry there Island Girl:) Yes, I defintely want someone who would introduce me to everybody around him like your hubby did. My boyfriend is just not that one.

 

He says he doesn't really care about the phone much after work. That's him. He's been like this forever that he puts the phone everywhere or on silent and doesn't hear it. Nothing's gonna change.

 

With other guys I went out with before I knew all their friends and family. But this one is the first one that everything started from LD and I never get to meet anybody.

 

Deep down I want to believe him for he looked me in the eye saying he had no wife and I was the only one he had. I just can't understand why he would want to deceive me with all these lies. What would he get from me?

 

I have a 12 hour time difference with my partner. 12 HOURS and regardless of what time it is when he calls me or when I call him, we both answer.

 

He knows of all my family. He has spoken to both of my parents, and my parents are divorced. He has called me from his visits with his son. You said, he doesn't look like a liar. Well, what does a liar look like? If he couldn't look you in the eye, and convince you otherwise, he wouldn't be a very good liar, would he?

 

I agree that all of his lies seem very elaborate, and none of them actually seem to add up or concur. You say you want proof, Really? Cause you have more proof than most people, and you are still finding a way to deny it. "What does he get from me?" Well, he gets something. Attention? Sex? Ego stroking? He gets something, and he's able to lie and lie and lie and you buy it every time. Where as most women by now and a long time ago would of said, wait a minute bucko.

 

Glad to hear you ended things, it's going to be hard for awhile but putting more time in with this guy won't change all the lies into the truth. It just won't work that way.

[Monkey Princess]

My night time is kinda quiet now as it's the time when we normally talked on the phone or chatted on the msn. It's kinda sad and I know I have to be strong and it will pass, right?

[Island Girl]

My night time is kinda quiet now as it's the time when we normally talked on the phone or chatted on the msn. It's kinda sad and I know I have to be strong and it will pass, right?

 

Yes it will pass.

 

But you need to stay busy as much as possible. Keep yourself occupied. Write in a journal or immerse yourself in one of your favorite hobbies.

 

Please know there will be days when you feel a bit more down or like you miss him -- but they get fewer and farther between.

 

You will find someone that will make it his mission to see that you are happy and cared for.

That is what you deserve. And he is out there.

 

It will get better.