shadowplay Posted July 8, 2009 Share Posted July 8, 2009 I just discovered another guy I was potentially interested in is married. That means I don't know any halfway decent guy who is single. Lately every time I like a guy I find out he has a girlfriend or he's married! It's so frustrating. I think this was less common when I was younger and men weren't as tied up. What percentage of desirable men over 25 are single? I get the feeling it's less than twenty percent. And how do you show interest in a guy if there's a high chance he's taken? I don't want to flirt with somebody who might be taken and end up looking like a fool. Link to post Share on other sites
Thornton Posted July 8, 2009 Share Posted July 8, 2009 Flirt with anyone you like... if he's taken he should tell you, you can't be expected to know. Try dating a little older - many men in their late 20s are married, but once men get into their 30s they're probably divorced from the wife they married in haste and have a bit more common sense about relationships to boot. Link to post Share on other sites
torranceshipman Posted July 8, 2009 Share Posted July 8, 2009 I much prefer guys in their 30's. And have you tried online dating? You can meet SO many nice guys that way. Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted July 8, 2009 Share Posted July 8, 2009 I'm 25, single, decent. If you think about and talk about how there are no good men left, that's exactly what you'll find. Perception is everything, and yours is cynical, defeatist. Nothing is more irritating than women asking where all the nice guys are, and we nice guys just have to sit around and listen to this stuff and roll our eyes. Link to post Share on other sites
Enema Posted July 8, 2009 Share Posted July 8, 2009 The other catch is; what percentage of the single, 25+ attractive men actually want a relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted July 8, 2009 Share Posted July 8, 2009 I just discovered another guy I was potentially interested in is married. That means I don't know any halfway decent guy who is single. Lately every time I like a guy I find out he has a girlfriend or he's married! It's so frustrating. I think this was less common when I was younger and men weren't as tied up. What percentage of desirable men over 25 are single? I get the feeling it's less than twenty percent. And how do you show interest in a guy if there's a high chance he's taken? I don't want to flirt with somebody who might be taken and end up looking like a fool. And don't forget to try hard to find fault with a guy whose over 25 and single, I'm completely ugly, boring and incapable of holding interesting conversations... call me Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted July 8, 2009 Share Posted July 8, 2009 I'm short and I have a big nose. I can't cook and I can't fix things. I can't beat anyone up either. Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted July 8, 2009 Share Posted July 8, 2009 I'm short and I have a big nose. I can't cook and I can't fix things. I can't beat anyone up either. Dude, we should hang out and chat up women at a bar. Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 For sure! I'll be the midget with a huge forehead drinking PBR and playing video poker. Link to post Share on other sites
Un-Conventional Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 I have no clue how many/what percent of 25+ yr old attractive unmarried men are out there, but I am 24 yr old attractive (at least I think so) man so no disrespect to you but I hope the number is low, the more men that are married, the more single women for me . But on the flip side I feel the same way with women, wherein it seems like all of the ones I'm around are taken. I guess the only advice I can give is the typical cliche advice, take a chance and stick your neck out there. Don't go assuming every man is taken, cuz you never know. Link to post Share on other sites
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 This is a common problem the older you get. When you start meeting guys in their 30's, you meet some who already have one marriage under their belt. Not necessarily a bad sign, sometimes they married their college sweetheart and grew apart, or felt pressured to get married, whatever. I fell hard for a guy one time, but he had a gf. I saw him 6 months later and he was single. Yeah! But...we only had one date. Bah. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 I'm 25, single, and well-rounded/well-off with an amazing family and dependable friends. I don't know what the statistics are of mid 20's men being taken. But I think if you live in big city, you should have good odds of meeting someone desirable and single. Whereas if you live in a small town...get the freak outta there ASAP! And how do you show interest in a guy if there's a high chance he's taken? I don't want to flirt with somebody who might be taken and end up looking like a fool. I think you should borrow a page from the book of man-law. Do as guys would do and flirt with the opposite sex. I think women can learn a lot from rejection as guys have to deal with this all the time. Man-up woman! Link to post Share on other sites
Yellowboy Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 You know, it makes me wonder why those who are looking for a significant other just never meet? I have exactly the same problem...attractive women over 25 are taken! I ask them out, they hang out only to find out later they have a boyfriend. The others are married, or aren't interested in me. Yeay Link to post Share on other sites
my body is a cage Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 This thread basically sums up my worst fears. I'm in college right now, and my love life is not exactly going well. I'm really worried that as I get older, it will only get harder! All good guys are married at 25? Good grief! But I think if you live in big city, you should have good odds of meeting someone desirable and single. Whereas if you live in a small town...get the freak outta there ASAP! What if the opposite is true, though? Is it possible that people in big cities might suffer from too many choices? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 What if the opposite is true, though? Is it possible that people in big cities might suffer from too many choices?It's true that people in big cities have far more choice but too many choices isn't possible! :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 are most attractive men over 25 taken? Using your narrow parameter of *most*, I would opine yes, as I perceived the reverse to be true when I was 25 and single. I hard a hard time meeting a woman my general age who wasn't involved with someone or married. In fact, I can think of an entire decade where that never happened. So, what you're suggesting isn't anything new. Likely, the first thought in your head when you see an attractive guy is that he's taken, so you've promoted a self-fulfilling prophecy Hey, if you think it's bad now, wait until you're in your 70's and 80's Link to post Share on other sites
Isolde Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 It seems this way to me, too. Even in big cities: taken as in serious relationship or married. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 If you only go for really attractive guys, of course theyre taken! They get what they want, either they have a pretty gf, or they have a few pretty ladies that they are dating or just banging, and dont need a relationship. You gotta go for the underdog that will treat you right. You keep going for the other guys and of course you'll be dissappointed every time. Gotta go more places to meet more people....do you do the approaching or do you wait for them to come to you? Link to post Share on other sites
Isolde Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 boogieboy, my guess is by "attractive" shadowplay means guys that are a bit above average looking--not necessarily "hot" guys (and yes, there IS a difference). Link to post Share on other sites
IrishCarBomb Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 Yep, better get on that whole "relationship" thing quickly. It's like Musical Chairs--if you're all alone standing when the music stops, you're pretty much screwed. Link to post Share on other sites
pandagirl Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 Well, I live NY, but there are TONS of attractive single men and women in their 30s here, but that's probably because in our 20s, we were so focused on career and not on relationships. But, yeah...little by little, people are getting married, etc. I'm currently dating a 33-year-old attractive guy. I'm sure there is something wrong with him, but so far so good! haha. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 boogieboy, my guess is by "attractive" shadowplay means guys that are a bit above average looking--not necessarily "hot" guys (and yes, there IS a difference). Even so, those guys have all they want, so she has to go for more underdogs, or she has to start approaching more guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted July 9, 2009 Author Share Posted July 9, 2009 Well, I live NY, but there are TONS of attractive single men and women in their 30s here, but that's probably because in our 20s, we were so focused on career and not on relationships. But, yeah...little by little, people are getting married, etc. I'm currently dating a 33-year-old attractive guy. I'm sure there is something wrong with him, but so far so good! haha. I live in a relatively small town. It's a college town, so the vast majority of available guys are too young for me. There's a small minority of graduate students, but all the ones I've met have been taken. In the summer it empties out. I know a handful of guys the moment. All of the cute/interesting ones are taken. Also, every guy I've met that has interested me since moving to this freakin' town last year has been taken. Every single one! Gah. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted July 9, 2009 Author Share Posted July 9, 2009 Even so, those guys have all they want, so she has to go for more underdogs, or she has to start approaching more guys. I'm not going to lower my standards and go for men I don't find attractive. I'm really not comfortable coming on to men. Whenever I've made the first move it fails miserably. I also don't handle rejection well (never have). There's got to be another way! Link to post Share on other sites
The Blue Pill Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 Using your narrow parameter of *most*, I would opine yes, as I perceived the reverse to be true when I was 25 and single. I hard a hard time meeting a woman my general age who wasn't involved with someone or married. I came in this thread to say this, but carhill beat me to it! The apparent lack of attractive, eligible men over 25 is probably in a similar ratio to the number of attractive, eligible women under the age of 25. See, I think women under 25 are still facinated by the fact that they can get men to do whatever they want, just because of this mystical power between their legs. Good luck finding a hot, single young girl. Link to post Share on other sites
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