Ariadne Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 Well since were being brutally honest I htink you could lose a little wieght Ariadne You have nice features, I think if you lost some weight and didnt say to many crazy things youd open a lot of doors Yeah, that's what my mom says, if only you looked like a model... then the men would want to date you. I mean, come on, I exercise every single day, but I have a very curvy body, no belly though. Is ok, I don't care anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted July 9, 2009 Author Share Posted July 9, 2009 Plus, if you're claiming that there are a lot of good catch people that are single, then how can you possibly, at the same time, claim the opposite: that all the good ones are taken? It's one or the other. I disagree with Lovestruck that there are tons of single good catches. There are some. Part of my problem shyness. I'm extremely shy and socially awkward, and I know this puts a lot of guys off (they've later told me). It's something I've been trying to overcome by smiling more and reaching out, but so far I still seem to make people uncomfortable. One of my coworkers insisted recently that I dislike him and that I'd been giving the evil eye across the room on a studio shoot (), which was completely untrue. I wasn't even looking at him! It's like the way I come across to strangers has little connection to what I'm actually thinking sometimes. I must suffer from b$%tch face. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted July 9, 2009 Author Share Posted July 9, 2009 Yeah, that's what my mom says, if only you looked like a model... then the men would want to date you. I mean, come on, I exercise every single day, but I have a very curvy body, no belly though. Is ok, I don't care anymore. Your mom is mean! Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 No it's not. They're everywhere. Get out more and they'll find you. Every guy like this that "seemed" promising, had a major catch to them. Most of the time, about 99% of the available guys that I meet are just mega dumb. If they are not, then some major problem is behind it. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 Your mom is mean! Ariadne is probably being melodramatic Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 Who said all women remain gems throughout their lives? My post was about men, not women. No one said it explicitly. What I was getting at is that some women claim that "all the good ones (men) are taken" as if women couldn't possibly have bad qualities themselves. I'm not saying you haven't encountered losers. What I'm saying is that given the group of single people, men and women, some are bound to be catches and some are bound to be losers. But it's unrealistic to assume that all good men are snatched up without exception, especially since that means that, assuming the percentage of catch men and catch women and loser men and loser women is roughly the same--that a good portion of the loser women are landing the catch men. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 Your mom is mean! Nah, is just that she is about 115 pounds herself, so for her standards, no matter what I'm always fat. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted July 9, 2009 Author Share Posted July 9, 2009 No it's not. They're everywhere. Get out more and they'll find you. TBF, no offense but men seem to fall in your lap, so unfortunately I don't think this really applies to other women. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 Every guy like this that "seemed" promising, had a major catch to them. Most of the time, about 99% of the available guys that I meet are just mega dumb. If they are not, then some major problem is behind it.That's an environmental problem. Find an environment where brains count, like a workplace full of intelligent men and you'll find this is a non-issue. Also, how do you come across to men? Do you feel you broadcast intelligence? Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 Part of my problem shyness. I'm extremely shy and socially awkward, and I know this puts a lot of guys off (they've later told me). It's something I've been trying to overcome by smiling more and reaching out, but so far I still seem to make people uncomfortable. Now that's much more reasonable. It makes more sense to acknowledge a personal shortcoming than just blindly putting the fault on the opposite sex. Nobody's perfect. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted July 9, 2009 Author Share Posted July 9, 2009 Nah, is just that she is about 115 pounds herself, so for her standards, no matter what I'm always fat. I think that explains a lot about your personality. Why you're so hard on yourself, for example. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 Its good to see her being bitter instead of being a delusional romantic Maybe this is a breakthrough Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 TBF, no offense but men seem to fall in your lap, so unfortunately I don't think this really applies to other women.shadowplay, that's just victim mentality. From what you portray yourself as, on LS, you appear to be attractive and intelligent, albeit negative in your outlook. If it's your shyness, as you've stated, what's stopping you from getting out there and working on that shyness? Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted July 9, 2009 Author Share Posted July 9, 2009 That's an environmental problem. Find an environment where brains count, like a workplace full of intelligent men and you'll find this is a non-issue. Also, how do you come across to men? Do you feel you broadcast intelligence? My only experience with this was working in a law firm about a year ago. The vast majority of men were married, and the few that weren't were way too old for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 That's an environmental problem. Find an environment where brains count, like a workplace full of intelligent men and you'll find this is a non-issue. Also, how do you come across to men? Do you feel you broadcast intelligence? Well, I worked with hundreds of Engineers and every-single-one was taken. They'd have meetings where there was a room full of them, I have yet to find one of them single and available, except for the new hires who also had gfs. The guys that I "used" to meet (not anymore) were just random guys. I'm not looking anymore now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted July 9, 2009 Author Share Posted July 9, 2009 shadowplay, that's just victim mentality. From what you portray yourself as, on LS, you appear to be attractive and intelligent, albeit negative in your outlook. If it's your shyness, as you've stated, what's stopping you from getting out there and working on that shyness? I don't really know how to work on my shyness. I want to, just don't know what I'm doing wrong. I mean I try to be more friendly (and I'll continue to do so), but it almost seems to put people off more as if they can see it's unnatural. Obviously something in my approach is all wrong. I've tried asking people who knew me well what their first impression was and they give me vague things like I came off as cold or hard to get to know. That I didn't give long responses to questions. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 My only experience with this was working in a law firm about a year ago. The vast majority of men were married, and the few that weren't were way too old for me.The retail portion of the investment industry is full of above-average attractive, intelligent, charming, out-going and financially stable men and women. There's no shortage of men to pick from. You just have to be careful of who's previously committed or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 TBF, no offense but men seem to fall in your lap, so unfortunately I don't think this really applies to other women. That's true, they flock to TBF because that is exactly what they want. Someone gorgeous! Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted July 9, 2009 Author Share Posted July 9, 2009 The retail portion of the investment industry is full of above-average attractive, intelligent, charming, out-going and financially stable men and women. There's no shortage of men to pick from. You just have to be careful of who's previously committed or not. Where would I meet guys like that since it's not my profession? Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 I don't really know how to work on my shyness. I'd get scared sometimes. I mean, this is what you get when you are healthy. Imagine if you had a defect, lost one eye, lost a finger, or "something". Then you are as good as dead. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 Well, I worked with hundreds of Engineers and every-single-one was taken. They'd have meetings where there was a room full of them, I have yet to find one of them single and available, except for the new hires who also had gfs. The guys that I "used" to meet (not anymore) were just random guys. I'm not looking anymore now.Well, that's just one company and now, you have the opportunity to find a better environment. To be perfectly honest with you, I can't see you and engineers being a good match. There are quite a few 'geers in my family, of different types, so I know what they're like. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 That's true, they flock to TBF because that is exactly what they want. Someone gorgeous! True Im rather homely and balding and I prefer gorgeous women like TBF Any guy would Of course I cant get them, so if Im being realistic I have to lower my standards And same goes for women It goes both ways and always has Isnt that obvious Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 Its good to see her being bitter instead of being a delusional romantic Maybe this is a breakthrough Is just a fact. You just don't find quality men single and available. A very simple point. And is not like I care much now either. Link to post Share on other sites
Cora Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 I really do believe that you have to be in the right place at the right time and be willing to put yourself out there. I can honestly say I'm pretty sure why I can't find anyone who is a catch, single and available. I recently moved back to the very very small town where I grew up. The majority of the people I went to high school with are married and starting families. I'm also extremely shy. When I see a guy looking my way or smiling at me I quickly turn away in embarrassment. I would also never ever approach a guy. I too am very afraid of rejection. I'm just not comfortable in social situations and that is my flaw. That is two things against me right there....the area I live in and the fact that I don't put myself out there. I think there is a shortage of decent guys over 25 who are single. They ARE out there, but again it all depends on timing, area and how much you put yourself out there etc.. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 Where would I meet guys like that since it's not my profession?I would think that the film industry would be full of attractive and intelligent men. Hell, I had an STR with an actor last year and aren't in the industry, although I do live in Hollywood North. Link to post Share on other sites
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