subtitled Posted November 4, 2003 Share Posted November 4, 2003 Two months ago was my end of school formal (what in US you call Prom). I didn't take a guy, but my friend had her long-time friend/neighbour Phil there with her... but she had a bf at the time, so he wasn't actually there as her "date" date, he was asked before she had a bf so was there for etiquette reasons. Turned out Phil and i hit it off really well. He was flirting with me alot and i'm not used to guys doing that. We were mucking round the whole night, and then at the after party, we were just standing close, hugging, i was sitting on his lap and whatever... (at one point we fell off the chair that was hilarious...) anyway... my friend had told me he was interested in a girl at his uni and so he was probably just flirting with me for some entertainment. At the time, i was interested in another guy, so i wasn't concerned, i was just having fun too. We never kissed, but he was, as i said, being very flirty/suggestive. I just left it as a good night with him, and thought he could be a good friend later on. A few days after the formal, i was talking to my other friend who had a boyfriend there that night. She had told me that night she really liked Phil - he's quite a looker (hence my surprise at his interest in me...) - and i could see her flirting excessively, even in front of her boyfriend that night. On the phone with her, she said that when they'd been alone in a room together (her and Phil) he'd made a slight move on her, begun to put his hand down her skirt. The thing is, this girl is such a flirt, a stunning girl, he was drunk and she has a tendency to need attention, so how much of the story or its detail is true, is another question. Apparently she said to him at the time "There's someone here who wouldn't like you doing that" (ie. her boyfriend) and he said.. supposedly "What they don't know can't hurt them". And that was all.. but later when saying goodbye to her, he apparently lingered a kiss on her cheek to tease her boyfriend. Once again, i wasn't there so can't verify it. This all made me think hrmm.. this phil boy's a bit of a flirt possibly not very loyal. I spoke to phil again for the first time in two months last night online, and he was flirting ALOT. kept saying how he wanted to talk all night, kept saying like xxoxoxoxoxo to infinity and stuff. it was all just fun, but anyway.. my friend asked him if he liked me (Without asking me first!! ARGH) and he said he did, but wasn't sure how seriously yet. He is a gorgeous guy- really nice, funny, smart, loveable, i am very attracted to him.. The friend who knows him well says with his last gf he was very loyal, and she was shocked when she heard what the other friend said about him being sleazy. The question is- should i pursue this - give him a chance? or not... Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted November 11, 2003 Share Posted November 11, 2003 Just because a guy enjoys the "art of the flirt" doesn't make him a bad guy. He may very well find just the girl to tame him down. Till then though....falling for a player can be heart breaking. Why don't you just consider joining in the flirt process with him...without thinking about future possibilities. Just try to have fun. Then, if the relationship goes into something deeper....you can better evaluate if his personality and flirting tendencies is right for you. PS: Keep in mind though....the major flirty person always enjoys wit and challenge. Play back with him...stand out from the other 10 females he may be xoxoxox'ing with.....LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
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