brandon1 Posted July 9, 2009 Share Posted July 9, 2009 I've done everything I can now I wanna ask for help. Me and this girl have been talking for two months straight everyday all day and night and haven't skipped a day of not talking. We are both looking for long term and well I had a motorcycle accident a few weeks ago and she was the 1st person I called from the hospital and she came to my house so quick you wouldn't believe. Yeah that's great right? Well I ended up staying at her place for about 5 days as she was nice enough to take care of me. I had road rash and I was helpless. Anyhow. So I tell her I really do appreciate what she has been doing for me and I take it to heart. I mean the way I looked I'm sure noone else would have fixed my boo boos lol. She's the really bossy type and wants to be the princess. Before my accident I knew she was trying to boss me around but I ignored it because we aren't together and she's not gonna tell me to not hang out with my friends. Well we argue all the time about everything. We are both arguing about her doing this and me doing that. Like we are married! I mean I'm so used to it now tho so It's not a problem. Well the real issue now is when I'm back home from the 5 day stay at her place it seems like she's losing interest in me drastically. I ask her what's wrong and she tells me she doesn't want to be with anyone and blah blah. Well I say that I've been doing alot of things for her that she wants and stuff but she blows me off. My 1st thoughts are theres another guy? well she claims there isn't and gets really mad if I bring it up which makes me think she's being shady if she's defensive about it. I mean with all this being said I have to say I like the challenge and it's different don't get me wrong and think of me as stupid. I wanna work for what I want. Anyhow after she said she didn't wanna be in a relationship she asked if we could be friends. I tell her no kindly because If I work hard to be with someone how could I take being a friend? I'm just weird like that. I'm not friends with my ex girlfriend either. Anyway. I guess my thing is I'm so into this girl that I can't let go. She had my heart when she took care of me like noone else would. My mom wouldn't even help me out lol. She has issues of when she doesn't get her way she flips and gets all mad and doesn't wanna talk to me for a few hours. She comes back later on like nothing happened. I've told her goodluck with everything and I'm sorry things didn't work out between us. She apologized about it too. I tell her I'm moving on and I'll stay out of her life. Then she tells me she isn't going anywhere. So I'm like ok well what do we do from here? and she gets quiet and changes the subject or tells me bye and doesn't talk for a few hours again. Well I have feelings for her obviously and I think she has some for me too but I'm trying to find out if I should keep trying to pursue her when she won't let go and make up her mind on what she wants? I can't let her go for some reason either. I'm sorry I'm writing a book but I wanna give the whole story and everything in between. I'm looking for help asap because It's just bugging me. I need to know if it seems like she has feelings for me and seems like she wants to be with me or not. Need some female advice here. Link to post Share on other sites
whimsical_memory Posted July 10, 2009 Share Posted July 10, 2009 If everything you've posted is true, it really doesn't sound like she is into you. I am sorry to tell you that. I really think you'd be better off if you just knocked the dust off your boots and kept on trucking. That's great that she was there for you when you needed someone, but it sounds like that is all she was interested in. The fact that y'all have been arguing a lot would have cemented the deal for me as to the fact that we're just simply not compatible. Good luck hon, and I hope that you're doing better after your accident. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brandon1 Posted July 10, 2009 Author Share Posted July 10, 2009 thanks. yeah well i keep trying to tell her to move on to someone if she isnt into me but she keeps coming back so im so comfused. Link to post Share on other sites
whimsical_memory Posted July 10, 2009 Share Posted July 10, 2009 thanks. yeah well i keep trying to tell her to move on to someone if she isnt into me but she keeps coming back so im so comfused. Well, it could be that you are her "fall back guy". Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author brandon1 Posted July 10, 2009 Author Share Posted July 10, 2009 dang that sounds bad haha. i told her im not gonna sit around and be her last resort. Link to post Share on other sites
whimsical_memory Posted July 10, 2009 Share Posted July 10, 2009 haha, it isn't the best spot for a person to be in! I would seriously talk with her and explain to her that while you love being her friend, you aren't so fond of being her doormat. It sounds like part of the thrill for her was being able to "nurse" you back to health. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brandon1 Posted July 10, 2009 Author Share Posted July 10, 2009 well i didnt add that we had intercourse while i was at her place. would that have anything to do with it? Link to post Share on other sites
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