GF wants to see therapist??

[inluv2luv]

my girl and i have been together gor 3 years. she is only 17 im 20. We have never fought about anyhting stupid or had arguments about stupid things, so we get along great. recently she has been confused about finishing high school and getiing the best grades possible and also about college and were to go and everything having to do with her life and on top of that she works extremely hard at work.

 

she now wants to see a therapist, but i am scared that the therapist will bring out something snd make her change the way she thinks about me. i cant lose her.

 

also recently she started tutoring a guy from school at her house and it makes me really jealous cause she has never hung out with other guys. she says he has just become a good friend and that he thinks she is pretty but she isnt his type. but they are always text messaging each other.

 

do i have anything to worry about?, because everything has been perfect till now.

[moimeme]

No.

[inluv2luv]

why do you say that?

 

because every time i ask if she wants to be with me she says she not sure of anything she is just so depressed.

dont you think she would at least know if she still wanted me to be apart of her life?

[moimeme]

You asked whether her going to the therapist or tutoring someone was a problem. I answered no. However, you didn't say that she wasn't sure about keeping you around, which is a different issue and likely unrelated.

 

Yes, you may have something to worry about, but don't look for the wrong people/situations to blame. She is conflicted about what she wants in life and with you. People at that age get that way all on their own. The therapist may help her figure out what she wants. That may not include you. This is life, and you may have to prepare yourself for it. Our desires and aspirations change throughout life, particularly at the stage you're in. I think it's overly optimistic to expect any relationship that starts before you're even 20 to last for years.