bananamilk Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 I have a husband currently working at a College as a College professor, and he would frequently stare at a young girl? (yes, she's quite attractive, but considering her age, she is very young) for instance, my husband would stare at this particular young woman for more than 6 months, but he hasn't approached her in any way or form but he'd frequently stare at this young girl for more than 10 seconds, or even longer! How would you feel if you found out your husband has been doing this for quite sometime? and no, when he stares at her he's not talking to her neither is she sitting up front or in the center of attention. He seems to be staring at her when she's even sitting at the end, even at the corner! even when she walks out of the classroom and he spots her in the hallway, he stares at her even! for more than 10 seconds that is. How do I know? I was around and saw the way he looked at her, and I don't think he knows that I'm aware of this since I haven't talked to him about it. What would you do if you were in this situation? advices would be appreciated! Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Well, how do YOU feel about it? Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 I have a husband currently working at a College as a College professor, and he would frequently stare at a young girl? (yes, she's quite attractive, but considering her age, she is very young) for instance, my husband would stare at this particular young woman for more than 6 months, but he hasn't approached her in any way or form but he'd frequently stare at this young girl for more than 10 seconds, or even longer! How would you feel if you found out your husband has been doing this for quite sometime? and no, when he stares at her he's not talking to her neither is she sitting up front or in the center of attention. He seems to be staring at her when she's even sitting at the end, even at the corner! even when she walks out of the classroom and he spots her in the hallway, he stares at her even! for more than 10 seconds that is. How do I know? I was around and saw the way he looked at her, and I don't think he knows that I'm aware of this since I haven't talked to him about it. What would you do if you were in this situation? advices would be appreciated! How do you know that this has been going on for months? Were you around just once, or quite often? Link to post Share on other sites
1Angel Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Tell your H it bothers you. Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 I'd probably end up emotionally and physically withdrawling from him. Link to post Share on other sites
Thaddeus Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Men look. That's all he's done. He hasn't spoken to her, he hasn't approached her, he hasn't done anything except look. Absolutely no harm in that whatsoever. You're creating way more drama in this situation than is called for. If it really bothers you, then you're going to have to communicate that. He cannot read your mind. Worst possible thing you could do would be to say nothing and just employ the silent withdrawing tactic, the proverbial "cold shoulder." Communicate, my friend, communicate! Link to post Share on other sites
blair08 Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Just curious, but how do you know how long its been since he has been looking at her? You seem to know that when he stares at her, he isn't talking to her, and you also stated he stares when she is sitting in the corner, when she walks out of the classroom. AND yous aid its for more than ten seconds. Do you work at the college too, and you see him do this? Anyway, yes men are visual creatures and enjoy looking at attractive women. However, to me, if he is "looking" as much as you say for as long as you say, then yeah that would seem to be a bit of a problem. Its one thing to look and admire someone, but another to stare all the time at another persons every move. Communicate to him how it makes you feel. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Sounds bizarre that you know how long he's been staring at her.. where, when.. and you know that he has never talked to her.. how do you know all this? Maybe, like you said, she's very attractive.. and he just can't take his eyes off her.. I do the same when I find someone attractive.. but that doesn't mean anything.. I'd even stare at a beautiful woman.. and I'm straight as a pin.. there is absolutely no sexual thing.. it's just that I like looking at beautiful people.. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 Maybe he caught her cheating on a test earlier, and so he watches her more. How in the world are you going to know if you don't talk to him about it? But in general, men look at women, and women look at men. If he isn't doing anything but looking, what is the big deal? Link to post Share on other sites
Heroic Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 How exactly did you get this info on your husband...or are you the gal he is staring at? Link to post Share on other sites
BlackWhite Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 I have a husband currently working at a College as a College professor, and he would frequently stare at a young girl? (yes, she's quite attractive, but considering her age, she is very young) for instance, my husband would stare at this particular young woman for more than 6 months, but he hasn't approached her in any way or form but he'd frequently stare at this young girl for more than 10 seconds, or even longer! How would you feel if you found out your husband has been doing this for quite sometime? and no, when he stares at her he's not talking to her neither is she sitting up front or in the center of attention. He seems to be staring at her when she's even sitting at the end, even at the corner! even when she walks out of the classroom and he spots her in the hallway, he stares at her even! for more than 10 seconds that is. How do I know? I was around and saw the way he looked at her, and I don't think he knows that I'm aware of this since I haven't talked to him about it. What would you do if you were in this situation? advices would be appreciated! Your husband is a dirty old man. Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 How exactly did you get this info on your husband...or are you the gal he is staring at? Hmm, methinks THIS is more likely what this is all about... Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 Why shouldn't a woman withdraw when her aging husband is looking at college girls? I know men don't like it but there are things you do that either make your female partner feel closer to you or further appart. It doesn't take rocket science to figure out why a grown man oggling college aged girls is going to make a woman feel less emotionally connected to her partner. Men look. Well that's great. Except when you are a woman with a man you love that is staring at 18 year old girls. Then it's not so great for you as a woman. But hey, it's great for the man. And at the end of the day, it's men's sexuality that matters most and trumps all because women are expected to shut up and suck it up despite the oggling of women younger then her. This is the exact reason why it's better to be a man's fantasy then his reality. Link to post Share on other sites
mark982 Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 ALL men stare,until the day they die! that's why we wear dark sunglasses. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 Would not bother me in the least. Means nothing except he finds the female attractive. Not attractive enough to compel him to act on it. Since nothing whatsoever has happened...I would say the only concern would be that the student would imagine something that is not , and get dramatic as people like that tend to do. Link to post Share on other sites
silktricks Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 Men look at women - women look at men. That's just the way the world works.... T'wouldn't bother me in the slightest. (But sometimes women think guys are looking at them when they aren't - and vice versa.) Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 This is why you don't date certain men in certain professions. Link to post Share on other sites
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