annamarie Posted July 11, 2009 Share Posted July 11, 2009 My husband lies to me about smoking pot. He was clean for almost two years and then out of the blue he started smoking again. No reasoning...he says he just likes it and wanted to do it. Meanwhile, I am heartbroken. He makes fun of me behind my back because he thinks I don't know he's doing it. He lies to me. I came straight out yesterday and pleaded from the bottom of my heart for him to quit because he is a completely different person when he is doing it, and he flat out refused. He simply does not care anymore. I have no idea what to do. I think he needs rehab because he is not stopping. I was looking for something under our sink just now and found an entire cereal bowl full of weed...I know he must have spent a lot of money on it and it's money that I make. I am so depressed. I love my husband and I know who he is when he's not doing drugs. When he is doing them, he turns into a mean, paranoid, manipulative jerk who will hurt whoever it takes to get his next fix. Thankfully, we don't have any children. If he doesn't clean up his act within a year, I am going to file for divorce. I am all about working through things, but I know pot "addiction" is purely mental and can be overcome. I miss who he is without the drugs. Does anyone have any advice about how I can fix this? Is a year to long to wait for him? Link to post Share on other sites
mark982 Posted July 12, 2009 Share Posted July 12, 2009 you've set the boundries that you want in your marriage. what are you going to do if somehow the cops find all that pot? you' ll be charged also. myself i think a year for him to get his act together is to long. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 12, 2009 Share Posted July 12, 2009 Doesn't matter how much time you gave him as an ultimatum.. to be honest I very much doubt he will stop within the year.. why would he? He needs the 'real' reality check.. you moving out! Unless he has the consequences of his actions in his face.. he won't stop. He probably knows how much you love him.. and he probably sense that you will put up with him regardless... so you need to take action. Detox NOW or you're out... simple as that.. There is NO OTHER solution to your problem... IMO Link to post Share on other sites
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