aep Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 okay...here's the deal.. my husband of 17 years leaves myself and the four kids. He swears in counseling that he did not have any relations with any other women (sounds like Clinton, huh?). Today the phone rings (after he moves back in 4 months ago). It is the husband of the woman rumors have it that he has been having an affair with (technician in his office, he the doctor). He gives me some story about how he did nothing with her but commiserate all his unhappiness in his marriage along with her unhappiness in her marriage. First he tells me that he did not text her or email her. Then proceeds to say that he did for a month. Then says he did for a month before he moved out then for a few weeks after he moved out. The story keeps changing. This is the girl he supposedly had an affair with by rumor (in a very small town). The husband has heard the rumors. He tells my husband that he and his wife are now separated and are the rumors true? My husband says no.. Do I call her husband and find out what he knows? Do I just trust my husband? I am one confused woman at this point. Got any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
BlackWhite Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 okay...here's the deal.. my husband of 17 years leaves myself and the four kids. He swears in counseling that he did not have any relations with any other women (sounds like Clinton, huh?). Today the phone rings (after he moves back in 4 months ago). It is the husband of the woman rumors have it that he has been having an affair with (technician in his office, he the doctor). He gives me some story about how he did nothing with her but commiserate all his unhappiness in his marriage along with her unhappiness in her marriage. First he tells me that he did not text her or email her. Then proceeds to say that he did for a month. Then says he did for a month before he moved out then for a few weeks after he moved out. The story keeps changing. This is the girl he supposedly had an affair with by rumor (in a very small town). The husband has heard the rumors. He tells my husband that he and his wife are now separated and are the rumors true? My husband says no.. Do I call her husband and find out what he knows? Do I just trust my husband? I am one confused woman at this point. Got any suggestions? The reason he left was because he could have the freedom to have the affair, i.e. go to hotel whenever he can, stay late whenever he wants, having her over at his place without you and the kids around, etc. First, you need to get yourself tested for STDs, and then, you need to schedule for a lie detector test for him. If he is unwilling to do that, you have your answer right there. Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 There's one word and only one word for dealing with a cheating spouse! And that word is "decisive" You don't play with their 'Happy @zz!" You hit them hard! And you kick them in tha' @zz! You go to Church and stand up in front of the entire congregation and lay it out for them! You call all of his friends, his associates, his family and lay it all out for them! You call people that he went to middle school with and let it all out! You take out a local ad in the local newspaper exposing them, and rent billboards! Then you slap them with divorce papers and shoot for the moon! You want everything to include their future dreams of happiness! Take a "Fool's Advice!" Right now? You're enabling them, their BS, and their lies! Link to post Share on other sites
BlackWhite Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 There's one word and only one word for dealing with a cheating spouse! And that word is "decisive" You don't play with their 'Happy @zz!" You hit them hard! And you kick them in tha' @zz! You go to Church and stand up in front of the entire congregation and lay it out for them! You call all of his friends, his associates, his family and lay it all out for them! You call people that he went to middle school with and let it all out! You take out a local ad in the local newspaper exposing them, and rent billboards! Then you slap them with divorce papers and shoot for the moon! You want everything to include their future dreams of happiness! Take a "Fool's Advice!" Right now? You're enabling them, their BS, and their lies! That's one of the best exposure tactic posted here on this board. Link to post Share on other sites
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