monkey00 Posted November 5, 2003 Share Posted November 5, 2003 HI I have confused feelings lately I've known my friend for over 2 months and i feel like we've made a connection. I'm cool with her and she is with me, doesnt matter where we go as long as we have fun. Now i realize that I think about her a lot everyday (not sexually, nor romantic) (she never wore anything that shows skin, so i cant imagine what kind of body she has), willing to give her my jacket/shirt if she was ever cold, wanting to help her if she ever needs help, but i dont flirt with her and niether does she. i'd be willing to kick someone's ass if they tried to mug/attack her, i'd be willing to ride the train home w/her at late night, then take train back home by myself. we talk about lots of things, experiences,past, what we did over the weekend, what happens at work, etc. I'm relaxed/comfortable around her, i've never been tense/nervous around her. we dont have conversations on the phone (phone usually just ask if wanna hang out or if need help with anything) , only when we see each other in person we will have it. I'm the only guy she really hangs out with and she's the only girl i really hang out with. We ate at a restaurant together once, and probably again this weekend..then going to watch a movie together. And i think she wants to meet my friends after that...(i already met her friends last time at a pub) The problem is how can i tell what my real feelings are towards her?? do i -- A. Consider her a good friend? B. Consider her a younger sister whom im willing to protect (she's 20 im 19 but still) C. Consider her as someone who i have feelings towards (liking her) aside from you guys giving me an answer, HOW DO YOU, interpret what kind of feelings you have developed for a female friend? HELL i even forgot to mention i had a dream a week ago about protecting this little girl from her smoking friends, and icy waters. I'm sure the dream relates to her Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted November 5, 2003 Share Posted November 5, 2003 This is a decision YOU have to make. You don't really say exactly how you feel about her. However, if you feel more strongly about her than just a friend or a brother, then you must announce this to her. On the other hand, if you feel she has stronger feelings for you which you do not share, you need to let her know that as well....telling her as kindly as possible. But all this is stuff you will have to sort out for yourself. How are we supposed to know how you feel and we certainly don't need to be telling you how you should feel. Link to post Share on other sites
Author monkey00 Posted November 6, 2003 Author Share Posted November 6, 2003 thx for the reply tony, funny thing that you and my friend brought up a similar reply when asking the same question, saying that I had to choose where to draw the line in the relationship and i had to make the decision myself. Link to post Share on other sites
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