MoneySells Posted November 6, 2003 Share Posted November 6, 2003 Hey guys It was my worst fear and thing has happened to me. It was totally a surprise, didn't see it coming. Well Me and girlfriend have been together for almost 5 yrs. IN Sept I finally finished remodeling the house, took a long time and lot of money. So in Mid Sept i took up a small part time job to pay for something we talked about and what i wanted to surprise her with on our 5th annivsery. Basically I was saving for a ring and a trip. Actually paid for the trip already. Last week I got home and we were talking and I was so excited to spend 2 weeks in Hawaii with her, then she started to say stuff like, would you be mad if I was interested in someone else. My heart almost fell out. I couldn't believe what i was hearing. she said she's been feeling feelings that normally she's has for me, but for her ex boss. The same guy thats been flirting with everyone in the office and got fired for it. She told me she's been seeing him for all this last month. She tells me shes loves me and can't imagine being without me and doesn't want me to move out. We own a house together BUT then she spends time with this other guy. I've moved to one of the spare rooms and been trying to cope with this. its been really really hard to deal with this. She's the love of my life, and my best friend, who i want to marry and be with. She tells me she wants space to think this out because she's confused and wants to know how much she really feels for me. and Feels bad for doing this to me. So in the past 2 days i haven't seen her, called her or talked to her. She's always callin me wanting to know when i'm coming home and all that crap. She still has feelings for me because I hear her cry at night. But she'll spent all her time with the new guy.I'm lost and confused . I want her to be mine, everything back to where it was. Is there any hope. I need your help guys, thanks Link to post Share on other sites
libra Posted November 6, 2003 Share Posted November 6, 2003 I am so sorry that you are going through this. It has to be so painful. I don't know the right words to say to make you feel better. I don't see how she can clear her head by spending time with this other guy. Maybe you could agree to giving her space if she could agree to take time away from the both of you? I hope it works out the way you want it to. Keep in mind what it is that you want/need from a relationship Link to post Share on other sites
ThisGirlNameKD Posted November 6, 2003 Share Posted November 6, 2003 WOW!! I am truly convinced that women play just as many games as men do. I don't think I would have the audacity to ask someone to continue to stay with me while I'm creeping out with someone else? Really, what are people thinking??? After all the remodeling and stuff you did and this is the thanks you get? Really, I don't know what to tell you, but I'll ask you this, if you did get back with her, would you feel that you could completely trust her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MoneySells Posted November 6, 2003 Author Share Posted November 6, 2003 Would there be any way to win her over again. I was planning to ask her to marry me, would that do it or drive her away... Link to post Share on other sites
vintim53 Posted November 6, 2003 Share Posted November 6, 2003 Dude. sorry to be so blunt but, if you have been together for five years and she just now isn't sure of what she wants? Unless this is some mid-life crisis, then show her the door man.. I mean, after five years? that is just rediculous. you both should know each other very well by now and should both know what you want. I personally would not listen to any talk about needing space or time. Not trying to be unfeeling about this but her request of you does not sound like the whole truth about her feelings to me. Link to post Share on other sites
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