MoneySells Posted November 6, 2003 Share Posted November 6, 2003 Hey guys It was my worst fear and thing has happened to me. It was totally a surprise, didn't see it coming. Well Me and girlfriend have been together for almost 5 yrs. IN Sept I finally finished remodeling the house, took a long time and lot of money. So in Mid Sept i took up a small part time job to pay for something we talked about and what i wanted to surprise her with on our 5th annivsery. Basically I was saving for a ring and a trip. Actually paid for the trip already. Last week I got home and we were talking and I was so excited to spend 2 weeks in Hawaii with her, then she started to say stuff like, would you be mad if I was interested in someone else. My heart almost fell out. I couldn't believe what i was hearing. she said she's been feeling feelings that normally she's has for me, but for her ex boss. The same guy thats been flirting with everyone in the office and got fired for it. She told me she's been seeing him for all this last month. She tells me shes loves me and can't imagine being without me and doesn't want me to move out. We own a house together BUT then she spends time with this other guy. I've moved to one of the spare rooms and been trying to cope with this. its been really really hard to deal with this. She's the love of my life, and my best friend, who i want to marry and be with. She tells me she wants space to think this out because she's confused and wants to know how much she really feels for me. and Feels bad for doing this to me. So in the past 2 days i haven't seen her, called her or talked to her. She's always callin me wanting to know when i'm coming home and all that crap. She still has feelings for me because I hear her cry at night. But she'll spent all her time with the new guy.I'm lost and confused . I want her to be mine, everything back to where it was. Is there any hope. I need your help guys, thanks Link to post Share on other sites
DVNPRT6 Posted November 6, 2003 Share Posted November 6, 2003 I think you have to let the situation be..If she has feelings for someone else, there is nothing You persoally can do about that..She has to figure that out...She needs time to see if there is someone better, which i think personally sucks...but maybe girls need that..And when she figures out ur the best there is...then it can be true, but now you have to stay great and good to YOU ..for YOU not both of you that u have in the past 5 years.. good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Daveysgurl Posted November 6, 2003 Share Posted November 6, 2003 I know where your coming from. I also know where she's coming from, If you think your confused she's even more confused. She loves you, there is absolutly no doubt in my mind. It seems to me as though she is trying to test you to see how you truly feel about her. I think your ignoring her is going about it the wrong way your only pushing her closer to her old boss. Be romantic take her out on your first date all over again (if possible) bring back the sparks and the mystery of whats going to happen next. Your still in her heart, you know her better than the other guy does. Girls like it when guys know everything they like and surprise them. My boyfriend makes it a point to take me somewhere at least one a month. he once blindfolded me and took me to the zoo. I mentioned I wanted to go months earlier, and even though I had forgotten that I had even asked he rememerberd months later. Its the greatest feeling in the world for a lover (man especially) to prove that they listen to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MoneySells Posted November 6, 2003 Author Share Posted November 6, 2003 I so want to do what you said. We did hang out and did something fun at the spur of the moment. We love playing games with eachother like basketball, bowling and things like that. So we went bowling and had a great time, it was like nothing was different. had a great dinner afterwords, and it was just a great night. She kissed me deeply like we have since we started dating, then started to cry, because she knows she hurting me and then goes back to the needed space thing to figure things out. Everytime I do something romantic, she loves it but says.. I need space , saying she's confused and needs to deal with her feelings. but then will go out with this other guy, saying she needs to know if our love is true. Which doesn't make sense to me, because if she has doubts wouldn't she want to spend time with me and then figure out if its right or not. maybe she's scared I will ask her to marry me. I so want to right now, but i'm afraid. Link to post Share on other sites
sexy Posted November 6, 2003 Share Posted November 6, 2003 Hi there you sad boy! Well its true what they say life aint that easy always but thats life. So she loves someone else, its not right to do this towards you and i mean you love her so much it must hurt alot. If i were in your position as a man and not a women I would leave her until she makes up her mind cause things like this happens in life or in any relathinship. Be glad it happened now and not further future cause at that time your love for her would be much more than its now. Take it from me give her time, nobody said women are easy. In the end she has to choose and even if its not what you hoped for, always remeber your not alone there are many people out there whom has the same problem some even worse. I may be a women but take my advice I'f seen this situation before and they were already married. Be glad your not married yet. Good luck and write back and tell me what happened. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MoneySells Posted November 6, 2003 Author Share Posted November 6, 2003 I feel like such a whimp not being able to handle this, but I love her with all my heart. I want to win her over again. Staying away from her has been the hardest thing I've ever done, my heart is in pain all the time. this is so hard, damn life and its bumps. If i stay away, what is the normal time to realize she's missing me. Link to post Share on other sites
kurty Posted November 8, 2003 Share Posted November 8, 2003 another poor thing there shouldn't be love in the first place. it hurts me as well Link to post Share on other sites
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