I'm finding this so hard..

[Lady_Black]

Hi everyone Im new here.

 

I'm currently in a LDR (Long distance relationship).

 

I have known him for 6 years, and we have been together 10 months, I have seen him twice in this space of time (the first time was before xmas for a week) and yesterday I just returned from a 2 week visit to him (He lives in Queensland and I am in Tasmania)

 

I currently can't stop crying.

 

Yesterday saying goodbye to him broke my heart.. I could see the sadness in his eyes but he didn't cry.. I cried so hard.. all the way home. I'm still crying now. I feel like I've hit a rock, like none of my plans will go ahead (I'm almost 20 and am currently living with my parents) they dont want me to move out again.. but I really want to move there..

 

I miss him so much.. I'm actually crying as I type this.

We talk every night on the phone and text messaging and IM.

 

We have planned out our future, he is 21. He is going to get a better job.. I'm going to move there and we are going to buy a house and what not.

But right now.. feels like none of this will happen. I need help.

He loves me more then anything and I love him so much.

 

Does anyone else feel like this sometimes? I'm cuddling the soft toy he gave me and wearing his t shirt im so upset..

[SophieA]

I just got back from a visit last week too. Let me tell you what I did (after crying for the first few hours)...I sucked it up and got busy. Sorry if that's harsh..lol. You've got to put the toy down, dry your tears and be happy for the visit you just had! I bet you made awesome memories! I know I did! :bunny:

 

Start working out, concentrate on school/work, find a new hobby, go out w/ friends...you've got to get busy again and you'll begin to feel a little better.

 

Of course, you'll always miss him, that never goes away. But you've just got to be glad you've got someone special to miss, keep up the communication, and realize that eventually this distance will be over and you can be together.

 

*hugs*

[carvidep]

awww Lady, you're completely normal! A few weeks ago I got back from spending a week with my sweetie and let me tell ya, I was a mess! That was my first time with him as a couple, so I wasn't sure how I would react either. I definitely spent a lot of time with the stuffed animal he gave me, too. But work helped me take my mind off of it.

 

Sophie A is right, having something to do and people around to distract you from missing him is very helpful and healthy. Not just after saying good bye, but all the time.

 

Also, don't be afraid to tell him how you're feeling. Once you do, you'll find yourself feeling much much better, and I'm sure he misses you just as much as you miss him.

 

Best of luck to you with your plans!!

[Sostressed]

your a good girl, you have to give it time and relax. If you both feel the same about eachother it will happen, give it time. I was in a LDR and things went to fast but we are trying it again. I would show him your post after you get your answers on here, I would love to know the girl i was with cared this much. good luck

[Bayern]

It's hard, but give it time. If you know things will get better think of that rather then now. Maintain focus on goals at home - maybe earning money, maybe getting an education. That way you can have an easier time with him later on.

 

The worst thing you could do is waste your time worrying about this. Good luck.

[Island Girl]

For me, it helps just to think about how lucky I am to have him in my life at all.

That I am lucky to have found him and be able to look forward to a future with him in it.

 

So many do not find their true love and you are extremely lucky to have found yours so early.

You'll have a very long life together.

 

Yes there are plans that need to be made and followed through with to get the two of you together in the same place but compared with those going out and searching endlessly (for years or even decades) for "the one" it is truly minor.

 

He has his responsibilities as far as getting to a point where you can get there. What do you have on your side of the table?

 

As far as your parents go - you are an adult and are able to make your own decisions.

Do you have a job so that you can put money aside for your move and to help with the living expenses when you do move?

 

Also, I'd advise against showing your boyfriends these posts.

Yes, he'd see that you care but he already knows that.

You may need future support in this relationship and this is a good place to do it.

There may come a time when you want to rant about him (not that he's in any way a bad guy but we can all get irritated with our partner on occasion) or something that happened and an anonymous forum is a great place to do it.