adream Posted July 16, 2009 Share Posted July 16, 2009 Hello everyone! I've a big problem(everyone have one), but I'm confused with what happened to me from these years... When I came across this forum I immediately registered expecting someone would help me out... So friends this is my situation: At my intermediate 2nd year exams I found one girl, she was beautiful and attractive... We started talking about papers and questions, she seem so quite and innocent. After a exam I asked her out so that we can talk freely. She said she will come with me on last exam, and she refused to come with me on last exam and even she wasn't looking at me at that day, I gave her my contact no. and e-mail ID. She sent me messages on my id that she didn't thought that I would be following her to home.. I said I wasn't trying to follow her. Then she said apologized. Then we started talking on internet, after one week she stopped talking wid me without any reason, every thing was fine we were talking just like any other friends would talk... Surprisingly I failed in exam. In instant exams I discussed this matter with her friend, she said she will ask her to call me. She called me and said what I want to say, and this is the last time we are talking, I thought this last time I'm talking to her so I straightly said that I love her! She said she is already engaged, I said "You don't even know how to lie" she didn't said anything till 10 seconds then said that she is putting down the phone, and she did what she said...! After that she took admission in a college.. (I should tell you that I'm very DETECTIVE kind of a persion). So I found out where she lives, her home phone number. in which college she took admission, what she is studying each and everything...!! I was crazy about her!! My mind was completely blank except her beautiful face. I went to her college sent message through a watchman, she called me.... She refused to meet... This happened many times... I would always find myself wondering about her... I couldn't think anything except her... I WAS EVEN READY TO MARRY HER THAT TIME!! One day I asked her to meet me one and last time after that I wouldn't come at her college.. She agreed... We discussed this matter and she said that if her parents are ready she doesn't have any problem meeting me... I asked her if she have any boyfriend, she said no... I said that I will meet you only after 3 years at your home with my parents... After some more discussions I came back home seeing her for last time... As I said I'm investigator kind of a person, I LITERALLY HACKED HER YAHOO ACCOUNT!! I used to keep an eye on her friends, untill one day when I saw ID and phone number there which says "JAANU!!!".... I was completely smashed, completely destroyed!!!! Eveything seems to be destroyed with in a second...! I was wondering "Hhhhhow she can do this to me?" because she said that she is not interested in boys, and she won't talk to any guy in future... I was completely F**ked up...!! I couldn't even shout loudly because it was 3AM! I couldn't think anything except breaking something or other thing... Damn it I loved her so much!! How can this happened to me? This was my first love! Then I thought, I would let her go and never talk to her again... One day while I was talking to my friends she came online and started talking to me (What would I have done?) I started talking to her, but did said anything about what I found about her... She said we can be friends.. I said ok, (but I was feeling so jealous and wanted to kill her or atleast yell at her)... we used to chat on internet for just mins in months... Now after 4 years she came online while I was chatting with my friends and started talking to me, she daringly said that she is very bored her boyfriend is not replying to her messages, lifting her phone up... I was shocked!! I really wanted to shout at her... But I wasn't sure what should I do... She asked my phone number first time ever she met me... I was very angry... Again I WAS VERY VERY VERY ANGRY ... Just feeling like killing her for playing with me like this... She asked my phone number again and again... I GAVE HER BOYFRIEND'S number...!!! She was shocked and didn't replied for 20 seconds... She said this is not your number... I said this is my number... She said this is not your number, this can't be your number... I said you asked my number I gave you my number, how can you say that this is my number, then whos number is this? She said she think she knows whos number is that but didn't recognize it... Then finally I gave her my number... Then second day she called me and was asking me from where did I got that number. I said, that is also my number.. She said that isn't your's that is somebody's number and she wasn't willing to say whos number it was.. This happened many times... She used to call me now and then but I was sick of this... I didn't wanted to talk to her anytime... She said why I didn't wanna say the truth. I said I will tell you when right time comes, and you should also know what is happening here... She called me again and asked me whether I have girlfriends, I said I have many friends but I didn't made any girlfriend and kept all of them at a distance. She said that she asked her boyfriend to talk about their marriage, her boyfriend's parents didn't agreed. So from that time she is not picking up his phone any more... I listened this silently and after some time the conversation was over... Then after that day we used to TEXT each other every day, then started romantic, naughty texts... But none of us accepted that we love each other... Day before yesterday she said while she was walkin in rain she couldn't get rid off my thoughts... Suddenly she stopped sending texts... or calling... I'm fed up with this... I don't know whether I want her or I should ignore her... My question is what's happening with me? What should I do with her? 1) should I leave her alone? 2) Should I reply to any of her message or should I answer her call? 3) Should I yell at her and empty my depressions? 4) Tell her everything how did I got her boyfriend's number and what I feel about her? (That would definitely will end this relationship, if something is remaining) 5) Is there any other option you people can suggest? WHAT SHOULD I DO?? I'm CONFUSED!! PLEASE HELP ME!! Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted July 16, 2009 Share Posted July 16, 2009 ...weird, creepy stalker story... My question is what's happening with me? What should I do with her? 1) should I leave her alone? YES. 2) Should I reply to any of her message or should I answer her call? No. 3) Should I yell at her and empty my depressions? No. 4) Tell her everything how did I got her boyfriend's number Yes. 5) Is there any other option you people can suggest? WHAT SHOULD I DO?? I'm CONFUSED!! PLEASE HELP ME!! Remove yourself from her life completely. You are walking down a very unhealthy path. Please seek professional help before you do something dangerous. Link to post Share on other sites
JUSTdaNCE Posted July 16, 2009 Share Posted July 16, 2009 (but I was feeling so jealous and wanted to kill her I agree with the PP- Please get help. The above statement is not healthy at all! Link to post Share on other sites
Author adream Posted July 17, 2009 Author Share Posted July 17, 2009 Hey! I didn't mean that...!! I can't kill any one! That too whom I love... That time anyone would have felt like that... Trust me I won't do that... Now she is talking to me... Now she is just texting me now and then... I feel that I should give her a second chance... And at the same time I couldn't decide what exactly should I do? There are lots of IFs and BUTs ... But no specific answer for my pain.. Link to post Share on other sites
mark982 Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 she's the root of your problems! elimate the problem. Link to post Share on other sites
Le Rendezvous Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 she's the root of your problems! elimate the problem. OP might take the word "eliminate" the wrong way! Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted July 23, 2009 Share Posted July 23, 2009 OP might take the word "eliminate" the wrong way! I guess that was the joke. Link to post Share on other sites
Author adream Posted July 23, 2009 Author Share Posted July 23, 2009 Oh God!! I couldn't do anything about her... Neither I'm able to accept her, nor able to let her go... I'm completely messed up... I couldn't sleep at night if she doesn't call me or text me for a day! At the same time when she call me or text me I take her for granted... I couldn't understand my feelings, what I really want.. I want you people to give me advice... I don't want to go anywhere else that is the reason why I joined this forum.. Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted July 23, 2009 Share Posted July 23, 2009 Oh God!! I couldn't do anything about her... Neither I'm able to accept her, nor able to let her go... I'm completely messed up... I couldn't sleep at night if she doesn't call me or text me for a day! At the same time when she call me or text me I take her for granted... I couldn't understand my feelings, what I really want.. I want you people to give me advice... I don't want to go anywhere else that is the reason why I joined this forum.. You got advice - leave her alone and remove yourself from her life. You're to weak to do that, so .. why not ask again and again for advice until someone gives you the advice that you prefer, not the advice that you need....oh wait, that's what you are doing. Link to post Share on other sites
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