Dexter Morgan Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 Never said that. I'm not sure where you are getting that. I think I've maintained all along that I didn't know what to expect from him... I was suprised by his complete lack of action. some men just have good sense about them and know that getting into a physical altercation isn't going to do a thing. what would he have accomplished by fighting you? Like I said, if he were like me, he simply wouldn't have seen his cheating wife as worth the effort. Just like I told the OM in my situation when I went to see him after he tried to intimidate me over the phone, I told him he did me a favor and better him than me. i think you wanted him to try something, so you could tell a story of how you beat the hell out of him so that you can brag about not only that you took his woman, but humiliated him by beating him up too. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 Here is the best part about us martial arts types. 1) We always have my martial arts with me, do you always carry a gun? 2) We know how to use your skills and are willing to use them, are you willing to shoot someone? 3) Most importantly are you willing to use said gun and lose your freedom and go to jail? See this is why just going out and fighting someone you don't know is stupid. You don't know what type of person (mental & skill wise) that you are dealing with. pkn, this is a post I agree 100%. Never have I started a fight, never have I desired to be in one. I have trained for over 20 years now and I have learned that there IS always someone bigger and tougher. And you are absolutely right with your last sentence....you NEVER know who you are dealing with. You might be dealing with someone that, if you beat him with your fists, might come back on you with a knife later. and if its anything my training has tought me, is that I shouldn't have to fight....much less over a worthless cheating woman. Only thing I'll ever fight for, or get physical over is to protect my children, or another loved one. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 Hereisnow... reading comprehension is not your Forté? Let me quote myself... "but he will be around because of the kids... so I have to get a read on him to a certain extent." Yes, my focus is on our relationship and how we will handle him in the future. whats to handle? sounds like he didn't want anything to do with you. sounds like you really want something to happen. my guess is that you will create a problem to push him to the limit in hopes that he will try to fight you. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 Well, if you kill someone with your barehands... you're going to jail just as quickly if you shoot someone not if its self defense. ... so, I don't see your point. Still, you put too much faith in your martial arts... I've seen a multitude of martial arts guys run their mouths off... it's laughable. then those type of guys aren't the ones that take the arts seriously. They are in it for the wrong reasons. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 Sure I read that. His kids are not your responsibility. That is between him and his wife. If he isn't focusing on you, then you have nothing to worry abut. exactly. and if SD decides he wants to meddle and get in the middle of him and his kids lives in a detrimental way, then his ho's xH could use that in court against her. Now, you can insult me all you like, but I still don't understand why you care so much about the BS and his actions. It's not like you are in any danger. Quite the opposite. he gets off on thinking he has power over the BS. he is on a macho show off trip. ths BS handled if perfectly! SD and the ho just wasn't worth the effort. nobody is, much less them. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 kill??? Oh you only go that far when you know the law allows for that possibility. I personally know how much force you can apply in a given situation and under what circumstances and not get in trouble. The martial arts guys you see running their mouths are those that don't know anything. The really dangerous ones are the ones that don't say anything. The dangerous ones are the ones that react in a cold efficient manor. right you are pkn. here is one of my favorite "proverbs". "Beware the fury of a patient man" Link to post Share on other sites
Author spiraling downward Posted July 21, 2009 Author Share Posted July 21, 2009 some men just have good sense about them and know that getting into a physical altercation isn't going to do a thing. what would he have accomplished by fighting you? Like I said, if he were like me, he simply wouldn't have seen his cheating wife as worth the effort. Just like I told the OM in my situation when I went to see him after he tried to intimidate me over the phone, I told him he did me a favor and better him than me. i think you wanted him to try something, so you could tell a story of how you beat the hell out of him so that you can brag about not only that you took his woman, but humiliated him by beating him up too. Geeze Dex... You sure know how to get the last word in a thread... Me thinks you may be projecting your own humiliation onto my situation. Trust me, the sun will come out tomorrow!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author spiraling downward Posted July 21, 2009 Author Share Posted July 21, 2009 I think you are saying that he should have been 'the man' and faced off with you (just like you did with your W's OM). However, I ask you why YOU were NOT 'the man' and face off with the H, for swearing at a lady (your g/f, his W) in front of you! In my mind, you should have stopped him from badmouthing your MW in front of you!!! Wow Athena! You went right for the nads with that one... maybe I should have done more. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 21, 2009 Share Posted July 21, 2009 Geeze Dex... You sure know how to get the last word in a thread... Me thinks you may be projecting your own humiliation onto my situation. no, its obvious what you are trying to do here...others have called you out on it as well since it was so obvious. no sense in backpeddling now...we all know you wanted to humiliate him even further, and when you didn't get the expected reaction out of him, you manufactured an opinion that he wasn't man enough to fight for her. as if there was anything for him worth fighting for. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 21, 2009 Share Posted July 21, 2009 I think you are saying that he should have been 'the man' and faced off with you (just like you did with your W's OM). However, I ask you why YOU were NOT 'the man' and face off with the H, for swearing at a lady (your g/f, his W) in front of you! he wasn't swearing at a "lady". Link to post Share on other sites
Author spiraling downward Posted July 21, 2009 Author Share Posted July 21, 2009 Except that enabling women rarely leave their alcoholic husbands. She's not perfect by no means, but who amongst us really is? I should have said... "enabling women rarely leave their alcoholic husbands when they have children at home..." that is the correct statement. Link to post Share on other sites
Author spiraling downward Posted July 21, 2009 Author Share Posted July 21, 2009 She is the consolation prize. She is what he gets for winning her from her H. The OP isn't the prize (OP meant in a general, affair sense). On this forum, the OPs want the MP to leave the marriage. That is why the MP is the prize, not the OP. But yes, the H won the ultimate prize: proof and a likely uncontested divorce. Thank goodness for no-fault divorce... it makes things much easier for us cheaters. BTW, MW's hubby is out running around as well... there are pictures of him and his gal plastered all over facebook... with time stamps to boot. MW and I weren't even that stupid!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author spiraling downward Posted July 21, 2009 Author Share Posted July 21, 2009 Now why in the world would any decent mother NOT want to remove herself AND her children from a home in which an alcoholic resides? Perhaps she's bending the truth just a tad, as cheaters most often do. Most do not. You can do the research yourself. I already have. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 21, 2009 Share Posted July 21, 2009 BTW, MW's hubby is out running around as well... there are pictures of him and his gal plastered all over facebook... with time stamps to boot. MW and I weren't even that stupid!! so what? he deserves to get out and have fun with another woman. his marriage to a cheater is dead. whats stupid about it? unfortunately, cheating whether one spouse has moved on or not, has no bearing in a divorce. it doesn't factor in...even with custody of children. good for him. I hope he realizes that there are better women out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author spiraling downward Posted July 21, 2009 Author Share Posted July 21, 2009 no, its obvious what you are trying to do here...others have called you out on it as well since it was so obvious. no sense in backpeddling now...we all know you wanted to humiliate him even further, and when you didn't get the expected reaction out of him, you manufactured an opinion that he wasn't man enough to fight for her. as if there was anything for him worth fighting for. I really don't care anything about him, why would I? Oh.. are you insulting my woman? I might have to kick your azz... Link to post Share on other sites
Author spiraling downward Posted July 21, 2009 Author Share Posted July 21, 2009 Uh, yeah. Okay. Sounds good. be careful donna... you could be wrong on this one. Yes, I have researched this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author spiraling downward Posted July 21, 2009 Author Share Posted July 21, 2009 so what? he deserves to get out and have fun with another woman. his marriage to a cheater is dead. whats stupid about it? unfortunately, cheating whether one spouse has moved on or not, has no bearing in a divorce. it doesn't factor in...even with custody of children. good for him. I hope he realizes that there are better women out there. good one Dex... yes, what did I just say? It's a no-fault divorce in a no-fault divorce state. If he was thinking of fighting for custody though... facebook pics with his honey will not serve him well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author spiraling downward Posted July 21, 2009 Author Share Posted July 21, 2009 I don't see how anyone can speak with every person who has ever cheated since the dawn of man, NOR how said person could KNOW that what is being told to them is THE TRUTH, even if they WERE able to actually take data from ALL CHEATERS ON THE PLANET. What I do know, however is what I read on this forum, and THAT tells me nearly 100% of them lie, lie, lie! Um, donna, please come down off your high horse... I did not get this info from my MW... you are playing the fool right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 21, 2009 Share Posted July 21, 2009 I really don't care anything about him, why would I? dunno...you decided to devote a post to his turning the other cheek and questioning it. rather silly waste of time for someone that doesn't care anything about him, no? Oh.. are you insulting my woman? I don't need to insult your "woman". I might have to kick your azz... Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 21, 2009 Share Posted July 21, 2009 good one Dex... yes, what did I just say? It's a no-fault divorce in a no-fault divorce state. If he was thinking of fighting for custody though... facebook pics with his honey will not serve him well. again, having fun with another woman, or infidelity on either side do not come into play with regards to custody. doesn't really matter, your "woman" will get custody if she wants it simply because she is a woman. Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted July 21, 2009 Share Posted July 21, 2009 Most do not. You can do the research yourself. I already have. Really? Hmm --- what research? As I stated before, I was with an alcoholic and had a small child and I DID leave my ex. So it can and HAS been done; by MANY. Just not the female you are with. And Donna, you nailed it. Any "DECENT" mother would leave Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted July 21, 2009 Share Posted July 21, 2009 again, having fun with another woman, or infidelity on either side do not come into play with regards to custody. doesn't really matter, your "woman" will get custody if she wants it simply because she is a woman. So SD, you think the cheating mother would get custody? HELLO - you were out in a public place with your 'woman'. MANY people saw her out with her new "man". Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 21, 2009 Share Posted July 21, 2009 So SD, you think the cheating mother would get custody? HELLO - you were out in a public place with your 'woman'. MANY people saw her out with her new "man". it doesn't matter. being a hussbag isn't enough to be deemed "unfit" in the eyes of the courts. It should be, but it isn't. Link to post Share on other sites
Author spiraling downward Posted July 21, 2009 Author Share Posted July 21, 2009 Really? Hmm --- what research? As I stated before, I was with an alcoholic and had a small child and I DID leave my ex. So it can and HAS been done; by MANY. Just not the female you are with. And Donna, you nailed it. Any "DECENT" mother would leave The bottom line is MOST do not. Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 Wow Athena! You went right for the nads with that one... maybe I should have done more. lol Link to post Share on other sites
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