Feeling-lost Posted November 6, 2003 Share Posted November 6, 2003 I just recently broke up with my boyfriend (11/2 month ago) of a 2 years relationship..Because I found a naked picture of a girl in his camera phone that he admitted to taken. But, swear nothing had happened. So, I forgave him after being with him for 2 weeks later, he asked me to give him space. Because, he need to figure out his life..and he can't give me 100% of himself right now. But, he still want me to be in life and be his friend. Beause he love me and don't want to lose me.. I try being in his life, but it not working out..Allot of the thing that he does bother me..eg. if he talk to a girl or anything...I don't know should I just completely get him out of my life completely and move on..Oh, should I just stand by his side till he figure out what he wants in life.... Any advices is greatly appreciated...Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted November 7, 2003 Share Posted November 7, 2003 i think you should distance yourself from him for the time being and dont keep in contact with him so much. him wanting you to be around him is almost the same as stringing you along....trust me...the both of you can move on in life if you dont keep in contact as much and do see each other as often as you did. Right now, even though he said he needs space for himself w/o the commitment he's using you to fill in his emptiness. Cause he's used to having you around him. Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted November 7, 2003 Share Posted November 7, 2003 Don't wait around for him to decide that he has to find himself. I'm sure you're a better person than all that. I find it so selfish for a person to claim they need to find themselves and expect you to wait around for them, while they have their fun and enjoy their single lives, while you sit around, being miserable, waiting for them to come around. Don't do it. I was in a similar situation with my ex and I didn't do it. By the time she claimed to have found herself and wanted me back, I was no where to be found. 'Eat your heart out' is what I was thinking. You didn't want me then and you can't have me now. I hope you do the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Feeling-lost Posted November 7, 2003 Author Share Posted November 7, 2003 Thank you vivid_29 and monkey00 for your advices.. This last couples of days I been distanting myself from him, not answering his call or anything..But, it seem so hard, I constantly thing about him in everything I do..I know that it a matter of time that I will get him out of my head. Tell me, do you think I was doing the right thing by sending him a text message? telling him to please don't call me anymore, I am giving you this space you needed and I moving on with mine. I told him that I need this time to find myself..And when I do find myself maybe then we can be friend. Because he been calling me and leaving me all these messages telling me he miss me and don't know what my problem is for not answering his call. I don't know, i thought that every relationship was suppose to be less of a hurt! Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted November 7, 2003 Share Posted November 7, 2003 I don't know. The fact that he's actually contacting you a lot is throwing me for a loop. In my situation, I haven't gotten jack **** so that lessens the hope big time, but with this...man. Either he's totally confused and doesn't know what he wants at all, or he's just keeping you as back up. Maybe you should just have a long talk with him to figure out whats going on. Link to post Share on other sites
bark Posted November 7, 2003 Share Posted November 7, 2003 Feeling-lost (by the way,nice name), I suspect your "I need my personal space" bf is using you as back-up, a relationship insurance policy in case his other "projects" don't pan out. You have two choices. First, you can cool your heals, and be at his emotional, sexual beck and call until he concludes that "his space" is not all it's cracked up to be. Of course, he may find something (or someone) he considers better to inhabit his "space" and not come back to you. The most likely result. That's the "door mat" option. Or, you can end this hurtful relationship, seize life with gusto and move on to bigger and better things. That's the "FU" option. I think you know which one I recommend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Feeling-lost Posted November 7, 2003 Author Share Posted November 7, 2003 Thanks again..posting my issues on here and getting allot of your advices, especially from people that are going through the same heartache as I am really loosen up the hurt inside.. you guys are right..I know in a sense that I have to distances myself from him regardless how painful it is.Like everyone say, if he really love me he will be back.... Again thank you to all for your support....I wish that you guys find peace and happiness in u're current/ future relationship.. Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted November 8, 2003 Share Posted November 8, 2003 Just take it one day at a time and you will see that the pain will ease. It's gonna take a little time, but you will survive this! Link to post Share on other sites
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