Shaena Posted November 7, 2003 Share Posted November 7, 2003 Hey, I've been seeing a guy for 4 months and it's all going really well - apart from one thing - he has numerous ex's hanging around ! I've met 5 of them so far - in social settings too, when I wasn't even aware they were his ex's. I don't mind them, as such, they're nice and at a party, we will talk and get along.. but, it seems that every week there is a new ex who happens to go into his work, or message his phone, or phone him. I think I've done really well over the past 4 months - have only mentioned it a few times and cried a tiny bit, heh. His defence is 'it isn't my fault I have a past', but you know, that past shouldn't have to be my present, you know ? So today was the final straw with a new ex phoning him as I dropped him off at work. I didn't say anything at the time, then got really mad when I got home, so messaged his phone a few times.. and he basically came back with 'you need to get over it.. you're stressing too much.. I want to be with you, not them..'. And I know, rationally, that is he right. But now he won't even see me tonight to talk about it.. And as I have an exam tomorrow at 9am, I'm not exactly coping. So I guess my question is, how can I make him realise how upset it makes me ? Or, how do I make it not bother me ? I love him, but you know, it hurts so bad that I would prefer not to be with him.. but I don't want to lose him : ( Thanks for any help.. : ) Link to post Share on other sites
santiagi Posted November 7, 2003 Share Posted November 7, 2003 Make him get in your shoes for example. Ask him how would he like it if it was the other way around. I am sure he wouldn't. My new love has an ex-girl(fling) who from the beginning he mentioned to me that there is NOTHING between them. They are good friends and he cares for her because she had a baby from a good for nothing man(her husband) and her family is always calling him (because they would have prefer it was he she was with) for help when she and her husband get in a fight. Anyways they were not really anything(as per him and my co-workers, so I am convinced). She knows he is with me and that is all that matters. He also has another ex that calls him all the time to let him know that she is back with her ex. But the fact of the matter is that I appreciate that he tells me everything and is very honest about his past. Link to post Share on other sites
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