ldr- he now moved close to my city

[blackwidow290]

Hi everyone,

 

I'm going to describe the details of a ldr situation that I was recently involved in. I'm 21 and the guy I met is two years older from me. We had been friends for about 3 years, chatting a few times a week online. I live in Toronto and he's on the westcoast of Canada, even though originally he grew up here. What prompted me to go out there? My best friend's girlfriend moved to the city he's in and my best friend is spending the entire summer there. She asked me to join her. I kept on talking to him as usual online, I just considered him a friend and he asked me a few times to come out to visit him...and seeing the opportunity and having my best friend there also I thought why not. I went out there, spend a couple of weeks at his place. We got along really well, laughing, helping each other out around the house, doing outdoors stuff, and I met a lot of his friends. We openly said that we like each other. We didnt sleep together until the 11th day or 12th .. dont quite remember, which I think is pretty impressive. haha. The day that I was leaving, he was unusually quiet and sad. He said that he would come to my city, meet me soon, but did not specify when he'd do that. And when I got here he'd left a voice msg to call him to make sure I arrived safely. And we kept on exchanging txts on how we miss each other for about a month. I think I felt some separation distress so I tried not to go online, to not talk.. cos it's really hard initially when you can't be with that person. And when we did talk we kept it really short and always tried to find things to do. I felt that it was really difficult to communicate with him abotu what I wanted to ask.. as in should I just move on? or should I wait until a specific time? there was no talk about the future concretely. The last time I talked to him online he was just complaining about how his friends suck and he has no one to go out with bla bla, quite annoying. So a month passed and I started to feel frustrated and I thought that there's no point holding on to something that is 'virtual'.. and consists of occassionally talking online and exchanging texts. And I felt like he just left me high and dry.. I sent him an email, which was rather harsh but reflective of how I felt (those that have been in ldr-s will certainly understand) stating that he's not enough of a risk taker, that I'm disappointed, that the follow-up was inadequate, insufficient, and that I'm hurt cos I was emotionally involved and cant remain friends. He did Not reply to my email, I guess it sounded like I had pretty much made up my mind about him. I did not talk to him for three weeks after that, I blocked him on msn. I was missing him one day and I unblocked him and he just went offline. Afew days afterwards, he texts me saying hi, we make small talk, and he tells me he's moved back home! I felt so frustrated that he'd share something like that through texting. He had mentioned the possibility of moving back here a while ago and when I was there it seemed like his life was a bit out of control and he didnt know what he was doing.. but still! I asked him why hes txting me in the first place.. and he said to say hi. And we made some small talk afterwards. Today, I went online to perhaps talk? and immediately he went offline. Then after a bit, he came back on but did not talk to me. I dont know if he doesnt like me? but these grade 1 games are pretty frustrating. Shouldnt a guy be more upfront? If I can travel on the other side of the continent to see him, he can do this much right? Any insights? Should I just move on?