Sostressed Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 OK so I met my ex gf on vacation last yearmonth. We were together 6 months then broke up, we had big plans of moving in together and getting married and all sorts of things that happened to fast. I can see that it was going way to fast now, i was love stuck i believe. But about a month before we were suppose to be living together it just didnt seem right between us, she felt distant and just before I knew it I lost it and ended it. Alot of other things building up to this to made me feel really stressed, as you can tell by my username when i was seeking help at first. Anyway, that was about 7 months and we have been talking ever since. I think things have calmed down between us and we have been talking about "working things out". Im just trying to figure out if this is a good idea or not, she lives about 400 miles away which isnt terrible but still I can only see her a few days out of a month. I have no idea what to do, any input? It comes down to this, I have alot of feelings for this girl and I believe shes the same towards me or she wouldnt be talking/texting me all day everyday. I really dont want to go through what i did go through when we broke up i was a mess. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted July 21, 2009 Share Posted July 21, 2009 It comes down to this, I have alot of feelings for this girl and I believe shes the same towards me or she wouldnt be talking/texting me all day everyday. I really dont want to go through what i did go through when we broke up i was a mess. I lost it and ended it. So the lesson to be learned is even if you are stressed, even if you aren't getting along at the moment, -- you hang on and keep working at it. At any given time in any relationship a person can get fed up or overwhelmed, etc. and walk away. The successful relationships who have been together for years and years are that way (and going strong) because neither one WALKS AWAY. The two of you broke up because YOU ended it. So don't do that again. And you should really be crawling on your knees (they should be bloody) and really really thankful that she has it in her heart to forgive you and give you another chance. I wouldn't. If my husband cut and run on me (I could give a crap how difficult things were etc.) then that'd be it. I'd never invest myself again. In our relationship -- even before we were married it was "we are together no matter what". The only reason either of us would end it is if there was continual bad treatment and treating the other person badly -- or cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
blueyedchika Posted July 21, 2009 Share Posted July 21, 2009 I agree.....you walked away & ended up getting hurt and missing her so dont let her go this time. Hold on to it. But be honest & open with her about your feelings. Make sure to take things a bit slower this time & be clear that marraige is in your future desires but not in your short term plan/goals. Link to post Share on other sites
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