aqua Posted November 7, 2003 Share Posted November 7, 2003 I met this guy in college and well we had this very casual relationship, we went on dates and had sex and hanged out in each others dorms. This went on for about a year or so. Then when we graduated I moved into my own place and he in his. Then we took a break for about a year and he met someone and had a child and I met someone too. Then we started dating again for no specific reason, its been five years, I spend the night at his house 3 times a week, and then all weekend, we go out to dinner, lunch, movies, clubs, shopping, events, bars, family events together, budget money together, care for his child together etc... I told him I want gf/bf, I hate being introduced as his friend. Even though are friends always make comments like we should just get married already, we smile, but hey its true I want a relationship together. And for the last 2 years I have told him that I want more and he says hes not ready. He recently told me that I am his best friend and he doesn't want to ruin that and that although he loves me we don't have a committed relationship future together. I don't understand, especially since he told me the other day when someone asked me out, that I shouldn't be dating other people and he says he isnt. On the same note, we have to keep our relationship secret with his roommate and co-workers but not his family or friends. I have told him that I want a committed relationship and he says that I am not the love of his life. I have tried ending the relationship but have this hope. Link to post Share on other sites
ArdeaCandidissima Posted November 7, 2003 Share Posted November 7, 2003 Good thing you have hope, it seems to be about the only thing you've got with this guy. Hopefully he's a good lay because it seems like everything else about him stinks. [he said] we don't have a committed relationship future together.... he told me ....that I shouldn't be dating other people... we have to keep our relationship secret with his roommate and co-workers...he says that I am not the love of his life... Well, it's pretty clear that he has another girl, probably a co-worker, that his roommate knows about. She may even be the mother of his child. He wants to have you available when the love of his life is busy, I guess, especially since you're so good at wiping the kid's nose, so it's more convenient for him if YOU don't have anyone else in your life. You could still be living the same non-life with the same non-boyfriend twenty years from now, if you want. Link to post Share on other sites
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