bluewolf17 Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Dear Boots, I have known you..since third grade. You have always been there for me. I know you have a big heart. I know you are busy with a demanding job, and don't have a lot of free time. Your the type of friend I can go months without seeing or talking to, and we always pick up right were we left off. But I don't like those long periods. In the last year you have absorbed yourself in your boyfriend. Listen, I adore him, I really do. He's a catch and a great guy. I just wish when I made plans with you, only you would show up. Sure, bring him sometimes, but not ALWAYS. Also, why do I always have to make the plans? And I am always the one to come to your part of town. I know things are ****ty right now. I know you and X are going through a split. I'm sure that has a lot to do with how you are acting now. I wish you could understand that you will be okay. Your friends will be there. Link to post Share on other sites
Cora Posted September 18, 2009 Share Posted September 18, 2009 Friend: I realize I may not always give the best advice and I'm really sorry if you feel that way. I try to help you figure out all your problems, but please stop telling me I like to play the victim as soon as I start letting out all of my problems and saying I have to stop looking for attention. That really bugs the hell out of me and if I weren't so nice I'd tell you a piece of my mind. Do you actually think I enjoy hearing about all of your boyfriend problems? No, but I try to help you instead of putting a label on you and telling you what I really think to make you feel all shytty! Sometimes you just get on my nerves!!! Link to post Share on other sites
forever_waiting Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 friend #1: i wish you weren't so hot-headed. it really annoys me when you contradict yourself and don't validate anyone getting angry with you, when you make meaningless excuses to be angry with them. you act like a spoiled child when you don't get your own way. if someone's upset at you, you stop talking to them out of spite. you made an assumption that i was mad at you for something and tossed aside our plans to spend one little weekend together, because you decided to go out for drinks with other people at the last minute. you don't even bother to ring me, i have no idea where you are or whether you're still coming. i'm waiting all day for you to get in touch. then you call me to announce that by the way, you're out somewhere else now, as though i hadn't figured out by now that you weren't turning up. and you get mad at me for being upset about it. honestly, i wish i could hang out with you more, and i realise that's not possible, but it really hurts when you crush the time i do have with you that i look forward to most. i wish you'd realise how precious our time together is to me. also, i wish you would stop telling me about how you've been lusting over some new guy you've met every other week. you can't lead on every man that flirts with you- they just want to get into your pants because you have big boobs and a playful nature, so stop giving them the attention. i'm sorry, but it's true. i don't want to see you get hurt by some jerk who chatted you up at work. take a cold shower woman, because you're acting like a bitch in heat!! friend #2: i know i haven't been the best friend as of late. it's not an excuse, but please realise that since you moved it's difficult to visit you because i have no job and can't afford the journeys. i really love hanging out with you, and i wish we didn't have this gap between us. but since we've been apart it's like everything has become about you. i make sure to talk to you often to catch up, see how you are. even if it's just five minutes on MSN to say 'hi' because you're too busy to talk. but you never bother to talk to me when i don't initiate conversation, or ring me when you're making a journey through town. when you go off to do things with our friends that i can't afford to join in with, you tell me how it's a shame i couldn't go, you say it's been ages since we met up to do stuff we used to do, yet you never make any effort to visit me. in fact the only times you seem interested are when you keep telling me how much i need to see your new apartment/car/pet cat. so i save up the money to come and visit for the weekend, and you act like you're bored with me as soon as you have nothing left to gloat about. i realise you now have an amazing job, money, a big apartment, a car. your life is perfect- i don't envy you any of it, yet you always seem to rub it in my face. it hurts when you act like you measure our friendship by how much more you have than me. to sum up, why do friends always seem to care less about you than you do about them?? it drives me crazy!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author kizik Posted November 25, 2009 Author Share Posted November 25, 2009 bump ...................... Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 Kizik! Where the hell have you been, man? Link to post Share on other sites
Author kizik Posted November 26, 2009 Author Share Posted November 26, 2009 Kizik! Where the hell have you been, man? Sup, brother? Link to post Share on other sites
cheergirl Posted November 27, 2009 Share Posted November 27, 2009 Friend: I love you and have done since we started hanging out...both of us raising hell... Maybe giving each other permission to be crazy and not grow up. You are bossy..I don't mind so much, I am a bit passive in my interpersonal relationships. But being passive doesn't mean I am happy being verbally abused, shouted at or not listened to. Whenever i wish to express my discomfort or unhappiness with any aspect of our relationship, you spin it around faster than the speed of light and make it my fault... You have done this to me so much and just makes me realise you're like Cartman on the episode of South Park when they write the FishDicks joke... Reality doesn't come into it when you replay back what I said to you..It is ALWAYS my fault. I'm always having a go, or rude or most recently, "horrible" to you... Because that's how I'm known isn't it? Au contraire, I think most people see me as a hell of a lot less abrasive than you. You see, I try to be nice to people and you are rude so often it's embarassing... I know you have difficulties; I have been there for you and you have been there for me. However simple courtesy, kindness, and respect for each other should not be taken for granted. You lose your temper and speak to me like a piece of ****, than go away for a day or so and say "I was just tired" or some other such excuse.... You have been quite nasty since the other day and I didn't deserve it. I calmly try to explain my position and I am shot down in flames... Castigated and then told I am at fault... I am sorry, but I don't deserve to be treated like this by you or anyone else...I had a husband for that... I won't take it from my girlfriends so, I wish you all the best, and Good-Bye... Good luck, you have lost a good friend... Humility, gentleness and kindness go a long way... I hope you will familiarize yourself with these qualities one day soon... Link to post Share on other sites
Boundary Problem Posted December 3, 2009 Share Posted December 3, 2009 Friend: I hope you find your path in life. The path that will make you happy. I would love nothing better than to see you happy. I hope that day isn't too far away, but I'm prepared to be patient. I can't seem to turn my back on you. So I won't. No matter how hard you push me away. I don't know. I just feel like I'm supposed to guard over you until you get back on your feet. You just don't seem to want to try to get up and sometimes I get frustrated and take it out on you. I just hate seeing someone I care about in pain. Give it 6 hours and we'll be back there. The wheel keeps turning and the pain is predictable. But I just cannot walk away. I like to see people successful in their lives and living out their lives on their own terms. That is what I want for you - nothing less. We just have to get through this difficult bit. It would bring me such joy to know that you are happy again and I fear that will take a long long time. Link to post Share on other sites
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