amarselenia Posted July 23, 2009 Share Posted July 23, 2009 Hello everyone,was just wondering if i could get some advice from you on Long distance relationships and relationships in general. I've been together with my boyfriend for over a year and we have a very difficult relationship, we have been on and off for years and when we are together we are either on top of the moon or miserable. He has cheated on me and I have lied to him- we have made multiple new starts and our relationship at the moment is very confusing he broke up with me and asked me to drown myself in the Hudson and then all of a sudden we are back together (yet he still isn't calling me or replying properly to my emails which is very unlike him) At the moment he is away in America and I am meant to be joining him on sunday for three weeks and then he is moving to London- I will be moving there next year. I just wanted to ask - do you think we will last? We have promised each other a lot of things in life and I really can't live without him and I know he would struggle without me but I'm afraid he'll meet someone new. Does anyone have any advice for sustaining a long distance relationship which is on the brink of collapse? Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted July 23, 2009 Share Posted July 23, 2009 based on your history, no, honey, I don't think your relationship will survive the time and distance thing because it just isn't that strong to begin with. that said, ANYTHING is possible ... just promise yourself that you will not be so hooked into this guy that you won't be able to function if the worst actually happens, and you split up for good. It's one thing to care deeply for someone, and whole 'nother thing to think you cannot function without that person. You can. And you will. You've just got to allow yourself to do so. hugs, q Link to post Share on other sites
somuchpain Posted July 23, 2009 Share Posted July 23, 2009 Maybe the distance will make you both see how much you need each other and will bring you back closer together. seb x Link to post Share on other sites
SophieA Posted July 23, 2009 Share Posted July 23, 2009 Sorry sweetie, but anyone who tells me go to drown myself is gonna get dropped like a hot potato. I don't care how angry I am with my S/O I don't call him disgusting names or tell him to kill himself. Just from your short post your relationship sounds shaky and you've got to be solid as a rock to survive LD. Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted July 23, 2009 Share Posted July 23, 2009 Seriously? No. This wont last. I'll be surprised if it will last the visit to America. He told you to go drown yourself in the Hudson? Really? You think this guy is worthy of your time? I wouldn't let my DOG date this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovin a scrapper Posted July 23, 2009 Share Posted July 23, 2009 I cant even fathom that there is any question about this. If there is any kind of distance in this relationship then is should be you distancing yourself as far away from this so called person as you can. Link to post Share on other sites
somuchpain Posted July 23, 2009 Share Posted July 23, 2009 It is very horrid of him to say that i must say, but people can say stupid things when they are angry, and i really hope that he wasnt serious when he says that. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovin a scrapper Posted July 23, 2009 Share Posted July 23, 2009 It is very horrid of him to say that i must say, but people can say stupid things when they are angry, and i really hope that he wasnt serious when he says that. Angry or not, telling someone to commit suicide is unacceptable in any way, form or fashion. Link to post Share on other sites
somuchpain Posted July 23, 2009 Share Posted July 23, 2009 Yes i know, just awfull:( Some people come out with some nasty words Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 Then those people don't deserve second chances. I don't give excuses or second chances to people like that. Mathew knows that the second he says anything like that to me is the second he doesn't hear from me again. NO MAN OR WOMAN should ever, and I mean ever get away with doing that. Anyone can feel free to disagree but I've got money that says they've been a doormat once or twice in their lives to even begin to make excuses for that behavior. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovin a scrapper Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 Then those people don't deserve second chances. I don't give excuses or second chances to people like that. Mathew knows that the second he says anything like that to me is the second he doesn't hear from me again. NO MAN OR WOMAN should ever, and I mean ever get away with doing that. Anyone can feel free to disagree but I've got money that says they've been a doormat once or twice in their lives to even begin to make excuses for that behavior. You know what Rollercoasterr? They dont even deserve a first chance IMO. That post about what he said is probably the most horrible and disturbing thing that I have seen on here. Link to post Share on other sites
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