patcha Posted July 23, 2009 Share Posted July 23, 2009 yeah. i know a way to know about this for sure is to just ask her, but i tried. recently, i've been keeping my distance from a girl, b/c i was unsure about my feelings towards her. i know i like her, but i'm not sure at what level. plus, i'm not sure how she even feels about me anymore. she used to like me, but i think i made her upset about something. not sure. today she asked whether i was mad at her. and i told her "no." kidded with her about it. i asked whether we were "ok." she confirmed, but her response just sounded really formal to me. should i just back off? things are so ridiculously formal between us now. i try to lighten up the mood but no go. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 23, 2009 Share Posted July 23, 2009 patcha, someone has to take the initiative to break the ice. She's tried by asking you if you were mad at her. Now it's your turn to ask her out or you'll forever be at a stalemate, wondering and maybe regretting. It's just one date and not a proposal of marriage... No fear, okay? Link to post Share on other sites
Author patcha Posted July 23, 2009 Author Share Posted July 23, 2009 thanks trial. ok. will try with no fear. afraid of rejection. i'll be gone for the weekend but can still talk to her on the phone or IM. should i avoid the phone/im and just ask her out, when i get back? Link to post Share on other sites
Thaddeus Posted July 23, 2009 Share Posted July 23, 2009 Use the phone. It's much more personal. I think the crux of the issue is right here: i'm not sure how she even feels about me anymore. she used to like me, but i think i made her upset about something. not sure. Sounds like you asked her, "Is anything wrong?" and she replied, "No, I'm fine." Now, I've come to realize that "fine" is actually an acronym.F*cked up Insecure Neurotic Emotional So if that's the case - and I highly suspect it is - do her the honor of taking her at her word. If she says she's fine, then excellent, there's no problem and nothing needs to be discussed or addressed. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 23, 2009 Share Posted July 23, 2009 You can pave the way towards asking her out, through IM and phone. This way, if she welcomes the contact, especially if you flirt and have her return your flirting, you know she's potentially interested. If she tries to distance herself from your contact, it's a good sign not to ask her out. Consider rejection, not as a self-esteem hit, but as a way to definitively know if someone's interested in you or just messing around. Link to post Share on other sites
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