Girlfriend not inviting me to parties she attends - need input

[steammachine]

I need some input on something.

 

My girlfriend of 6 months never seems to invite me to any sort of birthday parties/parties that she might be invited too. And I don't know how I should feel about this. At first I thought "well I wasn't invited, its no big deal" but really, isn't it normal for a boyfriend or girlfriend to come along? Obviously If its a small gathering of close friends I don't expect to come along, but if its a large party... its not hard to ask if its ok for me to come along?

 

I actually brought this up with her one time as her friend ended up inviting me to her party, then a few days before the party I mentioned to my girlfriend that I was invited, and asked why she didn't ask me If i wanted to go. My girlfriend said that she didnt think i wanted to come. To which I said "how would you know if you never ask me?"

 

I just want to know if how i'm feeling about this is right? or shouldnt i feel bummed out about this? and if so why?

[shunter]

it is normal for her to go to a party with HER friends .. now if her friends are bringing their boyfriends along and you arent showing up then you might be on to something .. but otherwise, she wants to hang out with her friends and that is a good thing. you need some freedom too. next time she leaves you behind go do something fun

[New Again]

It doesn't matter if how you feel is "right."

 

If you're OK with it/it doesn't bother you/not upset, why are you asking if you're supposed to feel something else? I'm really trying to understand your question. It seems like if it's not a problem for you, why are you trying to make it into one?

[shunter]

based upon his last few sentences he is saying he is bummed about it and wondering if he shouldnt be bummed about it.

 

i do think if these are LARGE parties where couples go, then it seems a little strange that she doesnt ask. but each case is different. maybe she is shy and afraid you will meet her friends and not like them ... or who knows what crazy thoughts she might have. but unless these are couples events, OP should not be bummed about it at all

 

if they are couples events, then now is the time to talk. if she doesnt want to hear it, well at least you know what kind of a girl you have. learn to communicate. i do it from the start of my relationships and if there is no dialogue, then bye bye

[New Again]

based upon his last few sentences he is saying he is bummed about it and wondering if he shouldnt be bummed about it.

 

 

OOOOOooooooHhhhhhh. OK, thanks for clarifying, I think you must be right...now it makes more sense to me

 

OP: As other posters said, if your gf is going with her gfs who are all bringing their bfs, I would be bummed out to. If that's the case, you just need to talk to her about it. When you asked why she didn't invite you did you ask why she thought you wouldn't want to come? Maybe it's because it's mostly girls or something? Or maybe you're not into that scene? Have you ever said anything even vaguely negative about her friends?

 

Otherwise, it's perfectly normal for her to want to hang out away from you.