What is wrong with me?

[molly5252]

I am twenty three years old and my ex-boyfriend is twenty seven we had been together for four years and after the first year we moved in together and lived together for three years.

 

This summer I came home form work one night and he told me that he wanted to break up and end our relationship because he wanted to move out west and he felt that our relationship was not working out for him and he felt that we never got along.

 

The month following this was terrible as far as spliting up our posseions and things we accumulated together over the years. We also had mutule friends and they all took his side as he probaly told them all this terrible stuff about me. None of them felt comfortable remaining firends with me after our break up which was very hard.

 

He ended up having to move in with his parents because he had no savings and no vehicle.

 

All summer we have talked off and on sometimes we faught really bad and other times things were really good.

 

We recently went through another one of our huge arrguments. And a week later I called him, He said that he now knows we should end things. For one of the first tiems I was mostly o.k. with it.

 

His name remained on my savings account all summer, I asked him if we could meet up and the next day so he could sign the paperwork to take his name off the account.

 

I told him that we should tie up all these lose ends and get it over with. I was willing to drive an hour and a half so we can do just that. But he was all remorseful sounding and said I can come up by you at 1pm and sign the papers.

 

Then he is like "Well maybe we can just take a month without talking" to each other and see how we feel. Or maybe I can come down next week and sign the papers, then we can hang out.

 

I told him that if things were to end between us they had to end, and it has to be thought of as forever. YOu can not end things but make plans in a week or a month.

 

So needless to say he came up with some lame excuss not to come down I found out from a friend that he was out at a party instead.

 

I have tried to get ahold of him but I can't.

 

I can't make a decision about what to do with a realationship with him. It is very hard to be away form him because we were together for so long.

 

It sucks for years we had many of the same friends, when we broke up he told them all terrible stuff about me, so bad that no one wants to even hear my side of the story.

 

I feel like I am this crazy person. I feel so misserable with him and without him.

 

What is wrong with me?

[moimeme]

Nothing other than not having been born with a radar to tell you when you've landed a bad deal. He might come around but the signs are not good, I'm afraid.