lovesparis Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 but i googled recently engaged ex's sisters online networking page; saw pics of ex with fiancee... i feel stupid for having done it, but at the same time, my curiosity about her is satiated... and i've learned a few things about how he's changed that i don't like. ... and i think ultimately this may be a good thing in my healing process. was i stupid? Link to post Share on other sites
td0g03 Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 Well, it was bad for to do it, but not stupid. It was just a mistake, but learn from it. My advice is just realize now you know he has changed for the worst. And always remind yourself the bad things he did. And never, never search for him/anyone related to him again. Post on this forum instead of letting your curiosity get the best of you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovesparis Posted July 27, 2009 Author Share Posted July 27, 2009 i feel amazingly stupid for having looked, but at the same time, i think it might have been the thing i needed... i am so glad to not be involved with him if he's drinking... it scares me (for him) if he is. but if he's drinking, i don't want to be with him. so i'm glad i know that. additionally, i had an "a-ha" moment at my counselors office last week, about what i would need for closure: to know that he would have asked me to make a choice b/w him and another friend in my life. to know that he was a controlling d_uchenozzle.... she expects me to hear "through the grapevine" that he's done the same. i'm less expectant of such, but knowing what i would need + him drinking is more progress than i've made in 2yrs!! Link to post Share on other sites
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