Mabbsy90 Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 Ive been With my girlfriend about 10 months now and were fine everythings going great and im happy but its when i get to thinking at night were i cant sleep i tend to go to sleep every other day Lol I constantly think at night is she cheating? has she cheated in the past? or am i just paranoid ? There was this time at my m8s house we were in his bedroom and i went to the toilet and its sounded like they were kissing (more detailed she was laughing then the laughing stopped it sounded like kissing then she started laughing again) at the time i was thinking no she cant of can she? i confronted my m8 a couple of weeks later but he said nothing happend she was just pointing on her cheek tellin him to kiss her on the cheek but when i asked her she sed that nothing at all happend and when i told her what my mate said she got stressy with me and said fine belive your mate then :S and then the second thing is we was at mine one day and she told me that see cheated on me with one of my mates at football sayin that he come on to her and that it was only a kiss but then she starts sayin that she was joking and it wernt true witch really messed with my head i was up for a couple nights crying cos i was all over the place part of my sayin she didnt and the other sayin she did then the next week at football one of the older blokes come out with '' god she going through them whole team int she, she was out here with antha fella the other week'' witch is why i fink she has cheated at least once but im not sure and i dont reli wa na talk to her bout it cos she gets in a stress and walks out (maybe thats another sign but i duno hope not ) Can anybody help me Please...... thankyou Link to post Share on other sites
Hkizzle Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 You can't be sure she's cheating based on the information you've given. But the thing is it seems she's flirting with the guys around you which is not a good sign. Also she joked about cheating on you..........why would she do that for a laugh? Sometimes people say something, see the reaction in the other person and then say it's just a joke. Anyway, you don't seem to be happy which is not a good thing. Link to post Share on other sites
love_darlings Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 That's a foul! However, if you can't see her sincerity anymore in your relationship you better find another girl who deserve your love. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 Its not supposed to be that way. You probably have instincts telling you to run, and she shouldnt be joking about that, thats kinda foul. Get away from her. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 27, 2009 Share Posted July 27, 2009 There was this time at my m8s house we were in his bedroom and i went to the toilet and its sounded like they were kissing (more detailed she was laughing then the laughing stopped it sounded like kissing then she started laughing again) at the time i was thinking no she cant of can she? i confronted my m8 a couple of weeks later but he said nothing happend she was just pointing on her cheek tellin him to kiss her on the cheek and just why does she just need to tell him to kiss her on the cheek? ya, she cheated, and your so-called friend betrayed you. Even if they didn't....your gf wanted him to kiss her. ya, he said on the cheek...even so....why? whats the point? he said on the cheek to make it look like it wasn't a big deal...him thinking you are stupid. but when i asked her she sed that nothing at all happend and when i told her what my mate said she got stressy with me and said fine belive your mate then :S yup, there you go...there is your answer...defensiveness. and then the second thing is we was at mine one day and she told me that see cheated on me with one of my mates at football sayin that he come on to her and that it was only a kiss but then she starts sayin that she was joking and it wernt true witch really messed with my head i was up for a couple nights crying cos i was all over the place part of my sayin she didnt and the other sayin she did then the next week at football one of the older blokes come out with '' god she going through them whole team int she, she was out here with antha fella the other week'' witch is why i fink she has cheated at least once but im not sure and i dont reli wa na talk to her bout it cos she gets in a stress and walks out (maybe thats another sign but i duno hope not ) Can anybody help me Please...... thankyou there you go...as feeble as her little, stupid story is, she admitted to cheating. get rid of the little tart Link to post Share on other sites
jnj express Posted July 27, 2009 Share Posted July 27, 2009 way toooo much flirting and fooling around for someone in a committed relationship----put a stop to it, draw a line in the sand, tell her the flirting stops, or she can leave and don't let the door hit her on her butt on her way out----be strong about this Link to post Share on other sites
samspade Posted July 27, 2009 Share Posted July 27, 2009 Cheating or not, she doesn't sound worthy. Dump her. Link to post Share on other sites
imonyourside Posted July 27, 2009 Share Posted July 27, 2009 Hmm.. no real reason to post any more replies because everyone seemed to have sum it up. If you are happy in the relationship, it is worth fighting for. You said you were happy in the beginning but as you go on, it seems like you are unhappy. Not sleeping? Crying? This girl obviously doesn't realize what she is doing to you otherwise she would stop her flirtatious behavior. It is much easier said than done my friend, but you have to let this girl go. Sleeping with the whole football team? You don't want that kind of person as a girlfriend - that is the kind of girl guys sleep with, nothing more nothing less. I cannot tell for sure if she is cheating, but I can be pretty positive she will cheat on you in the future if she hasn't already. All she needs is one time to slip up, one more flirt with the wrong guy who will act on her flirting. I wish you the best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
missdependant Posted July 27, 2009 Share Posted July 27, 2009 She has a bad reputation from what it sounds like.. and people don't have bad reputations for no reason a lot of the time. She doesn't sound like she cares much about your feelings, which is VERY important in a relationship. And she is sabotaging your relationship. You sound a little bit paranoid, but she is definitely provoking it. I recommend having a long and serious talk about her attitude. Personally, I see nothing wrong with flirting.. by that I don't mean getting kisses from your teammates or roommate. There is something very suspect about her indeed. After your talk, if she can't grow up and start treating you and your relationship with respect or suddenly admits to being a cheating skank, you should leave her! Then after you're over her, you can find someone who deserves what you have to offer. Link to post Share on other sites
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