donnamaybe Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 I think you're right. I mean after this trip (if it's true) she can bitch and whine and he'll say "Look, I just took us on a trip to Hawaii for a week. What more do you want? Are you ever happy?" So he can guilt her into remaining in the background and leaving him alone. And, apparently, it will work like a charm. Link to post Share on other sites
jj33 Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 No contact have a lovely time. Its nice he is able to get away with you and the children but in the long run?? its a big so what.... its a lovely week for you and the children a break from the day to day, time together - its a vacation. It doesnt change his marital status. It doesnt change the fact that he says he is happily married and it doesnt mean hes leaving. But you dont seem to mind. Id say good for you if you are able to go with the flow, but based on your other threads, and this one when it started, you arent. So what are you going to do about your future... Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 And, apparently, it will work like a charm. Apparently so. Look, the fact of the matter is she can be bought with a house so why not with a trip? Link to post Share on other sites
PhoenixRise Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 I think you're right. I mean after this trip (if it's true) she can bitch and whine and he'll say "Look, I just took us on a trip to Hawaii for a week. What more do you want? Are you ever happy?" So he can guilt her into remaining in the background and leaving him alone. I think he wants her to quit calling his wife so that his homelife can stay nice and peaceful. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 I think he wants her to quit calling his wife so that his homelife can stay nice and peaceful. I thought she stopped calling the wife but had contact with his kids? Not sure. But yeah, this is probably all about appeasing her so he can go back to business as usual. If she thinks he's "changing" uhm...highly, highly doubtful. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 He's just doing what is necessary to keep her in her place. He'll do the same to her kids as well as they get older. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted July 30, 2009 Share Posted July 30, 2009 He's just doing what is necessary to keep her in her place. He'll do the same to her kids as well as they get older. Agreed. Apparently buying people is what he does best. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nocontact2 Posted July 31, 2009 Author Share Posted July 31, 2009 a last post before I have to finish packing...leaving tomorrow...gotta lots to do before go... its not unusual for him to request things at the last minute...he never knows what his schedule is so when he has time, i rearrange whatever is going on to accomodate that especially when in comes to our family vacations. Whatever time he has with the children to spend I will accomodate. Besides, isnt all relationships about compromise????? Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 Who can just up sticks and go on a weeks holiday with 24hrs notice? I definitely can't and I don't even have kids yet. Do you not have a job NC2? Does your MM? I know its possibly school holidays in the US, but even so........ smelling more and more fishy. And, if it is true, I agree that its probably a tactic to get you off his back for a little longer. Link to post Share on other sites
jj33 Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 Do I smell jealousy? Would we like to be going to Hawaii? Who cares. Hawaii or Houston. Its all the same... hes still married shes still raising his illegitimate children. She just gets to do it from a better location for a week or two. Different city different hot tub.... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 Aren't you like almost 7 or 8 months pregnant? I thought women that far along weren't allowed to fly.. Link to post Share on other sites
jj33 Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 Ok, sorry for calling you deluded. But still.... a week away hardly makes up for anything does it? So no, I am not jealous in the slightest! I was being sarcastic. The trip is meaningless.. Link to post Share on other sites
whimsical_memory Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 Aren't you like almost 7 or 8 months pregnant? I thought women that far along weren't allowed to fly.. After six months, I was told with all three of my children that I was not allowed to fly anywhere, and to even think twice about driving long distances. Checked with a friend, they were told the same thing. Now that I read the other post, someone mentioned a Bella something or other and now the OP is suddenly leaving town. I smell fish Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 Yes, I think so too. Link to post Share on other sites
ali0112 Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 It just has to be bogus. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 a last post before I have to finish packing...leaving tomorrow...gotta lots to do before go... its not unusual for him to request things at the last minute...he never knows what his schedule is so when he has time, i rearrange whatever is going on to accomodate that especially when in comes to our family vacations. Whatever time he has with the children to spend I will accomodate. Besides, isnt all relationships about compromise????? Uhm, yeah but you're not compromising here. What you're doing is in a whole other category. You are at this man's beck and call. He's bought you, lock stock and barrel. He owns you. I think it's so sad that you keep calling this a "family vacation." Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 when he is not traveling for work he stays in our home at times...has his things here...etc. thats what i mean by our home together... How many OW could this MM have? He travels, right? ... Link to post Share on other sites
whimsical_memory Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 There's a thought, imagine more than one family being torn apart by this mess. Lets hope that if he does he either keeps his winkle in his pants or at least wears a condom. If he doesn't, man..imagine the possibilities of diseases being spread? Scary! Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 Sounds like as many as he could afford. What a mess. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 Put me firmly in the column of posters that thinks this story is starting to unravel. Airlines do not allow pregnant women in their third trimester to fly spur of the moment. They must have time to get a doctor's note and nocontact2 has made no mention of going to the doctor last minute to get cleared. Now, I still don't think this story is on the up and up, but it reminds me of that story with the famous pilot (?) had several families and the kids are just now getting to know each other (well, ten to fifteen years ago they started learning of each other) because they didn't really even know their dad's name until they saw him on some media somewhere. I don't remember the story exactly so someone else might have a better recollection than me, but this is what this is starting to sound like. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 It gets better and better... Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 I predict there will be some lurking and reading of this thread, but no response - for awhile. Then there will be wireless internet found in some cafe "in Hawaii" where there will be time to post a couple responses. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 I predict there will be some lurking and reading of this thread, but no response - for awhile. Then there will be wireless internet found in some cafe "in Hawaii" where there will be time to post a couple responses. I want to go post from a wireless cafe in Hawaii. All in all, this situation has been played out over and over throughout time. Man has wife and children; man has mistress [possibly plural] and children. Not the healthiest environ for children, and quite a bit of stigma attached to it. But if the OP is content, the wife is content and the children are taken care of financially [not to say it is a healthy environment] why not just settle in and stop attempting to cause issues in the 'First' family? Personally, I would tie up any legal loops to assure the children are taken care of in full as this man has certain interests to protect that he holds above them. Link to post Share on other sites
whimsical_memory Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 I predict there will be some lurking and reading of this thread, but no response - for awhile. Then there will be wireless internet found in some cafe "in Hawaii" where there will be time to post a couple responses. Psssshhhhhhh.....lol there is now internet connections offered in hotel rooms :bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted July 31, 2009 Share Posted July 31, 2009 I want to go post from a wireless cafe in Hawaii. Me too!!! All in all, this situation has been played out over and over throughout time. Man has wife and children; man has mistress [possibly plural] and children. Not the healthiest environ for children, and quite a bit of stigma attached to it. But if the OP is content, the wife is content and the children are taken care of financially [not to say it is a healthy environment] why not just settle in and stop attempting to cause issues in the 'First' family? Personally, I would tie up any legal loops to assure the children are taken care of in full as this man has certain interests to protect that he holds above them. It is a pretty common scenario, which is why so many authors keep trying to weave it into their novels. They post this kind of stuff on forums to test the "believability". I don't think there is much the OP can do legally other than get child support and possibly a life insurance policy on the MM. College in the US is still a privilege and not a right. And her children certainly don't have the right to the same things as his from his marriage, no matter what anyone thinks about its rightness or wrongness. These children exist to take away from the legitimate family not add to it. The OP stands to lose a great deal, though, if she makes any of this into a legal issue. The W might not sue for alienation of affection if available in her state, but she can certainly have the OP kicked out of her home (purchased with the W's funds via her H) and make her pay her back for all of the money that her H ever spent on her. This is a dangerous game the OP is playing with her children's well-being. I can't imagine why people still do this in this day and age. Link to post Share on other sites
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