Author Lying eyes Posted October 15, 2009 Author Share Posted October 15, 2009 Dude, when will you stop being a doormat for her? Do you think that it was just coincidence that she wanted to get back together just at the same time her lease was up? She uses you and you keep going back for more. For Christ's sake, man-up!! She cheated, assaulted you, slandered you, and has dumped you twice!! Don't you think that it is about time you wised up? Do you want your kids to group up believing that their Dad is a wimp? And what about all of the progress you made in yourself, while she was gone, are you going to throw all of that in the crapper? Nobody can help you stand, until you develope a back-bone, to stand with. Damn Boldjack, that's some cold ****, and yet I think my best friend would say the same thing. I don't want my kids growing up thinking I'm a wimp, but when they are older I do want them to know I did everything I did to save our marriage. I have definately lost progress on my mental wellness. Someone around here warned me that being left for the 2nd time could ruin you. I don't feel ruined or like its as bad as the first because I reserved some portion of my heart knowing this could happen, but I am sad, depressed, and angry about it. Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 Sorry she got your hopes up. My oldest is 3yrs old. he is just starting to accept mommy & daddy don't live together & he will never get to spend time with both parents together again. QUOTE] Phineas, if you guys can at least figure out a way to temporarily get along with each other the kids can spend time with both parents again. You can set aside a family day once a week or whatever works for you. That is what we have been doing the last couple of weeks. We just don't talk about anything we know we'll argue about. I think this will ease the transition for the kids and make them feel like they still have unified family. Last week we did the pumpkin patch. Trust me, if it weren't for them I would never want to see her again, but I have to be a bigger man and move past that. It's not about us not getting along. We do the parenting thing jointly & discuss things about the kids without issue. It's more about her trying to use me & using the children as leverage to get what she wants. she is a manipulator with no concience. When we were together she would leave the house after an argument about her "friend" & she would come back hrs later & tell me how she spent the day alone crying by the water & the passerby's asking her if she was ok. blah,blah,blah. I learned she was actually getting busy with her boyfriend. Then she'd initiate make-up sex with me. She's made sexual advances towards me over the last week. (The OM is still sleeping over at her apartment!!) No Way. I honestly believe if I did have sex with her she'd try to accuse me of rapeing her. I am not exagerating here. No, it's best I have as little contact with her as humanly possible. I fear loosing my house or looseing my children. Link to post Share on other sites
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