norajane Posted August 1, 2009 Share Posted August 1, 2009 WOAH, that's so forward! I think my heart would be seriously pounding out of my chest to do something like that. I'm so shy!!! But I like your idea of getting her number or email and ask if she would like to do something. That's a little less scary I guess. You said she invites you over all the time. So why would you be afraid to suggest going for coffee or shopping? Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted August 1, 2009 Share Posted August 1, 2009 LB Touche's right. Sometimes you just have to push yourself to do something that feels uncomfortable but the results are worth it. At the end of the day, most of us would say we find it hard at times talking to someone we have just met - we can all be shy or lack confidence from time to time. If you try and chat to this girl again and suggest meeting up, she could well be relieved that you plucked up the courage to do so when she couldn't Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted August 1, 2009 Author Share Posted August 1, 2009 You said she invites you over all the time. So why would you be afraid to suggest going for coffee or shopping? Well she invites my fiance and I over all the time. He doesn't even know her that he said. I did tell him my idea and she said that it may be ackward because he doesn't really even know her. He did suggest for us to go out with his friends and their wives/gfs so maybe that would be easier for me to get to know them. Also there is a free sports league in our city that I could join to make some friends. Since I love to work out and am very athletic then we would have something in common. It's not really that it bothers me that I'm an introvert, I guess it's just hard to be one right now because I don't have any friends. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted August 1, 2009 Share Posted August 1, 2009 You don't need your bf's permission to ask her out for coffee! So what if he doesn't know her well? He doesn't have to know her well for you to invite her shopping. The only way you get to know someone is to spend time with them, and the only way you can befriend them is to make an effort. And she probably invites both of you out, because she's never seen you without him. Maybe she thinks you don't do anything without him. You're never going to make friends if you don't try. He did suggest for us to go out with his friends and their wives/gfs so maybe that would be easier for me to get to know them.He's been suggesting this for a long time. Why hasn't he done it? You two have been living together for a year now, right? Better yet, why don't YOU invite all of them over to your place for a small party? And invite that girl from work, too. Link to post Share on other sites
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