sunrae Posted July 28, 2009 Share Posted July 28, 2009 Hey Everyone, I have been friends with a guy for 18 years now. When we first met we dated briefly and things just faded out. We have remained friends and in contact off and on over the years. Lately we have started spending time together again, about 2 months ago. We would just hang out and watch TV and go to dinner ect. But now things have progressed to be a lot more intimate with the exception of kissing. I'm not sure how to approach this or what to think. Am I just a friend with benefits? He's pretty out going, so I wouldnt say he's shy. Thanks for your thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
berry_oh Posted July 29, 2009 Share Posted July 29, 2009 can u give us more some more info? like how is it more intimate exactly? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunrae Posted July 29, 2009 Author Share Posted July 29, 2009 After some seductive touching, he will kiss my neck, back, just about everywhere else but my lips. This time around. The last few times over the years, we have always kissed, but things have kind of desolved and we never took it real far. I guess I'm just wondering if I'm a friend with benefits? Of course I they shy one so I don't won't make that move to kiss him. I would like it to evolve into something more than just friends. I'm just lkind of stuck and not sure what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
shunter Posted July 29, 2009 Share Posted July 29, 2009 After some seductive touching, he will kiss my neck, back, just about everywhere else but my lips. ... Of course I they shy one so I don't won't make that move to kiss him. Friends with benefits: generally there is no kissing or if there is kissing of neck/back then you are ok with kissing on lips. So I cant tell you if it is just friends or if it will evolve. but lets deal with the kiss... So I suggest you get over your shyness and next time he is kissing your neck, you tell him "oh i like that, keep doing it, plleease dont stop" and then after a half minute gently put your lips on his for a light kiss. no french kiss, but at least we get some progress. sounds like you two are shy and very slow. maybe you will have sex by 2013, but at least i am going to get you a friggin kiss by next monday Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted July 29, 2009 Share Posted July 29, 2009 if that's what you want - then tell him. usually men are more than happy to keep a gal satisfied, granted if she tells him how to do that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunrae Posted July 29, 2009 Author Share Posted July 29, 2009 Oh, There has been sex, great sex actually, the only thing for me that is missing is the kissing.. We go out enjoy each others company, have great conversations. Make plans to see each other again when we are together. Sigh, I guess I'm just going to have to either make up my mind to say something or just do it myself and see what happens. I am really starting to fall for him again, and dont want to put myself out there if the feelings aren't mutual. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 Sex, and he won't kiss you? Booty call. Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome84 Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 Sex, and he won't kiss you? Booty call. I'd have to agree with this. If a guy won't kiss you, he isn't smittin... simple as that. It's just sex. IME... usually when a guy really likes you, he will kiss you... On The Lips! Kissing shows how much a person really likes you. And none at all may be not at all. Link to post Share on other sites
dunstable Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 How weird. Sex but no kissing. Most people kiss even in casual sex. Maybe he can only kiss when deeply emotionally involved and he's sending you a message? Or is it a quirk that he hates kissing -- if you like it and he doesn't, you aren't going to be compatible. Link to post Share on other sites
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