Touche Posted July 29, 2009 Share Posted July 29, 2009 from a mans POV? nothing really You mean from ONE man's POV, not really. You're not speaking for ALL men are you? Link to post Share on other sites
frustrated&sad Posted July 29, 2009 Share Posted July 29, 2009 from a mans POV? nothing really Why not a woman's POV? No offense alphamale, but I'm actually rather curious about this idea. I've noticed in many other threads that a frequent number of men refer to marriage as a contract or seem to think that all men believe it is a contract. Can the same not be said of women? Or do most people here truly believe that the male/female genders are so divided? Or biologically encoded? Perhaps society or certain social circles are making us believe it is simply a contract or vice-a-versa the ultimate statement of love. As someone recently burned by a rather horrifying experience (fiance left me high and dry), I can say that, at the moment, marriage is not lookin' particularly great. In fact, I never wanted marriage until I met my ex-fiance. I, too, thought it seemed archaic, binding, stifling, limiting, or simply not for me. That said, when I fell in love with my ex, I had this desire to get married for once. It just felt right. I woke up one day and every fiber of my being just radiated with this feeling. I wanted to be his wife, to declare that before my friends and family, to share that one intimate moment where I say "I do." Is that an advantage to getting married? This one short experience? At the time, I thought so. And while I am currently down on love (sorry), I hope that I get that desire back. It was a beautiful, magical feeling to know in your heart that you wanted to be bound to someone because you love them. I should note that I am not religious at all, so it had nothing to do with tradition, etc. So the advantages? Going through a rite of passage type moment with someone, changing your life forever, and making a life-long committment. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 29, 2009 Share Posted July 29, 2009 Looking at marriage, from a completely pragmatic perspective, there are no advantages for me, for marriage. For that matter, there are no advantages to having and raising children...bar none. So, why do people get married and/or raise children? The answer is, that both are emotional decisions. If people don't feel the emotions or don't consider them worthwhile, after weighing the emotional v. the pragmatic, they shouldn't get married and for certain, shouldn't have children. Of course you have the male/female gold diggers but in comparison to the norm, they're few and far between. Link to post Share on other sites
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