I think my ex boyfriend still has feelings for me...not sure though

[Air Head]

Ok, this time I'm really confused!

 

I broke up with my ex about 6 weeks ago. Well, he broke up with me, because he didn't feel "in love" with me any more and wanted some space to go out with his friends. I'm 16 and he's 17. We stayed friends though, although I really miss him.

 

Saturday night, he texted me asking if i wanted to see a lunar eclipse with him, and i went. I was quite surprised that he wanted to see me, because we broke up because he wanted to go out with his friends at the weekends. He picked me up and we went to his friend's house to watch it. After a while, my ex, his friend and I went for a drive in the nearby forest, and stopped in a car park. We were laying in the back of his car watching the eclipse, when he put his arm around me. I fell asleep on him, but I could feel him stroking my hand. Then I woke up and he started stroking my hair. When we were all under a blanket, sat up, watching the eclipse, he put his arm around me again, and kept smiling at me. After the eclipse he took me home, and when saying goodbye I hugged him, and he hugged me back, really tight.

 

I can't shake the feeling that he started missing me and feeling "in love" with me again (whatever that means!). What do you all think? And if he does want to give us another try, should I say yes?

 

Thanks in advance for any advice or suggestions!

[kumi]

Wow...he definately seems like he misses you.. Don't push it though. I would give anything for my exboyfriend to do that with me..*sigh*...I do know that you need to keep letting him come to you. Don't start calling him and messaging him and stuff, that'll scare him off again. I think this is kinda like catching a fish...you bait the line, put it in the water, then when the fish comes close, what do you do? Jump out, wave your arms, tell him how much you want him to get on your hook? No way, you just sit there quietly and still until he comes on by himself, then voila, you've got the fish. I think that's a lot like human dating...we can't just jump out at the people we want and tell them how much we want them to be with us...we need to just dangle bait in front of their face and wait for them to hook themselves, make sure we look like we don't WANT them...just make it look like.. "hey I'm sexy, I can get any guy I want, and if you happen to hook yourself, fine, if you don't, hey it's all good in the hood"...you know? I'm slowly learning that in order to keep relationships going at our young ages we HAVE to play these stupid playing-hard-to-get games...how ridiculous...my boyfriend just left me the other night. I just realized, I've been so clingy, I begged him to stay with me for 3hrs...how pathetic am I? So, I'm gonna experiment a bit. I'm gonna just avoid him, when he finally calls, I'll be busy..with another guy. *wink* He has no other girls in his life, so that should make him realize that "hey, she is not gonna be waiting around by the phone 24/7 just for you! she has to have a life too!" -- besides...there are times where I seriously don't want to be with a guy, and I avoid him and even tell him I don't want him, and he'll start telling me how much he wants to be with me and stuff...so I'm guessing that this game must really work. Anyway, you are SO lucky....I envy you so so much....I hope that you get him back. Take Care.

[Air Head]

Thanks so much Kumi!

 

These games are ridiculous, aren't they?! Hopefully things will get better once we're older...!

 

You've helped me realise that I shouldn't start texting him again. Before the eclipse I had seen him a couple of times with groups of our friends, but I hadn't texted him unless he had texted me. And I now have some sort of proof that it works! So I'll keep it up!

 

You have such a good attitude towards your break up. When my ex dumped me, I begged him too, but I was really upset for a few weeks and couldn't see the positive, but you seem to have found good in the situation already! Good for you!

 

Keep me updated on your situation! Good Luck with everything, thanks again!