JumpinJimmy Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 Thanks Misty for the prompt. I would have never seen this thread. I found LS after I was sent a facebook friend request from an old flame from 15 yrs ago. You see, she was the MW and I was a single OM. We carried on for 2yrs until we burned her marriage to the ground. We have had NC since then. Fast forward 15 yrs, I have been married for 12yrs with 3 children and happy for 91.6% of them (year 3 sucked for no other reason than fighting).I love my wife dearly and we have a solid relationship, but I feel that she and I are putting each other to sleep, and I am here to find my muse to water the garden before either one of us takes up an old flame like the one above. So far I have ignored the request as I know it would be easy to start where we left off. By reading all of the slow motion train crashes going on here, I am sure it will serve as a deterrent. Link to post Share on other sites
Samantha0905 Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 I ended up here just googling about ending an affair and rebuilding my marriage. Lots of useful information, plus it's a nice way to find out I'm not the only person who's ever made the mistake and surely won't be the last. It's interesting to read everyone's perspectives. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 Dexter, the original post pleaded with people to only introduce themselves and not threadjack as you have continually done here. Secondly, there's not point in baiting Owl, he's flown the coop. Maybe you could PM people instead of TJ-ing the hell out of this thread? ya, I realized I thread jacked...my apologies to the OP. but it isn't your place to tell me anything, as you, as well as almost anyone here, have threadjacked as well at some time in the forum. Link to post Share on other sites
scatterd Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 I was having a problem with my marriage and came here for answers everyone was nice and helped me.Now I enjoy reading I dont feel alone It gives me insight on both sides. Link to post Share on other sites
Meranna Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 I was a BS to a mentally abusive serial cheater, gained the strength to leave my marriage after meeting MM. I've dated the MM for 8 years and we are now in NC that I initiated after he told his wife he wanted a divorce and she urged him to try counseling first. I've mostly lurked here over the years but do post from time to time. Link to post Share on other sites
MaureyL Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 I'm here because in 2008 I met and fell madly passionately in love with someone who worked at my school. He was sixteen years younger than me and in a long term, live in relationship with his girlfriend. I was very unhappily married at the time but I moved out of my flat that I shared with my husband and embarked on an affair that lasted six months or so. He then left to train as a teacher in New Caledonia (tiny French tropical island near New Zealand) and we stayed in touch for another six months. He finally texted me to tell me that his feelings had changed and my life smashed into a million tiny pieces. I haven't been in touch with him since he last called me at the end of this July (almost four months). I feel much much better than I did but finding this forum has been hugely comforting and supportive. I especially like the idea that NC is a loving, supportive thing to do, for his sake as well as mine. I have no doubt that I will always love him heart, body and soul but we are now travelling on different paths and having NC is the best thing for both of us, of that I am certain. I did leave the relationship with my husband permanently and have gone on to a much more satisfying life. I am really sorry for the tremendous pain that I caused everyone involved but I don't regret any of it for one second. My relationship with him meant the world to me. Link to post Share on other sites
wheelwright Posted October 21, 2009 Share Posted October 21, 2009 I am a MW who had an A with a MM. We both almost split up with BSs after a nine month long intense relationship. His W wanted to do MC and try again, and I guess so did he. Then DDay for both parties. Now NC for 4 months. He keeps to it, don't know if I could if he tried to break. I spent ages just unable to believe we would not be together. LS has helped me see that not only is this possible, it is almost certain. Still don't know if I should break up with H, who has behaved marvellously and still loves me (poor, beautiful him). It feels safe here, and I have kids. The A was very painful for all. I found living in deceit unbearable and spent most of the time in separate rooms from H as could not sleep with 2 men and couldn't get MM out of my head at all. At least with NC there is a chance my M can work out. That I can appreciate what I have, even though the love of my life was MM. (Sounds pathetic!) Link to post Share on other sites
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