revo Posted July 29, 2009 Share Posted July 29, 2009 I am kind of in a confused state right now. I’m 16, and i met this girl. We started talking everyday through texting and calling eachother, we went to the movies and mall togethor. I thought everything was going great. Until today, we were suppose to go to her house to hang out. She texted me saying she would rather just be friends, even though i have not asked her out yet. I am taking this a bad way you can say. I have no idea what i did wrong, and what made her to change her opinion of me so quickly, like i said i thought things were going great. My friends think she is scared of the relationship because she is unsure about a relationshipbut i want your opinion. I just can’t get the topic off my head, i keep thinking about it. I really liked her and thought to far ahead into the future i guess. I have yet to talk to her since the other day when she told me. I thought i would give her some space, but i just really want things to get back to what they were. Do you have any idea on what possibly could have gone wrong, and maybe some tips on how to stop thinking about her? I am currently unable to fall asleep easily with all these thoughts, and i just cannot get my mind off her. Thank you so much everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
berry_oh Posted July 29, 2009 Share Posted July 29, 2009 What's probably going to happen is that she'll find someone new and she'll go out with him and you're going to feel even more crushed. It's best for you to prepare yourself for that. What I think is going on is despite you two getting really close, she doesn't feel she wants to be anything more than that. If you were trying to be subtle with her, you probably slipped up and showed too much of how you feel about her, that's why she told you she just wanted to stay friends. You say you want things to return to normal, but if that happens, are you still going to like her? Do you really want things to remain the same with you still crazy for her? So what is it that you really want? Do you want to move on from her, or do you still want to go out with her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author revo Posted July 29, 2009 Author Share Posted July 29, 2009 i want to go out with her. Link to post Share on other sites
ilikegirls Posted August 1, 2009 Share Posted August 1, 2009 im sorry as of right now she probably doesnt see you that way maybe in the future things will change..but not likely you should talk to her about it but be prepared for heartbreak Link to post Share on other sites
WTRanger Posted August 1, 2009 Share Posted August 1, 2009 First off, you did nothing wrong. Understand that. Believe that. Just because she doesn't see you that way means you did something wrong. So stop thinking it's something you did. There could be someone else in the mix. But at the same time, you are only 16. You're youngins, you have zero clue what you want in life. The only way is for you to stand up for what you believe in and talk to her. If she doesn't see you that way, you have to give up on her. Don't settle for friends in hopes she comes around. Learn this lesson early on in life, it'll save you so much deeper heartbreak in your future. I wish I could have kicked my own ass when I was 16 into not wanting to settle for "friends" as it would have saved me a lot of pain in the next decade or so. Lay it out on the line, but be prepared to be heartbroken. It's better now than to stick around with these lopsided feelings and hear her talk about which guy she's dating. If she sees you as just a "friend" ask her to hook you up with one of her other friends. That'll get a rise out of her. In my opinion and experiences, I don't see this ending well. But learn from this. Did you ever try to kiss her when the two of you went out? At some point early on, you need to establish you are not in it for friends. Link to post Share on other sites
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